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Yummy Paleo Brownies for Weekend Barbecue!…

When I decided to give paleo the old college try, I thought my beloved Kitchenaid mixer was doomed to go into early retirement. I’d made so many loaves of bread, not to mention all the delicious mashed potatoes I’d whipped. Boy, I had little faith in humanity’s ability to improvise, because there’s TONS of paleo […]

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In Defense of Funky Brown Chick’s “Tips for Picking Up…

I see there’s some outrage about a recent article Twanna Hines (aka Funky Brown Chick) wrote to advise non-black men on how to date black women. She gives solid common-sense advice (be yourself, don’t be a douche and say you’ve always wanted to lick dark chocolate, stuff like that). But some people are offended that […]

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Photo of the Day: It’s a Wonderful World.…

I’m one of the room mom’s for my son’s second grade class, and this grade has a patriotic performance around Memorial Day time.   I took this shot of him, The Babster and two of his buddies. And when I looked at these beautiful children, and thought about how none of them ever blinked an […]

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Message to the Men: Sometimes Nothing You Do Will Be Good Enough…

Oy vey….. What comes part and parcel of being a friend of mankind is being privy to information that other women aren’t. In addition to that, I’m often libel to offer an attentive ear when the ladies feel a need to personal dump on me. I actually don’t mind, I do more listening and observing […]

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Pre-Workout ‘Beauty’ Smoothie Also Helps with Hair, Nail…

I’ve had a love/hate relationship with carbohydrates for the last couple of years, trying to figure out the “magic combination” that will give me the sustained energy I need without having unused carbs convert to fat–usually in my stomach. My first earnest effort was Atkins-esque, which pretty much eliminated all but 15 grams of sugars […]

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She’s Beautiful. She’s Successful. She’s Childless.…

Take one look at Misee Harris, a sweet, soft-spoken southern belle from Tennessee (and a doctor and inventor for lawd’s sakes at only 29) you’d think she has it all. Beautiful. Sexy. Good with kids and wants her own family some day. Sophisticated, So You Can Take Her Home to Mom. Goal Oriented.   …And Even […]

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Some May Have Scoffed, But 300-Sandwiches Lady Just Got Engaged at…

Three-hundred sandwich lady made headlines last year (and sparked outrage to both militant feminists and the pro-black, anti-interracial relationship crew) because she found joy in preparing delicious and creative sandwiches for her boyfriend who once jokingly told her that if she made him 300 sandwiches he would marry her. There were a few disgusting master/slave […]

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#Trending: Bright White…

I find it quite interesting that each season has a staple color every single season. For example, Winter’s staple color is black. Fall’s staple color is burgundy or oxblood.  Spring staple.. well spring doesn’t have a staple because it shares it’s staple color with summer, which is white. This season isn’t any different except, normally […]

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Why Do Some Black Women Think I’m Trying to “Force”…

So…I’ve made it my business to really cease and desist addressing folks that take cheap shots at me, my work, and this site. They can steadily say that nobody is reading or interested in this blog, and I’ll continue to chart the 50% growth every year, which brings me to about 400,000 page views a […]

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DeBlasio Gives Lessons On How to Protect a Woman. Take Notes.…

The media is so hard on mothers. If you’re Michelle Obama, militant feminists complain that you shame the movement because you’re happy with being “Mom-in-Chief.” If you’re Chirlane McCray, then the New York Post skewers you because you have torn feelings about becoming a mom and leaving the career world. That isn’t news. But what is […]

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The Great Debate Between Me and Matthew Hussey: Should You Date at…

Subjects for the Question of the Week often come in themes. Lately I’ve gotten a lot of questions for men and women conflicted about starting workplace romances. Statistically, 2/3 of relationships are between people who have met at work. And while the term, “Don’t crap where you eat” may come to mind, there’s obviously enough […]

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Baked Chicken with Rosemary, Fig and Mushroom Sauce…

I’ve always liked figs. It’s like the perfect combo of sweet, squishy and crunchy. One day I was eating my once-daily ration and thought, “Hmm…something savory with this sweet would be delicious. Since I’m a gardener, it was even to spot just the perfect thing: rosemary. I took a few blades of rosemary, took a […]

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Man Candy Monday: XXL Big Daddy’s and Taco Meat For All!!…

Are you the type of woman who likes things in large doses? I’ll be the first to admit it, I like to indulge in my vices, men included. So for all of you out there who share my greed, this week’s Man Candy Monday is dedicated to those men who sport their chest hair and […]

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What? Interracial Romance Novels are on Time.com’s Radar.…

Before I start, I just want to give a shout out to all my folks who bring stories they know I like to cover. You make my life tremendously easier. XO times 1000. Time.com just recently posted a story about how the romance genre of interracial relationships is in hot demand. They chose to highlight […]

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Big Mistake: When Slavery Makes Your Romanticize “The…

I recently had a radio interview with a well-know African American host. While I was invited to talk about swirling, it seems that it’s almost inevitable that the conversation devolves into topics about slavery–the effects, the damage, the psychic pain. We both agree it was painful, but only one of us thinks it was all […]

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Ratchet Roundup: News We Didn’t Cover this Week and Are Darned…

So…yes I saw the unfortunate video clip of Solange Knowles taking out 400 years of slavery on Jay Z’s already unfortunate-looking face. Beyonce said a prayer to twitter and now they’re all friends again. Ummmkay. Me thinks Beyonce should put little sister on body guard duty. We still don’t know what the fight was about, […]

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Six Things You Can Do TODAY to Keep Yourself Looking (and Feeling)…

On July 17, I’ll be 41 years old. Yet I still get carded for alcohol purchases, get mistaken as a student when I’m in the vicinity of a college campus, and regularly get called a MILF. I’ll not tell you what that means, but trust me, when you hear it from someone who is literally […]

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Long Time BB&W Fan, Shaun Brown Marries His Beloved!…

You might remember Shaun Brown, a big fan of the blog who is also a staunch Christian and conservative. I only mention that because there’s often a presupposition that if a non-black man has those qualities, he’s using the Bible to justify slavery or something and would never make you his Mrs. I’ve mentioned several […]

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The Breast Cancer Diagnosis of a Loved One…

My mother was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. We’ve subsequently learned that her type of cancer is “triple negative,” which can be aggressive and spread easily. We are still processing lots of information and sorting through everything but two things come to mind. First, my mother has access to health insurance from having gotten remarried […]

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How to Grow Bigger, Better Tasting Plants with High…

When you’re an urban gardener like me, you might be trying to figure out how how to maximize the limited space while producing high yields. While you’re finding creative ways to hang tomatoes from the chandelier, don’t forget that the single best thing you can do to ensure you’ll make the most use of limited […]