Thriving

Black Women and Benefits, We Don’t Get None,...

Question:  How do you know when you are happy?  Think about it for a minute. Do you smile more? Do you hum a tune?   However and whenever you f...
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Life Is Tough. Stop Telling Folks Not to Use Their...

  Speaking of privilege… An interesting article caused a wave of indignation on The Root and Ebony this week when writer Asha French wrote an o...
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Introducing “Fables for Thrivers”: The...

The Caged Bird and the Free Bird Once upon a time, there was a caged bird who would get weekly visits from a free bird. The free bird would fly far an...
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Should White Men Be Telling Black Women’s St...

The majority the dudes writing stories about black women were probably raised by single moms and think we’re not supposed to have a feminine bon...
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Black Woman Stages of Grief: The Acceptance Stage

This post is the long overdue conclusion to my series on the “Black Woman Stages of Grief”. You can see Part I and Part II here. I think t...
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Wear it Well Wednesday: The Color Red

I’ve got no time for fraidy cats so those of you who wish to continue reading in the comforts of your own routine and bored life may do so. The...
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Of Gold-Diggers, Womb-Guardians, And Why Black Wom...

If you never in your life want to hear a black woman either go off about why “she don’t need a man” or why it’s perfectly reas...
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Pimps Up! Hoes Down…. Breaking Down The Tric...

A mind can be a terrible thing to waste and I’m aware that not everybody’s mind is built for social combat. I’m fortunate to have had a ...
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“You Must Hate Them All!” ActuallyR...

I have a confession: Unless someone has done something absolutely terrible or is consistent in their questionable behavior, I have a tendency to forge...
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Just Move On: Why Validation-Seeking In Black Wome...

I’ve become aware of recent kerfuffles where someone said/did something that could be construed as giving a negative impression of black women (...
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This Letter Right Here…

…Is why I do what I do, and endure what I endure. I don’t know how this little angel knew I needed this, but boy, did she make my week. DE...
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A Lesson In Bold Black Womanhood: No Explanations ...

I’ve talked in the past about being a bold black woman. One of the areas where black women often find themselves attacked is in their ability to...
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Swirling and Music – Lillie McCloud

   Lillie McCloud Just who is the beautiful bombshell that got Simon Cowell on his feet in praise?  Why it’s new diva on the scene Lillie...
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Lormarie on the ‘Muzzling’ of Black Wo...

I’ve been on a number of different forums where an interracially married black woman speaks of the hostility she faces from blacks, men in parti...
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