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“My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Harassment and…

  One day, I was standing outside of a store waiting for my dad to meet me. While I was waiting, I made a phone call to my mom. While I was on the phone, I was approached my a man who was obviously more than twice my age who tried to engage me in […]

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It’s Not Always Easy To Love Me. But I Thank You For It…

I recently got an email from a supporter of mine who was worried about all the rumors going around about me–you know, the ones that say I’m an opportunist, I’m just in it for the money, I just want to throw black women under the bus. She asked me to explain myself, because she was […]

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Move Over, Halle–Lupita Up for the Role of X-Men’s…

I spend a large amount of time on social media.  I would dare to say at times its an unhealthy amount, since I can easily spend hours and hours enjoying conversation through my various social networks.  The photo above started to circulate the internet which was photo shopped by Marvel artist Mark Brooks, of Lupita Nyong’o as […]

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Monday Punday # 27…

Monday-Punday #27   SirLoin notes that one of the delights of teaching History is the occasional jewel of a student blooper in a essay, derived from students from 8th grade through College. Read carefully and you may learn a lot:   “The inhabitants of Egypt were called Mummies. They lived in the Sarah desert and […]

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Chef Bob’s Boston Baked Beans…

Boston Baked Beans When it comes to summer picnics, I look forward to a handful of things: blackened hot dogs on the grill, sweet corn on the cob, watermelon and baked beans. I’ve always heard rumblings that beans get a bad rap, especially among kids, but I’ve always been a fan. Whether it was refried […]

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London Calling…”Swirlr” Covered in “The Daily…

Okay now I’m feeling legit. Daily Mail is bomb.com. Guess those folks in the UK watch CNN too, because it’s pretty much a transcript of what I said, which sounds kind of incoherent, but WHATEVA!!! You guys, this is it. It looks like the world is recognizing the 15%, and those folks deserve to see […]

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Fear of Social Consequences Squelches Relationship Before It Starts.…

I just saw this response from a guy who commented on this post, and I thought it warranted a separate discussion: Sounds like this guy has some pretty serious issues. However, this is pretty typical of my experience with Black men when I dated a Black woman. Black guys constantly giving us looks, constantly going […]

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Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?…

I’ve watched with delight over the passed week since covering the Oscars and relishing in Lupita’s victory and observed all the speculation about what the actress’ next move will be. Not to go on a tangent, but what’s up with all this faux concern from black folks wringing their hands that Lupita is being fetishized? Don’t […]

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Check Out My “Swirlr” Interview on CNN/HLN…Now the…

I was sick as a dog doing this show, but I managed to keep it together long enough to not look like I was ready to throw up on my shoes. I love the folks over at CNN…they are the only network that’s been so supportive of the notion of our changing demographic, and acknowledging […]

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Ain’t No Mountain High Enough – The Barbara Hillary Story…

  I stumbled across this video of the fabulous Barbara Hillary a couple years back and revisited it today.  As a relationship coach, I meet many women who don’t think they could go across town alone.  Some will call their mothers for something as simple as breaking a necklace, or have a fit if they can’t […]

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Have You Seen the Adorable “Annie” Trailer Starring the…

“Annie” was one of my most-loved movies of all time. I introduced my children to it and it’s a pleasure we share together. I must admit I wasn’t sure what to expect from Quvenzhané Wallis taking over the role as Annie, but from the looks of it, she’s fit in just fine. There’s a few […]

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Time to Reactivate the Friday Funny: “Who Would You Boink,…

It’s been a loooong time since we’ve done, “Who Would You Boink,” and we haven’t done it since Livefyre allowed for commenters to post pictures and videos. Now BOINK 2.0 will be even more delicious. Okay here’s mine… Henry Cavill…Lawd…LAWD!! His lips are looking a little dry in this photo, though. Somebody pass him Lupita’s […]

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Really, Nicki Minaj? What Are You Trying to Prove?…

I was over at one of my favorite guilty-pleasure gossip sites and saw these photos of Nicki Minaj all-the-way-nekkid self posing dripping wet so all her fans can see she has hair down to the middle of her back. But why? What is she trying to prove…that she had hair under all that weave? Well […]

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Rachel Canning, Girl Suing Her Parents for College Tuition Just Might…

Have you been following the story of 18-year-old college student, Rachel Canning, who is suing her parents, demanding that they pay for her high school and college tuition despite her absolute refusal to follow their rules? Honey-chile left when her parents had the NERVE to demand that she stop seeing a boy who they thought […]

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It’s Here! The First Episode of “Swirlr”…

Sorry for the delay, but worry not, lovelies…here’s the first episode. I had a lot of fun with Kurt and Quintana. Both are young, and both have a lot to learn. You’ll learn more about each of them in future episodes, which will be released biweekly. Next episode, Kurt and Quintana will meet the candidates […]

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Confessions From a Woman Struggling with Her Sanity…Can You…

Writing has always been my escape from life. I understood, at a very early age, that no one really gave a fuck about what happened to me. My job as a child, and especially as a foster child, was to shut the fuck up, don’t create trouble, obey and create as many opportunities for my […]

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Strange Fruit…But It’s Still Good For You…

So I went out to my lime tree this morning and found this… And somebody had a dirty mind and did this… And then The Hubster did this… In any case, no matter what they look like on the outside, the same skin-loving goodness is the same on the inside. I start my morning with […]

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Sh!t Haters Say to Discourage Black Women From Dating Out…

Attention haters, I have a confession. I only engage you in conversation in order to do the following: To demonstrate how much of an idiot you are, to show the world you’re an idiot, and to give real examples of your idiocy. Got this note on our Facebook fan page minutes ago. I was like […]

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Lovely in Lavender: Claire and Phil…

Look at Phil and Claire’s beautiful wedding photographs.  It seemed very well planned, simple and elegant.  I found these on Hitched.  Enjoy these fabulous photographs.  They look so happy.   Photo credits:  A Little Box of Memories.   Claire and Phil met at a salsa club in Norwich and after a couple of dance related conversations […]

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Dear Black People, Can We Support More Songs Like This?!…

Okay I’m loving Pharrel right now. He killed it at the Oscars last night, and I loved how Lupita jumped in to get her grove on! Yes; Pharrel looks like the love child of Smokey the Bear and the Lucky Charms leprechaun, but even with that he’s still cute. He also seems to be a […]