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Tell Um Why You Mad, Hun….

You know what I don't believe in.......? Being quiet when I'm pissed off or done wrong. There. I said it... I could give a flying pickle how anyone feels when I feel as if an abomination has occurred against my personhood. That 'Angry Black Woman' shit is and is not a cool moniker because I get that … Read More...


In Search Of My Past…Following the Ancestry Trail.

Growing up, I was always intrigued when my nonblack friends spoke of their ethnic roots. Some were Irish, others were German, Chinese, East Indian, and even Turkish. I wanted to be able to declare my heritage as well.  However, it was during a brief but separate conversation with each of my parents that led me […]

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Ciara Gets the Ring: Joins #TeamBabyMomma of B-List Urban Producer With Child Support Issues

You may or may not have heard of the singer Ciara, if you didn’t, don’t be alarmed. She’s known in Hip Hop to be the muse of Missy Elliot who rose to fame after the untimely death of the singer Aaliyah in 2001. Ciara was quietly tied as the romantic partner of rapper 50 Cent, […]

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Can We Get Past The Other N Word?

Jury Questionnaire I am not trivializing or trying to diminish Raeana Roberson’s outrage upon seeing a choice between African American and Negro on a jury questionnaire.  Unless someone can prove that there was malicious intent, or intentionally using the word in a negative context it was probably just an oversight.  But I do understand where […]

DJ Envy, parents, aspirations, motivation, reading, Twitter, Zaire Holmes, college, dance, competition, Academy Award, producer, Houston, Texas, TX, Miley Cyrus, Juicy J, scholarship, twerking, black girl, hip hop, urban, trippy, Twitter, WSHH, world star hip hop, drugs, ghetto,

Rapper Juicy J Awards 50K Twerking Scholarship: Proves a Point About the Hypocrisy of Urban Entertainers

You’ve probably never heard of the rapper Juicy J, and for that you should be grateful, because his music is by far some of the most nonsensical and ignorant mess I’ve heard on mainstream radio over the last few years. To say the content of his music is crass, destructive and promotes the worst in […]

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Perfectly Mixed: “What’s In My Hair”

Excerpt written by Abby Allen, creator of “Perfectly Mixed,” documenting the interracial experience in America through stories and professional photos.  (I’m “half-black and half-white” myself) . I am writing stories and taking photographs all culminating in a blog, I recently drove cross country interviewing dozens of people East to West, including the current First Lady of […]

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Yippee! Urban Decay Spring 2014 NAKED Line Expands to BB Cream, Loose Powder and a Slew of Glosses!

So…Urban Decay is at it again with more awesomeness with their new expansion to the NAKED line: BB Cream, Loose Powder, and Lip Gloss! Yes; I know UD had glosses before, but they’re normally in the squeeze tubes. This new line in NAKED has a handy-dandy wand to help it go on evenly. All the […]

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Death in the Family: ‘EarthJeff’ Loses His ‘Bee’

Announcement It is with great sadness that we inform you that EarthJeff, a member of the Beyond Black and White family has suffered the loss of his Lady know to us as Bee. “Bee’s ” actual name was Jennifer. Jennifer returned to the Lord’s bosom suddenly on January 13, 2014 Following an extended illness. We […]

Youtube, relationship, video, advice, online dating, long-distance, mating, Swirling, single mother, digital, games, Christmas, international, passport, intentions, honesty,

QOTW: “Is My Long-Distance Relationship a Big, Fat, Fake?”

I received this note from a reader a few weeks ago: “I am a single parent of twin seven year old boys and I live in Trinidad. I have known my friend who lives in Canada for almost 3 years. We’ve been skyping, texting, mailed Christmas and birthday cards. He’s even wired me money for […]

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Three Beauty Looks That Are So Right Now

It’s winter. We’re feeling it. We are mostly wearing dark clothes like black, grey, and burgundy. Most days, if we are honest, we really don’t feel like getting out of bed. The longer nights and oft-times dreariness of the season put most of us in a funk. So how do we get ourselves out of […]

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Black Father Gets Racist Hate Mail & Goes Viral…Because He’s Taking CARE OF HIS KIDS!

This story has appeared several times in my Facebook feed. Apparently Black fathers can’t do anything right when it comes to their kids. I don’t buy into the myth that Black men abandon their kids more than other fathers, I truly believe there is a certain type of man who could give two piles of […]

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Fall In Love with Kale. It Makes Your Hair Grow.

Okay I said that just to get your attention, but hey, a balanced diet composed of dark, green leafies will help you grow a head of healthy hair, along with glowing skin and phenomenal poop. I remember when kale was just a garnish you didn’t eat at the restaurant, along with that tiny sliver of […]