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Iffy Belly? No Waist to Speak Of? Consider the Monokini…

I am one of those unfortunate women who does not have an hourglass shape. Yes; I’m slim and fit, but no amount of exercise and diet will change my basic anatomy. So I have to fake it by choosing items in my wardrobe that give the illusion of an hourglass. Enter the most amaze balls […]

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I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on…

I had the opportunity of a lifetime today to speak my piece to Tyler Perry and get the peanut gallery to admit that colorism plays a MAJOR role in the dating options with black women. Oh, and we talked about my show, “Swirlr” too. During the show, Tyler Perry teased that black men have a […]

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Curvy Fashionista Talks Her Favorite Spring Looks…

Love this girl. Totally adorable. If you haven’t heard of the Curvy Fashionista, you’re way past due. Curvy Fashionista is seeing: White, white, and more white Black and white Crazy prints, tailored Sporty looks…fun tennis shoes Flared and wide legged jeans Lots of lace, lots of sheer

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Five Totally Unusual Ways to Travel Alone and Still Have a Great Time…

I know who you are…I see the stats. You’re single, young, educated, and have some money. So why haven’t you traveled abroad to discover the world and discover how fabulous the world thinks you are? Because you’d most likely have to do it alone, and that’s scary, right? But it you can muster up the […]

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Since You Asked…The Lipstick I Was Sporting When I Helped Hand…

LOL not really. I just love writing salacious headlines. Marc seems like a nice guy, just…perpetually “confused.” On purpose. Anyhoozle, I’ve been getting some messages about the lip color I was sporting and so I thought I’d share. It’s a tinted lip balm called “Big Apple” from CAILYN cosmetics. I told you in a previous […]

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Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and Friend, ‘Nicole…

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abundance’ has creating a femininity boot camp of sorts, and wants to share the knowledge… What is the definition of being feminine? Is it the way you dress or how great your manicure looks? Is being feminine […]

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Thank God Your Statuses Are Worth a Dang! New Study Says Emotions…

Better think real hard about what you write on your next Facebook status update. Your selfie could be the butterfly wing that starts the tsunami. Evidence from a University of California, San Diego, Yale University and Facebook Inc. reported Wednesday your status can effect the mood–positively or negatively–of others. First, the researchers found that a […]

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In Case You Missed It: Me, Gina from WAOD, and Dr. Yaba Blay Weigh in…

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How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually Aren’t Good…

I’m the type of female that listens with her Spidey sense when it comes to men attempting to state their case on why I should consider them a formidable suitor. And considering that this is a dating website, I’ll presume that you folks would love to determine who is and is not a good fit […]

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“My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Harassment and…

  One day, I was standing outside of a store waiting for my dad to meet me. While I was waiting, I made a phone call to my mom. While I was on the phone, I was approached my a man who was obviously more than twice my age who tried to engage me in […]

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It’s Not Always Easy To Love Me. But I Thank You For It…

I recently got an email from a supporter of mine who was worried about all the rumors going around about me–you know, the ones that say I’m an opportunist, I’m just in it for the money, I just want to throw black women under the bus. She asked me to explain myself, because she was […]

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Move Over, Halle–Lupita Up for the Role of X-Men’s…

I spend a large amount of time on social media.  I would dare to say at times its an unhealthy amount, since I can easily spend hours and hours enjoying conversation through my various social networks.  The photo above started to circulate the internet which was photo shopped by Marvel artist Mark Brooks, of Lupita Nyong’o as […]

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Monday Punday # 27…

Monday-Punday #27   SirLoin notes that one of the delights of teaching History is the occasional jewel of a student blooper in a essay, derived from students from 8th grade through College. Read carefully and you may learn a lot:   “The inhabitants of Egypt were called Mummies. They lived in the Sarah desert and […]

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Chef Bob’s Boston Baked Beans…

Boston Baked Beans When it comes to summer picnics, I look forward to a handful of things: blackened hot dogs on the grill, sweet corn on the cob, watermelon and baked beans. I’ve always heard rumblings that beans get a bad rap, especially among kids, but I’ve always been a fan. Whether it was refried […]

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London Calling…”Swirlr” Covered in “The Daily…

Okay now I’m feeling legit. Daily Mail is bomb.com. Guess those folks in the UK watch CNN too, because it’s pretty much a transcript of what I said, which sounds kind of incoherent, but WHATEVA!!! You guys, this is it. It looks like the world is recognizing the 15%, and those folks deserve to see […]

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Fear of Social Consequences Squelches Relationship Before It Starts.…

I just saw this response from a guy who commented on this post, and I thought it warranted a separate discussion: Sounds like this guy has some pretty serious issues. However, this is pretty typical of my experience with Black men when I dated a Black woman. Black guys constantly giving us looks, constantly going […]

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Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?…

I’ve watched with delight over the passed week since covering the Oscars and relishing in Lupita’s victory and observed all the speculation about what the actress’ next move will be. Not to go on a tangent, but what’s up with all this faux concern from black folks wringing their hands that Lupita is being fetishized? Don’t […]

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Check Out My “Swirlr” Interview on CNN/HLN…Now the…

I was sick as a dog doing this show, but I managed to keep it together long enough to not look like I was ready to throw up on my shoes. I love the folks over at CNN…they are the only network that’s been so supportive of the notion of our changing demographic, and acknowledging […]

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Ain’t No Mountain High Enough – The Barbara Hillary Story…

  I stumbled across this video of the fabulous Barbara Hillary a couple years back and revisited it today.  As a relationship coach, I meet many women who don’t think they could go across town alone.  Some will call their mothers for something as simple as breaking a necklace, or have a fit if they can’t […]