BB&W Special Guest Dishes on Her Experience at a Black Woman/Asian Man Dating Event

Race-Based Dating? I’m a black woman who has always been attracted to guys of different races, but growing up in a segregated city in the Midwest, there weren’t many Asian people around, so I never even thought of liking Asian guys until I was about fifteen. Perhaps it started with all those Hong … Read More...

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Oscars Best Dressed List: Spring 2014 Preview

Your dreams are definitely valid, and everyone dreams of the Oscars. As America and the rest of the world gather around their TV sets to see what beautiful frocks the ladies and gents on the red carpet will wear, amazingly talented people prepare to be rewarded for their honest work. In which case, the Oscars […]

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Judge Not An Ally By Their Skin Color or Whom They Marry…Support is an Action

OMG…wow…super-duper congratulations to Lupita!! As Lupita Nyong’o tearfully accepts the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress and thanks Steve McQueen for giving her the chance to shine. In an article written recently by The Root, one writer admits that an American-born black person would not have given Lupita a chance because she doesn’t fit the […]


The “Brown Girl” Academy Awards…Who Took the Show?

About the most interesting part of the Oscars is the fashion. That’s why I watch…otherwise I’d be watching last week’s Young and the Restless. Well…I can tell you who I’m picking…     I love everything about this dress except one thing. It calls too much attention to her (lack of) chest. Lupita has a […]

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QOTW: White Guys Asks, “Does My Gorgeous, Black Co-Worker Like Me?”

The question: On the 3rd day of my new job I met the most beautiful and sexy woman I have ever met. She is black. It was very brief and before I jetted out of the break room (where we exchanged around 10 words) she asked me my name. I responded and asked for hers. […]

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You Saw it Here First! Make Up Trends for the Oscars…Lori Taylor of SMASHBOX, Cory Bishop from Gorgeous Spill It

I don’t know about you, but I’m totally disinterested in who gets what award for the Oscars tonight. I’m more into what everyone will be wearing. “Each year I’m asked what the Red Carpet trends will be. I’ve definitely seen three distinct looks this season. A classic Hollywood glamour look with a defined cat eye […]

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What’s In A Name?

From time to time we discuss names black Americans give their children.  I have seen some pretty outlandish names encroached upon innocent children black and white alike who have to grow up and live in this society.  Some names subject children to endless bullying.  Having survived childhood teasing and possible bullying there is employment to consider.  It is […]

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From ‘Fro to Flat Iron: Carol’s Daughter Monoi is the TRUTH!

Last night I decided to straighten my hair to change my look up a bit while filming “Swirlr.”  You guys know I’m all about rocking my ‘fro, because its great camouflage for scraggly ends…which I have an abundance of. But because I’m a hopeless procrastinator and didn’t have time for a trim, I needed to […]

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Latest from Robin Thicke: “I’m Just Trying to Get Her Back”

Well it looks like Robin might be seriously regretting how much he’s been acting a fool. Like I mentioned in an earlier post, Robin has always taken pride in the fact that, unlike his dad, he had a lasting marriage. Now that part of his prized identity is in jeopardy it looks as if he’s […]

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Cheddar Bacon And Scallion Souffle

Cheddar Bacon And Scallion Soufflé Soufflé is a lightly baked cake made with egg yolks and beaten egg whites combined with various other ingredients and served as a savory main dish or sweetened as a dessert. The word soufflé is the past participle of the French verb souffler which means “to blow up” or more […]

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Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love Low Standard Women Because They’re Easy”

What will it take for some women to realize that some dudes just aren’t worth having? The comment section will routinely blow up during conversations revolving around Black women and their disappointment in having not been chosen by the males in their immediate social circle. I just watch the shenanigans and shake my head because […]


A Rose by any other name: Pastel Pink Beauty Trends SS 2014

This is my ode to pink. A color, that if I were put into as a child, I’d scream bloody murder. I hated the feminine soft color, so Barbie, so girlie, so submissive. I was everything but. I was a certified tomboy. I could climb trees with the best of them. That was then, and […]