I remember back in 2010 when No Wedding No Womb first entered the foray, and everybody and their single mothers were railing against the mere acknowledgement and discussion of the 72%+ out-of-wedlock rate in the black community. There’s so much defensiveness on both sides, and little to no discussion is ever brought from the child’sRead More…
I have sat by too long observing the anti-moderator sentiments, snide comments and outright contempt for the folks who help keep this site clean and free of trolls. And I have one thing to say: I will not stand for it. It’s because of them that Beyond Black & White can continue to exist without […]
My inbox has been peppered with messages about a sermon rendered by Pastor Jamal Bryant called “I’m My Enemies Worst Nightmare.” (yes, they wrote enemies, not enemy’s) Now before I go on, take a look at the clip. I contend that Pastor Jamal is not his enemy’s worst nightmare. I think he’s playing right into their […]
Generally I’m a little scared of biker gangs. It’s rare that I hear news about them and say, “Woohoo, rock on, you leathery scary people!” So news that a biker gang named 2 million Bikers was planning on rolling in to protect Maya Angelou’s remains from the unapologetic trolls known to trumpet, “GOD HATES FAGS!!” […]
The U.S. Apple Association just provided this useful reminder of how amazing apples are to your health. Remember, opt for organic apples because of the high pesticide content found in non-organic apples. As an apple grower myself, it’s a challenge growing organic, but it’s by far the best for you–especially if you eat the skin, […]
Yes, silly old EarthJeff is back. Life is not about the destination, it is about the journey. While I hate quoting Miley Cyrus… it is about the Climb. So I started dating again a bit ago, and I had a few first dates. Look, if it isn’t a fit, better to know right away […]
While this question is from a white woman dating a black man, the advice is universal for all interracial combinations. We dedicate an entire chapter on this subject in my book, Swirling.
It is rare that two colors so opposite go so well with each other. Unlike any combination in the color spectrum, black and white –no pun intended– are two very compatible colors, they were indeed made for each other. If you love this chic combination that became world famous during the Roaring Twenties, […]
By: Carla Ford Have you ever considered if you lived in the UK, would men of others races be more openly receptive in showing their attraction towards Black women? The eccentric, open-minded and tolerant reputation of the British is, in general, accurate. However, I often read American blogs that advise Black women to go to […]
There is no question that Lavern Cox is setting the world on fire. This African American beauty is one of the break away stars of Orange is the New Black and a staunch advocate of transgender issues and bullying. Some people may not think her message of acceptance and individuality does not apply to Black […]
I must admit, I like a man that is in tune with his body. Athletes and health conscious individuals are more than likely to have what I desire, namely, stamina, strength and an awareness of his body that ensures we will move in unison. Be it while dancing, or maneuvering a crowded street, or making […]
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People often wonder why this site sometimes discusses the relationships black men have with black women. The criticism is often, “If you’ve moved on with your white boy, why you still talking about black men?” I’ll give you a definitive reason right now. If what some black men do negatively affects black women, whom I […]
I’ve noticed that as my garden grows and changes, my body shrinks. I’m spending a lot of time taking care of what I’m growing and eating it along the way. In fact, about 60-70% of daily food consumption is coming from the garden and a few things are happening. The fiber intake is helping to […]
There’s a bunch of twists and turns in this one. Take a look and let’s discus!
I get a lot of letters from women who are asking my advice about a guy they’ve built up really large in their minds. It’s like these women are so focused on this ONE GUY that any and all potential suitors disappear. My friend Matthew Hussey has something to say about this. What you saw […]
By Pella I penned my last essay to start a discussion about the entitlement to women’s bodies, which (whoooo) it sure did create a discussion. One which I wasn’t able to actively participate in because unfortunately I have an early bedtime (don’t judge). There were some great comments and discussions going on however, a few […]
Some of you know that I’m friends with Speech Thomas, head of the legendary and iconic Arrested Development. He was a strong supporter of our No Wedding No Womb campaign and even did a song and video. They discovered me on Twitter when I was getting pummeled by “the black elite” for daring to say […]
Famed poet, activist, and author Maya Angelou has died at the age of 86. We send her family, friends and the literary community our heartfelt condolences. So in order to remember this amazing woman, I’ll leave you with my favorite poem and something I use to remind Black women of the awesome that is us. […]
I have to admit I was SCURRED to tell you guys I was in a new documentary called, The Swirl, only because the parent company, Moguldum Studios, publishes both Madame Noire and Bossip. It turns out I worried for nothing. Here’s the summary: The Swirl tackles societal and cultural issues relating to interracial dating, asking […]
If you’ve never gotten a chance to taste a berry fresh off the vine still pulsing with life and full of flavor, I’d venture to say you’ve never really tasted one. Even when you can get them fresh from the farmer’s market or flash frozen from the supermarket, the sheer pleasure of plucking a ripe […]