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And This is Why We Still Talk About Black Men On Beyond Black &…

People often wonder why this site sometimes discusses the relationships black men have with black women. The criticism is often, “If you’ve moved on with your white boy, why you still talking about black men?” I’ll give you a definitive reason right now. If what some black men do negatively affects black women, whom I […]

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How Growing What I Eat is Getting Me the Body I Want…

I’ve noticed that as my garden grows and changes, my body shrinks. I’m spending a lot of time taking care of what I’m growing and eating it along the way. In fact, about 60-70% of daily food consumption is coming from the garden and a few things are happening. The fiber intake is helping to […]

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“Swirlr” Series Finale…Think It’s Going to…

There’s a bunch of twists and turns in this one. Take a look and let’s discus!

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Letting Matthew Hussey Take on ‘The Question of the Week’:…

I get a lot of letters from women who are asking my advice about a guy they’ve built up really large in their minds. It’s like these women are so focused on this ONE GUY that any and all potential suitors disappear. My friend Matthew Hussey has something to say about this. What you saw […]

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Pella’s Rebuttal: When Women are the Misogynist.…

By Pella I penned my last essay to start a discussion about the entitlement to women’s bodies, which (whoooo) it sure did create a discussion. One which I wasn’t able to actively participate in because unfortunately I have an early bedtime (don’t judge). There were some great comments and discussions going on however, a few […]

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New Music POSITIVE Hip Hop from Arrested Development…

Some of you know that I’m friends with Speech Thomas, head of the legendary and iconic Arrested Development. He was a strong supporter of our No Wedding No Womb campaign and even did a song and video.  They discovered me on Twitter when I was getting pummeled by “the black elite” for daring to say […]

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RIP Maya Angelou: A Phenomenal Woman Has Left the Building…

Famed poet, activist, and author Maya Angelou has died at the age of 86. We send her family, friends and the literary community our heartfelt condolences. So in order to remember this amazing woman, I’ll leave you with my favorite poem and something I use to remind Black women of the awesome that is us. […]

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Just in Time for Loving Day, Moguldum Studios Releases “The…

I have to admit I was SCURRED to tell you guys I was in a new documentary called, The Swirl, only because the parent company, Moguldum Studios, publishes both Madame Noire and Bossip. It turns out I worried for nothing. Here’s the summary: The Swirl tackles societal and cultural issues relating to interracial dating, asking […]

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Five Reasons to Grow Berries this Summer…

If you’ve never gotten a chance to taste a berry fresh off the vine still pulsing with life and full of flavor, I’d venture to say you’ve never really tasted one. Even when you can get them fresh from the farmer’s market or flash frozen from the supermarket, the sheer pleasure of plucking a ripe […]

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#YesAllWomen: Why Do People Feel So Entitled to Women’s Bodies?…

By Pella Another day, another mass killing in America. At least that’s what the headlines seem to say to me. It’s almost what is expected on a day to day basis. Every day I see another person against gun violence. But the latest shooting by Elliot Rodger has brought something else to the forefront. Not […]

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White Hot: Minimalistic Beauty Trend SS 2014…

As a former makeup artist extraordinaire, I always obsess over the new beauty trends each season, but to be honest, once I stop being an artist, I kinda stop wearing makeup.  Years of having to put on a coat of makeup before leaving the house to go to work has left me burnt out. Well, […]

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Could V. Stivano Be Another Yellow Rose Or Silly Rabbit?…

Perhaps much to NBA Clippers owner Donald Sterling’s dismay, V. Stiviano is not going anywhere any time soon.  The woman at the center of the fire storm caused by a leaked audio recording of uber wealthy Donald Sterling is not all that complicated.   In fact she doesn’t seem complicated at all.  She is a young woman […]

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Dr. Phillygirl Pens a Book to Help Get You To “Doctor”…

Beyond Black and White would like to throw some shine on one or our own, Phillgirl, who not only recently successfully challenged her PhD dissertation but has also published a book to help others do the same. Karlin Burks is a perpetual student and is fully committed to the idea of life-long learning. She has […]

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Man Candy Monday: You Nasty Boy, You Nasty………

They say, “Cleanliness is next to Godliness” but who wants to involve thoughts of the Pearly Gates at this leg of the race? Gym rats, athletes, and guys who aren’t afraid to get down and dirty are right up my alley. Soap and water has it’s place but when he’s doing man things, in a […]

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What’s the Message Here? He’ll Marry His Baby’s Mom…

Okay so we all know that Kanye West and Kim Kardashian FINALLY tied the knot this weekend in Florence, Italy. I for one am glad the whole fiasco is over. But… I’m sorry I just can’t help point this out. Kim had Kanye’s baby before they were married…no big deal these days, considering the out-of-wedlock […]

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NYC Flagship Loving Day Event on June 14! Primo Opportunity to Meets…

If you East Coast people haven’t get gone to the Loving Day flagship event in New York city, you absolutely do not know what you’re missing. Organized by Ken Tenabe and sponsored by InterracialDatingCentral.com, the celebration to commemorate the landmark decision (Lovings vs. State of Virginia) that set the catalyst for the legalization of interracial […]

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Yummy Paleo Brownies for Weekend Barbecue!…

When I decided to give paleo the old college try, I thought my beloved Kitchenaid mixer was doomed to go into early retirement. I’d made so many loaves of bread, not to mention all the delicious mashed potatoes I’d whipped. Boy, I had little faith in humanity’s ability to improvise, because there’s TONS of paleo […]

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In Defense of Funky Brown Chick’s “Tips for Picking Up…

I see there’s some outrage about a recent article Twanna Hines (aka Funky Brown Chick) wrote to advise non-black men on how to date black women. She gives solid common-sense advice (be yourself, don’t be a douche and say you’ve always wanted to lick dark chocolate, stuff like that). But some people are offended that […]

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Photo of the Day: It’s a Wonderful World.…

I’m one of the room mom’s for my son’s second grade class, and this grade has a patriotic performance around Memorial Day time.   I took this shot of him, The Babster and two of his buddies. And when I looked at these beautiful children, and thought about how none of them ever blinked an […]

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Message to the Men: Sometimes Nothing You Do Will Be Good Enough…

Oy vey….. What comes part and parcel of being a friend of mankind is being privy to information that other women aren’t. In addition to that, I’m often libel to offer an attentive ear when the ladies feel a need to personal dump on me. I actually don’t mind, I do more listening and observing […]