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Man Candy Monday (Night Cap): Now Come to Bed….…

Yes, there comes a time in a woman’s life where she will have to make a decision. Should she, or should she not, join him in bed? Beds are for sleeping, among other things, and what woman doesn’t need her rest? After all, we’re all adults and if you happen to find yourself stranded at […]

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Okay NFL Fans, What Did You Think of “The Kiss?”…

The NFL’s first openly gay draft pick for the Rams was exuberant at the news that he made the team that he kissed his boyfriend. Tongues are wagging. I don’t follow sports unless my husband makes me, but this stood out for a variety of reasons. Yes; he’s black. Yes; he’s gay. Yes; his boyfriend […]

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May is Mental Health Month. What Brings You Peace?…

There’s a month for everything, isn’t there? But May being the official month for mental health sort of makes sense. Spring is FINALLY here, and everything around use is undergoing renewal and transformation. As someone who has suffered from Generalize Anxiety Disorder for most of my adult life (and maybe even during my teenaged years) […]

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Man Candy Monday: Hot Guys With Beards…

“Guys with beards kisses tingle, and make all the girls giggle”, or so I hear. What’s all the fuss about when it comes to men with beards? Who knows, it could be because facial hair denotes a certain maturity in a man or it could also be the desire to have a bad boy on […]

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Sweet and Paleo-Friendly Honey Roasted Carrots…

  Yesterday on my way to visit my Mother for Mom’s Day, I noticed something strange about my feet when I reached down to slather lotion on my ankles. The bottom of my feet are turning orange. This happens occasionally when you consume too much Vitamin A, because it isn’t water soluble. It will just […]

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Before Dr. Dre Sold His Earphones to Apple, He Sold Black Girls Out to…

So I just got wind of the news that Dr. Dre is in the process of selling his Beats earphones to Apple for $3.2 billion, making his the first “hip hop billionaire.” (Although not quite…Forbes says he’s worth $800 million, but who’s really counting when it’s that much dough?) On the one hand,  I think it’s GREAT […]

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Spring Means Brown Girls Get Glowing…Makeup, Skincare, Color…

Spring is all about embracing color. It’s all around you–the flowers and trees…all bursting with it. As a chocolate girl, I was once afraid to wear bright colors, because I was told that they would bring too contrast to my mocha skin. After years of embracing–and then rejecting those notions, I’m at a point in […]

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#Trending: Pacifica SS 2014…

Summer is fast approaching and the days have been heating up (unless of course you are on the south side of the planet below the equator). Being that it is late spring, the trends always lend themselves to reflect what is going on nature. For example, every year there are a plethora bright colored and […]

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QOTW: Black Father Blames Himself for Daughter’s Interracial…

Here’s the question: Dear Christelyn , A very heart breaking issue has arisen in my family because of my dating preferences. A brief history: I was raised in a home with my mother and grandparents. My father unfortunately was incarcerated when I was only 2 years old and was not released until I was 13. […]

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More Research Proves Benefits of Yoga…

A new study published in the April 2014 issue of the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine show that yoga can help with lowing blood pressure and enhance cardiovascular health. That’s just many benefits of yoga. I’ve been practicing yoga for over seven years, and the practice has been essential in helping me manage my anxiety […]

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Escaped Captive from Boko Haram Gang Said She Was Raped 15 Times a…

The stories from this troubled region just continue to get worse and worse. I can’t tell you how utterly helpless I feel. The little power I have on this platform, I will use it. I’ve even reached out to those I know hate me because getting the message out is more important than hurt feelings. These […]

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Feminism Series: Real Reasons Women Aren’t Happy During…

So the conversation rages on over the real meaning behind the study released by Stephen Wu and Paul Hagstrom revealing the level of unhappiness experienced by Black women during pregnancy. I can’t be the only person who isn’t shocked by these findings, and while I can appreciate a conversation that attempts to find racially motivated factors, it […]

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3 Fantastic Trends re-introduced at the Met Gala…

Last night all the stars were out in the glimmering glory, dazzling us anew as they strut the red gas stream known as the Red Carpet. Some were dressed to impressed and some, not so much, and a few, whom I will not mention, looked skeletal and wasted away–I worry. However, I am one who […]

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Boko Haram: “I Will Sell Your Girls. There is a Market for…

There’s no way you can watch this clip and believe these men of Boko Haram are doing what they’re doing for “Allah.” You have to listen to his smugness, like an immature teenager taunting with, “Nee-ner Nee-ner Neee-ner!!!” He basically poked the eye of the toothless and corrupt Nigerian government. These men are not religious. […]

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And People Wonder Why We Rail So Much About Colorism……

You know what I’m thinking…   But folks steadily claiming we’ve overblown colorism in the black community…

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Paleo-riffic Sweet Potato Noodles with Crispy Sage…

  I’m growing two types of organic sage leaves in my garden along my fence in order to save room for bigger plants. I’ve been using it mainly for chicken recipes, but after learning about a neat little kitchen doo-hicky at Williams Sonoma, recommended by a fellow Temecula blogger, the Civilized Caveman, I decided to […]

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“Belle” Opens Strong…Tells a True Story of a Beloved…

Sometimes when I watch old movies set in centuries past, I often wish I could have witnessed what it was like to live as an aristocrat, wearing fine clothes, sewing and drinking tea all day and going to fancy balls. But there’s always a snag–because there’s no way that I, as a black woman, would have been […]

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Man Candy Monday: Long Hair, Don’t Care…

I love men of all shapes and sizes. Though you can usually catch a well groomed man on my arm I do hold a place in my peripheral for those who forgo clippers in favor of a more unabashed look. There’s something to be said for a man that let’s his hair grow; he’s both […]

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Bow Down! BB&W Friend, Gigi Grows Mid-Back Length with 10 Months…

When I saw my friend Gigi’s length check after months of her hiding her hair in protective styles, I could hardly believe my eyes. In ten months she went from this…   To this…   As you can see, Gigi has 4c hair. Why protective styling works Protective styling protects the ends, the oldest and […]

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Femininity Series Part II: Why Black Women Aren’t Happier When…

Not long ago a study released by Stephen Wu and Paul Hagstrom, both professors of economics at Hamilton College, revealed that black women aren’t happier when pregnant, unlike her white and Hispanic female counterparts. The report says this phenomenon spans socioeconomic strata and whether or not the black woman is married. The researchers suggest the unhappiness […]