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Ready to Flee to Freedom? Tips to Get You on Your Way……

How many people are unhappy with their lives but do virtually nothing to fix them? Unfortunately, far too many. There are deeply ingrained bad habits, poor self-image, self-sabotage, lack of discipline and a host of other issues to grapple with. The pain of change may seem too great at times. But, at some point, you […]

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: From Hair to There…

I’m tangled,       like the curls of my love’s hair,       like a snake encharmed,     I turn and twist.         What is this knot,       this dizzy maze, this snare?     All I know:       if I’m not tangled here, I […]

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QOTW: “How Do I Tell My Girlfriend I Love Her Natural…

This note made me go “AWWWW!!!” Dear Ms. Karazin, I am writing to you as a young “white” boy of 18 years (though I only acknowledge the existence of one race– the human race). I have been enjoying my first ever relationship, though it is sort of unofficial. My companion is a black girl of the […]

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“Help! My Mother is a Mammy, and Resents My Desire for a Nicer…

Hey Christelyn!First, I want to say thank you for showing me the light. Your site led me to discover BWE groups all over and has exposed me to the world I was ignoring. Your site also showed me that I was normal. I’ve always liked non black men and I always was made to feel […]

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New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the…

Moguldum Studios just released a documentary lending a hard look at the astronomical 72% out-of-wedlock rate in the black community. And I’m LOVING that media has become more vocal on the crisis, because it is a crisis. Because this is of particular importance to me and my work, I’ll be buying this video. However, I’ll […]

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Man Candy Monday: Big Bald Head and Those With Coiffed Beards…

I love to run my fingers through a man’s hair, however, sometimes that’s not necessary. Men with bald heads leave nothing to the imagination. Emotion, expression and vulnerability are his display of power. I’ve no quarrel with a man who spends his well earned money at the barber each and every week. Whether you love […]

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Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women.…

Someone on my You Tube channel sent this video to me, and upon looking at the title, I thought it was just another cuss-filled, vitriolic video about how black women were the root to all ills in the black community. But what struck me was that the two gentlemen in the video look like “nice” […]

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Latest News of NYPD Brutality PROVES You Can’t Be…

I think I might have been a lone voice in the wilderness in my blog space when I reported and expressed my outrage over the tragic and unnecessary death of Eric Garner, 43, who who was killed by the NYPD as the result of a chokehold. The medical examiners ruled it a homicide. While other […]

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OMG…Let These Folks Be! In Their Ninety’s, Interracial…

This has got to be the sweetest thing in the whole world, and even more endearing that this couple–a white man and a black woman–live in the state of Virginia, Ground Zero for the legalization of interracial marriage in the United States. What’s even more compelling, this couple was alive during that time, and might […]

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Eric Garner: He Was Murdered. Definitively.…

It looks like Eric Garner, the victim of homocide via the Staten Island police, might get some justice. According to the New York Daily News, “The Staten Island man who collapsed after being placed in the banned restraint by a police officer died from compression of the neck and chest, the New York City Medical […]

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New Interracial Relationship Fiction: “Smoke and Mirrors”…

“SEX, BETRAYAL, SURVIVAL & REDEMPTION…..Smoke and Mirrors” is the latest release by literary Interracial and Multicultural Bestselling Author, Tiana Laveen.

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Cool Tools To Help You Get Your Yoga On…

I know everyone has a preference, but I personally believe that yoga is the single most amazing, body changing, stress reducing, and weight loss practice you can do. It literally will change your outlook on life, plus give you killer legs and a bum you can bounce a penny off of. I like that yoga […]

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TBT: KISS the Devil, Shame Your Parents…

I’m nearly still scared to admit how much the sheer sight of these men turned me on. I’d never seen anything like it, and haven’t yet seen similar since then. But I remember the day like it was yesterday. The news, the media, those respectable people that we all looked towards for guidance had been […]

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New Anti-Swirling Meme: “How Can You Oppose Racism And Be…

I’ve been seeing the following bit of stupid making its way around the web at an increased clip. The people who are desperate to guilt-trip black women (and make no mistake, this is almost always brought out to shame black women EXCLUSIVELY…) out of exercising their dating and marriage options will often pull this argument […]

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Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed with Tears.…

You won’t want to miss this. One of the most touching letters I’ve ever received. Ladies, don’t let anyone tell you that non-black men are not checking for you, won’t love you, cherish you, or try to understand you. Reading this letter will change anyone’s mind on that. Dear Christelyn,    You don’t know me […]

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Looking back on it…

She Walks in Beauty She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And all that’s best of dark and bright Meet in her aspect and her eyes:   Thus mellowed to that tender light Which heaven to gaudy day denies.   One shade the more, one ray the less, Had […]

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Guest Writer: A Black Girl’s Guide to Studying Abroad in…

Meet Tiana (left) and Angel (right)–two brown girls who met while studying abroad in Chile! ☺   Valparaíso, Chile, with its art-splashed buildings, sloped hills, and turn of the century –styled funiculars, is often called the “San Francisco of South America.” I had the pleasure of studying abroad there from February 2012 to July 2012, […]

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Where Did 64,000 Black Women and Girls Go?…

A person doesn’t just disappear into thin air but you would think they do when you learn that 64,000 Black women and girls are currently missing in the United States. With nearly every cell phone having GPS, digital cameras and satellites everywhere, our digital footprint is being recorded as we speak and as we type […]

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#NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.…

It’s very rare that I get questions that stir my emotions, frustrate me, and make me deeply sad. I just received such a letter from a very young woman, and while I’m not sure if this entry will make a difference in her situation, I hope that perhaps others will take this as a cautionary […]

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Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men…

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes, thick hair and skin that turns bronze in the sun. Indeed, the mystery and enticement of Indian men can’t be denied.   Of course […]