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#NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

It’s very rare that I get questions that stir my emotions, frustrate me, and make me deeply sad. I just received such a letter from a very young woman, and while I’m not sure if this entry will make a difference in her situation, I hope that perhaps others will take this as a cautionary[...] Read More…

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Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes, thick hair and skin that turns bronze in the sun. Indeed, the mystery and enticement of Indian men can’t be denied.   Of course[...] Read More…

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Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!

Whew. Got back from the Tenth Annual BlogHer conference in San Jose feeling a bit nervous. I mean, I called everyday to say hello to the hubby and kids, and remind Clo Clo to water the plants. A lot. Because the heat was well into the 90′s, and since I’m growing in containers and raised[...] Read More…

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Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pretty much the same amount as the last two or three years. I meet and talk to new guys every week. But now that I am back on[...] Read More…

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QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb Questions!”

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me, fed up that his friends keep putting his girlfriend in uncomfortable positions. I made this video while at the BlogHer 2014 conference in San Jose, and guess who I[...] Read More…

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Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first thought the writer was talking about a white guy whom she dated and once introduced to family, was unceremoniously dumped. After all, this does happen. But surprisingly, I see this more often when[...] Read More…

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99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem.

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still wheat) with some of my husband’s almond milk (he opts for the sweetened kind). It was after 11, and I should have been sleepy. But about[...] Read More…

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TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..

I heard about the fan fare involving Michael Jackson and dem during the early 80′s but I just wasn’t into him like that. The bad boy image and curly kit seemed a bit much too for me so I turned my eyes towards another type of brown boy crush. Since you know I’m greedy, I[...] Read More…

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JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!

Hi ladies, it’s been a long time since I’ve written here and it got me thinking that it’s high time that we shared our overseas experiences. This is where the article involves your participation! I love reading positive articles of black women enjoying their space and time overseas. It creates further encouragement for other black[...] Read More…

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Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

The East Coast folks know that we’re on a tight deadline. These days you can’t quite tell when Summer springs or when Winter will Fall through, so it makes the most sense to get all early dating phase-ish things out the way while you can still can. I’m a resident of the state of New[...] Read More…

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Reader Letter: Black Woman Married to a Black Man Sees the Site for What It Is

I love it when people finally “get” it. The letter… I pop in on your site from time to time and my feelings about what you are trying to do have run the gamut. But your recent posts have made it clear to me that I misjudged your intent, and I wanted to say keep[...] Read More…

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Sirloins’ BB&W Babe Wednesday!! Curvy Version…

Ahem…..Some  ladies have curves and are not afraid to flaunt them! I also know some of us men like it that way. And that way……….. …..and most definitely this way. What is that old saying? The only thing a dog can do with a bone is bury it. (I’m putting in a personal note right[...] Read More…

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