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#Trending: Bright White…

I find it quite interesting that each season has a staple color every single season. For example, Winter’s staple color is black. Fall’s staple color is burgundy or oxblood.  Spring staple.. well spring doesn’t have a staple because it shares it’s staple color with summer, which is white. This season isn’t any different except, normally […]

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Why Do Some Black Women Think I’m Trying to “Force”…

So…I’ve made it my business to really cease and desist addressing folks that take cheap shots at me, my work, and this site. They can steadily say that nobody is reading or interested in this blog, and I’ll continue to chart the 50% growth every year, which brings me to about 400,000 page views a […]

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DeBlasio Gives Lessons On How to Protect a Woman. Take Notes.…

The media is so hard on mothers. If you’re Michelle Obama, militant feminists complain that you shame the movement because you’re happy with being “Mom-in-Chief.” If you’re Chirlane McCray, then the New York Post skewers you because you have torn feelings about becoming a mom and leaving the career world. That isn’t news. But what is […]

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The Great Debate Between Me and Matthew Hussey: Should You Date at…

Subjects for the Question of the Week often come in themes. Lately I’ve gotten a lot of questions for men and women conflicted about starting workplace romances. Statistically, 2/3 of relationships are between people who have met at work. And while the term, “Don’t crap where you eat” may come to mind, there’s obviously enough […]

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Baked Chicken with Rosemary, Fig and Mushroom Sauce…

I’ve always liked figs. It’s like the perfect combo of sweet, squishy and crunchy. One day I was eating my once-daily ration and thought, “Hmm…something savory with this sweet would be delicious. Since I’m a gardener, it was even to spot just the perfect thing: rosemary. I took a few blades of rosemary, took a […]

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Man Candy Monday: XXL Big Daddy’s and Taco Meat For All!!…

Are you the type of woman who likes things in large doses? I’ll be the first to admit it, I like to indulge in my vices, men included. So for all of you out there who share my greed, this week’s Man Candy Monday is dedicated to those men who sport their chest hair and […]

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What? Interracial Romance Novels are on Time.com’s Radar.…

Before I start, I just want to give a shout out to all my folks who bring stories they know I like to cover. You make my life tremendously easier. XO times 1000. Time.com just recently posted a story about how the romance genre of interracial relationships is in hot demand. They chose to highlight […]

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Big Mistake: When Slavery Makes Your Romanticize “The…

I recently had a radio interview with a well-know African American host. While I was invited to talk about swirling, it seems that it’s almost inevitable that the conversation devolves into topics about slavery–the effects, the damage, the psychic pain. We both agree it was painful, but only one of us thinks it was all […]

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Ratchet Roundup: News We Didn’t Cover this Week and Are Darned…

So…yes I saw the unfortunate video clip of Solange Knowles taking out 400 years of slavery on Jay Z’s already unfortunate-looking face. Beyonce said a prayer to twitter and now they’re all friends again. Ummmkay. Me thinks Beyonce should put little sister on body guard duty. We still don’t know what the fight was about, […]

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Six Things You Can Do TODAY to Keep Yourself Looking (and Feeling)…

On July 17, I’ll be 41 years old. Yet I still get carded for alcohol purchases, get mistaken as a student when I’m in the vicinity of a college campus, and regularly get called a MILF. I’ll not tell you what that means, but trust me, when you hear it from someone who is literally […]

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Long Time BB&W Fan, Shaun Brown Marries His Beloved!…

You might remember Shaun Brown, a big fan of the blog who is also a staunch Christian and conservative. I only mention that because there’s often a presupposition that if a non-black man has those qualities, he’s using the Bible to justify slavery or something and would never make you his Mrs. I’ve mentioned several […]

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The Breast Cancer Diagnosis of a Loved One…

My mother was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. We’ve subsequently learned that her type of cancer is “triple negative,” which can be aggressive and spread easily. We are still processing lots of information and sorting through everything but two things come to mind. First, my mother has access to health insurance from having gotten remarried […]

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How to Grow Bigger, Better Tasting Plants with High…

When you’re an urban gardener like me, you might be trying to figure out how how to maximize the limited space while producing high yields. While you’re finding creative ways to hang tomatoes from the chandelier, don’t forget that the single best thing you can do to ensure you’ll make the most use of limited […]

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BB&W Partners with Black Girl Travel To Bring…

Beyond Black & White is the first blog to feature the wandering escapades in Europe chronicled from Fleace Weaver, founder of Black Girl Travel (BGT). The company has been getting a lot of attention lately from the press, and for good reason. It’s the only travel club catering to black women discovering themselves and taking in an […]

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Ann Coulter Belittles the #BringBackOurGirls Hash Tag and Gets Her Ass…

She thought she was gonna be a snarky, irreverent biotch, making fun of REAL HUMAN BEINGS who have been kidnapped, raped repeatedly, beaten, and sold for $12. But then Twitter did this… And this… And this…     And this. Twitter is a mess, but you’ve got to love how it puts everyone on a level […]

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Man Candy Monday (Night Cap): Now Come to Bed….…

Yes, there comes a time in a woman’s life where she will have to make a decision. Should she, or should she not, join him in bed? Beds are for sleeping, among other things, and what woman doesn’t need her rest? After all, we’re all adults and if you happen to find yourself stranded at […]

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Okay NFL Fans, What Did You Think of “The Kiss?”…

The NFL’s first openly gay draft pick for the Rams was exuberant at the news that he made the team that he kissed his boyfriend. Tongues are wagging. I don’t follow sports unless my husband makes me, but this stood out for a variety of reasons. Yes; he’s black. Yes; he’s gay. Yes; his boyfriend […]

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May is Mental Health Month. What Brings You Peace?…

There’s a month for everything, isn’t there? But May being the official month for mental health sort of makes sense. Spring is FINALLY here, and everything around use is undergoing renewal and transformation. As someone who has suffered from Generalize Anxiety Disorder for most of my adult life (and maybe even during my teenaged years) […]

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Man Candy Monday: Hot Guys With Beards…

“Guys with beards kisses tingle, and make all the girls giggle”, or so I hear. What’s all the fuss about when it comes to men with beards? Who knows, it could be because facial hair denotes a certain maturity in a man or it could also be the desire to have a bad boy on […]

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Sweet and Paleo-Friendly Honey Roasted Carrots…

  Yesterday on my way to visit my Mother for Mom’s Day, I noticed something strange about my feet when I reached down to slather lotion on my ankles. The bottom of my feet are turning orange. This happens occasionally when you consume too much Vitamin A, because it isn’t water soluble. It will just […]