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Beyond the Color Lines…A Tribute Anniversary Video of Mike and…

Get your tissues out… Kizoa slideshow: Anniversary Tribute – Slideshow

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OMG No Words. (NSFW) Well…Maybe This Could Encourage Thug-Love…

My Facebook friend, Richard Miller brought this to my attention. At first I was like…WHAT? But then I thought, hey, the black community is so much against homosexuality that too many black men play on both teams for fear of tremendous social consequences; perhaps videos like this will embolden gay black men to embrace who […]

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A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman…

So it seems that black women are damned if we do, and damned if we don’t, doesn’t it? By now, many of you have read about a true bit of WTF-ery when recent reports about a Richmond, California black woman was asked to cover up at Planet Fitness because her “toned body” was “intimidating” to […]

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Surrender Versus Submission: What You Don’t Know Might Hurt You…

All this talk of men, sex, and femininity, yet again, has got my mind sizzling with ways in which I might be able to explain to you what’s so awesome about finding the right mate. Some of the women here can’t wrap their minds around the concept of being submissive to their man, a man, […]

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Author of “Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men” Dishes…

My buddy and fellow IR author, Niki McElroy, author of  A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men, recently took an 8-month ride on Tinder, the popular dating app. If you’ve ever been curious about what this new dating rage is all about, then this is a must read. I have been dabbling in the ever […]

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Tune in Today to See Super-Cute Naturalista, LaToya Codner on…

If you’ve been on this blog any amount of time, you know I’m a stay-at-home mom. As such, it’s a requirement to watch soap operas. You get your membership revoked if you don’t. So I’m watching Days of Our Lives today, after not watching for over a week, and who do I see? This cute […]

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Big, Bold and Beautiful: I’m Loving NeNe Leakes on Season 18 of…

I don’t know how you feel about NeNe Leakes, or if you even follow the reality show fodder enough to know who she is. But there is one thing that can’t be denied, NeNe is a big, beautiful, and vivacious Black woman and she showed everyone as much during her debut moment on season 18 […]

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Guess Who’s Coming to the Prom? EBONY Magazine Releases…

Thank lawdbejeezus that today’s teenagers don’t have as many hangup about interracial relationships that the older folks seem to have. According to this report in the April 2014 issue of EBONY, today’s youth just might put me out of a job, and I couldn’t be happier. According to research conducted by Frank N. Magrid Associates, […]

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No Excuses! Six Good-For-You Plants You Can Grow Without a Yard…

At some point, it will cease to be winter in the Midwest and East Coast and continue to be the never-ending summer it has been in California. Usually the last of the snow leaves for good in April so there’s plenty of time for you to stock up on seeds, starter plants and pots for […]

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Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It Mean to Be Feminine,…

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and women on the other end–the girly-girls–who often feel  shamed by feminists who think they are slaves to patriarchy. I want to get to the bottom of the discussion […]

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Monday Punday # 28…

Monday-Punday #28   SirLoin, an amateur maritime historian, offers the following tidbit concerning the offshore sailing log of the USS Constitution, the oldest commissioned warship in the world.   “On 23 August 1779, the USS Constitution set sail from Boston, loaded with 475 officers and men, 48,600 gallons of water, sufficient food, 74,000 cannon shot, […]

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DISGUSTING! Father Beats 13 Year-Old Girl, Mother Watches, Records and…

What I find most disgusting about this video is how the mother is so gleeful in her blood lust, egging this man (is he her father?) to beat her, calling her a bitch, and recording it for World Star Hip Hop. As a mother of three daughters, I shiver at the clear disdain this woman […]

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Halle Berry Rumored Split Leads Me to Ask, “At What Point is…

Apologies in advance to #TeamHalle stans, but I’m scratching my head about the news that Halle Berry might be splitting from yet another partner, making this her third divorce and 50-11th failed relationship. Are Halle Berry, 47, and Olivier Martinez, 48, going down a rocky path? The couple, who haven’t been spotted together since Dec. 7, are […]

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Iffy Belly? No Waist to Speak Of? Consider the Monokini…

I am one of those unfortunate women who does not have an hourglass shape. Yes; I’m slim and fit, but no amount of exercise and diet will change my basic anatomy. So I have to fake it by choosing items in my wardrobe that give the illusion of an hourglass. Enter the most amaze balls […]

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I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on…

I had the opportunity of a lifetime today to speak my piece to Tyler Perry and get the peanut gallery to admit that colorism plays a MAJOR role in the dating options with black women. Oh, and we talked about my show, “Swirlr” too. During the show, Tyler Perry teased that black men have a […]

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Curvy Fashionista Talks Her Favorite Spring Looks…

Love this girl. Totally adorable. If you haven’t heard of the Curvy Fashionista, you’re way past due. Curvy Fashionista is seeing: White, white, and more white Black and white Crazy prints, tailored Sporty looks…fun tennis shoes Flared and wide legged jeans Lots of lace, lots of sheer

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Five Totally Unusual Ways to Travel Alone and Still Have a Great Time…

I know who you are…I see the stats. You’re single, young, educated, and have some money. So why haven’t you traveled abroad to discover the world and discover how fabulous the world thinks you are? Because you’d most likely have to do it alone, and that’s scary, right? But it you can muster up the […]

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Since You Asked…The Lipstick I Was Sporting When I Helped Hand…

LOL not really. I just love writing salacious headlines. Marc seems like a nice guy, just…perpetually “confused.” On purpose. Anyhoozle, I’ve been getting some messages about the lip color I was sporting and so I thought I’d share. It’s a tinted lip balm called “Big Apple” from CAILYN cosmetics. I told you in a previous […]

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Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and Friend, ‘Nicole…

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abundance’ has creating a femininity boot camp of sorts, and wants to share the knowledge… What is the definition of being feminine? Is it the way you dress or how great your manicure looks? Is being feminine […]