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Beware the “I haven’t found the right one” Guy;…

Don’t be like the hamster who runs on the wheel, huffing and puffing and going nowhere.

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Still Time!!! 10 Fab Holiday Fitness Gifts…

This holiday season, why not be a catalyst for REAL change in the life of someone you care about, by giving the gift of health?

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(Almost) Tangle-Free Twist Out Technique!…

A common problem with fine-haired naturals is knotting at the ends which leads to breakage. I’d given up twist outs altogether because of this problem, but discovered a technique by accident that virtually eliminates the tangles while still giving you a wavy-twist out effect. The secret: Instead of 15-30 small twists, which makes your hair 30x more likely to tangle, do four or five flat twists, and it’ll all come out the same in the end (minus all those fairy knots!)

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Poll: Which are You, “Black Woman” First, or…

How you see yourself affects just about every aspect of your life, so it’s worth thinking about.

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Romancing an Introvert: Striking Up a Conversation…

I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that I am an awkward, black, female introvert.

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Cheer up! Black women have much to celebrate because the times, they…

Another day, another study on black women and interracial dating that sounds a little depressing. BUT these studies should not be taken as the received truth, the last word on black women and interracial dating.

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The Ultimate Exercise Motivation (Arthur Did It. What’s Your…

Set an intention for my exercise for the coming week. And then act on it.

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Vietnamese Guy Gives Real Talk on His Blasian Relationship, Plus How…

You wondered. We delivered.

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Examining the Trend: The REAL Reasons Why Black Women and White Men…

Study Says White men (still) view black women through the lens of the Mammy, the Jezebel, and the Welfare Queen.

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The “Scandal” Effect: Black Women on Television…

The success of Scandal has made it even more of a lucrative idea to other producers. Finally, black women are being looked at as viable candidates for leads. Well, maybe not finally–we have yet to see how many other black female-led shows there will be after Deception, but the tide is shifting, I can feel it.

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Don’t Be Duped By Damaged Males: Not All Men Are Scumbags!…

Even if I were to believe that all men were sexual-harassing creeps at heart, why would I accept this as a reality that is not worth changing? Clearly something needs to give somewhere.

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This Week’s Football Wrap-Up. Just Read It and Repeat It and…

The Dec. 10 edition of Monday Night Football featured a matchup of two of the top teams in the American Football Conference. At least that’s how it was billed — the stalwart New England Patriots and the surprising Houston Texans, both division leaders, would face off on the NFL’s brightest stage in what many expected to be a competitive contest.

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White Guy Asks, “Am I Dating the Wrong Black Woman?”…

I got this note from someone who reached out to me on Facebook. Here goes…

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The Next Time Someone Says Newtown Is Not a Political Issue, Ask Them…

It is highly likely that this person is hallucinating and will tell you the sky is iridescent green or maybe yellow. It is this type of a-political thinking that gets us Americans into trouble time and time again.

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Have We Completely Lost Our Humanity? Connecticut Elementary School…

Did I just hear Bill Handel say “elementary school,” like, with young kids, like…babies? Killed?

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“Authentic Blackness” and More GAT-DL Co-opting….…

Redskins quarterback Robert Griffin III has said that he basically wants to be known as a quarterback and not be defined as an African American quarterback first and foremost. I took it to mean he wanted to be known for his individual achievements and not have “BLACK” slapped in front of everything he did. He wants to, I assume, be judged by who he was first rather than as a representative of an entire ethnic group.

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Who Says “Black” is “Black?” Kola Boof Has…

My friend Kola Boof never pulls any punches. Sometimes I just hangout out on her Facebook page with my popcorn and watch the show. One of her posts last week garnered 1,000+ comments because Kola has some seemingly controversial opinions about mixed race people identifying themselves as “black.” She posed an idea that I’d never thought about before. She expresses disgust that black people will let anyone with a few drops of black blood identify as black, with gusto. She specifically calls out Soledad O’Brien, who identifies as black, but doesn’t much look it.

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Barbecue Eye Round on Mashed Turnips and Potatoes with Roasted…

Turnips and Brussels sprouts are in season. Take advantage!

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UPDATED VIDEO DEMO: Real Talk: How Much Would You Pay for Healthy…

When I first started to give doing my hair a go, I thought I’d save a ton of money not going to the salon and being held hostage all day to an overbooked stylist. I’m glad to say I’m free of the overbooked, gum-popping, self-entitled stylist, but…I’m still spending a ton.

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New Dissolving Female Condom Said to Prevent Pregnancy, STI’s,…

Ever since BB&W regular, Law Wanxi, wrote to me with an uncomfortable truth, that women are pretty much on their own when it comes to birth control, the more I believe he might be right. That’s why I got excited when the geniuses at the University of Washington have created a dissolving female condom that not only protects women from unwanted pregnancy, but is said to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections and HIV/AIDS.