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Tell Um Why You Mad, Hun….

You know what I don't believe in.......? Being quiet when I'm pissed off or done wrong. There. I said it... I could give a flying pickle how anyone feels when I feel as if an abomination has occurred against my personhood. That 'Angry Black Woman' shit is and is not a cool moniker because I get that … Read More...

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You Saw it Here First! Make Up Trends for the Oscars…Lori Taylor of SMASHBOX, Cory Bishop from Gorgeous Spill It

I don’t know about you, but I’m totally disinterested in who gets what award for the Oscars tonight. I’m more into what everyone will be wearing. “Each year I’m asked what the Red Carpet trends will be. I’ve definitely seen three distinct looks this season. A classic Hollywood glamour look with a defined cat eye […]

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What’s In A Name?

From time to time we discuss names black Americans give their children.  I have seen some pretty outlandish names encroached upon innocent children black and white alike who have to grow up and live in this society.  Some names subject children to endless bullying.  Having survived childhood teasing and possible bullying there is employment to consider.  It is […]

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From ‘Fro to Flat Iron: Carol’s Daughter Monoi is the TRUTH!

Last night I decided to straighten my hair to change my look up a bit while filming “Swirlr.”  You guys know I’m all about rocking my ‘fro, because its great camouflage for scraggly ends…which I have an abundance of. But because I’m a hopeless procrastinator and didn’t have time for a trim, I needed to […]

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Latest from Robin Thicke: “I’m Just Trying to Get Her Back”

Well it looks like Robin might be seriously regretting how much he’s been acting a fool. Like I mentioned in an earlier post, Robin has always taken pride in the fact that, unlike his dad, he had a lasting marriage. Now that part of his prized identity is in jeopardy it looks as if he’s […]

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Cheddar Bacon And Scallion Souffle

Cheddar Bacon And Scallion Soufflé Soufflé is a lightly baked cake made with egg yolks and beaten egg whites combined with various other ingredients and served as a savory main dish or sweetened as a dessert. The word soufflé is the past participle of the French verb souffler which means “to blow up” or more […]

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Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love Low Standard Women Because They’re Easy”

What will it take for some women to realize that some dudes just aren’t worth having? The comment section will routinely blow up during conversations revolving around Black women and their disappointment in having not been chosen by the males in their immediate social circle. I just watch the shenanigans and shake my head because […]


A Rose by any other name: Pastel Pink Beauty Trends SS 2014

This is my ode to pink. A color, that if I were put into as a child, I’d scream bloody murder. I hated the feminine soft color, so Barbie, so girlie, so submissive. I was everything but. I was a certified tomboy. I could climb trees with the best of them. That was then, and […]

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Why are Black Women Mocked If Their Non-Black Mates Don’t Look Like Adonis?

I remember having conversations with some of my black girlfriends back in the day (way before I knew I’d marry interracially) about what it would take for us to entertain the idea of dating a white guy. Inevitably someone would declare, “If I ever date out, dude better look like Brad Pitt or it ain’t […]

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QOTW: “How Can I Tell If He Likes Me?!”

The question… I enjoy watching all of your videos!! I am black and 19 years old. In a couple of weeks I will  be 20 years old. I live in Alabama. Every time I go to the store, This Caucasian guy is very nice to me. One day I was there and he told me I looked […]


La Vie En Rose SS 2014 Trends

We all know the movie, well, that is if you are a 70s or 80s kid. You know the scene when Andie walks into her prom wearing that cute pink dress she created from the dress her friend Iona gave her. You know the scene where she had to muster up her courage to walk […]

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Four More Days…The First Episode of “Swirlr” but in the Meantime…

Yes you heard it right, it’s just three more days (FEBRUARY 28) until the FIRST EPISODE of “Swirlr” is set to run. The Hubster was so sweet…he’s organizing an impromptu premiere party at our house here in Temecula, and folks are free to join us for a viewing, some conversation, food and wine from our […]