Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed with Tears. Find Out Why.

You won’t want to miss this. One of the most touching letters I’ve ever received. Ladies, don’t let anyone tell you that non-black men are not checking for you, won’t love you, cherish you, or try to understand you. Reading this letter will change anyone’s mind on that. Dear Christelyn,    You don’t know me[...] Read More…

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Shore to shore: is dating for Black women across the Atlantic really that different? (Find Out From Someone Living There)

By:  Carla Ford Have you ever considered if you lived in the UK, would men of others races be more openly receptive in showing their attraction towards Black women? The eccentric, open-minded and tolerant reputation of the British is, in general, … Read More

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Lavern Cox Graces the Cover of TIME Magazine: Speaks on Race, Gender and Violence

There is no question that Lavern Cox is setting the world on fire. This African American beauty is one of the break away stars of Orange is the New Black and a staunch advocate of transgender issues and bullying. Some people may not think her … Read More

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Man Candy Monday: Sexy Men Doing Yoga

I must admit, I like a man that is in tune with his body. Athletes and health conscious individuals are more than likely to have what I desire, namely, stamina, strength and an awareness of his body that ensures we will move in unison. Be it while … Read More

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LMAO! Organic Gardeners Spoof Blackstreet’s “No Diggity”

You know I'm all over this one!!! http://youtu.be/jvBr-qPAGwI Check these folks out at Peaceful Belly Farm. … Read More

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And This is Why We Still Talk About Black Men On Beyond Black & White.

People often wonder why this site sometimes discusses the relationships black men have with black women. The criticism is often, "If you've moved on with your white boy, why you still talking about black men?" I'll give you a definitive reason … Read More

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How Growing What I Eat is Getting Me the Body I Want

I've noticed that as my garden grows and changes, my body shrinks. I'm spending a lot of time taking care of what I'm growing and eating it along the way. In fact, about 60-70% of daily food consumption is coming from the garden and a few things are … Read More

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“Swirlr” Series Finale…Think It’s Going to Come Out How You Predicted?

There's a bunch of twists and turns in this one. Take a look and let's discus! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpcS0mPBTzk … Read More

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Letting Matthew Hussey Take on ‘The Question of the Week’: The Scarcity of Men Does Not Exist

I get a lot of letters from women who are asking my advice about a guy they've built up really large in their minds. It's like these women are so focused on this ONE GUY that any and all potential suitors disappear. My friend Matthew Hussey has … Read More

Reader Response

Pella’s Rebuttal: When Women are the Misogynist.

By Pella I penned my last essay to start a discussion about the entitlement to women's bodies, which (whoooo) it sure did create a discussion. One which I wasn't able to actively participate in because unfortunately I have an early bedtime … Read More

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New Music POSITIVE Hip Hop from Arrested Development

Some of you know that I'm friends with Speech Thomas, head of the legendary and iconic Arrested Development. He was a strong supporter of our No Wedding No Womb campaign and even did a song and video.  They discovered me on Twitter when I was getting … Read More

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RIP Maya Angelou: A Phenomenal Woman Has Left the Building

Famed poet, activist, and author Maya Angelou has died at the age of 86. We send her family, friends and the literary community our heartfelt condolences. So in order to remember this amazing woman, I'll leave you with my favorite poem and something … Read More

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Just in Time for Loving Day, Moguldum Studios Releases “The Swirl”

I have to admit I was SCURRED to tell you guys I was in a new documentary called, The Swirl, only because the parent company, Moguldum Studios, publishes both Madame Noire and Bossip. It turns out I worried for nothing. Here's the … Read More

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Five Reasons to Grow Berries this Summer

If you've never gotten a chance to taste a berry fresh off the vine still pulsing with life and full of flavor, I'd venture to say you've never really tasted one. Even when you can get them fresh from the farmer's market or flash frozen from the … Read More