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Episode of Three of “Swirlr” is Here! And the Drama Begins…

In this episode, clients Quintana and Kurt interact with the candidates to test their chemistry. Kurt seems to hit it off with each of the three girls I pick for him, guess which one he might be surprised. Also, there's some drama at the end because Quintana can't seem to make up her … Read More...

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Matthew Hussey’s “Unconventional” 9 Steps on How to Get the Guy You Want

Matthew Hussey, relationship coach and best-selling author of the “Get the Guy” recently did a video he says is a can help you get the guy you want in nine steps. Some of the advice is a bit…unconventional, like skipping a shower and showing up in your pajamas if that’s what you feel most comfortable […]

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A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How He Can Approach Black Women. Have At It, Ladies.

I don’t know if you guys realize how much of an impact this site has, and how many notes I get like this on a weekly basis. Men you thought would never take you seriously, would never love or marry you, would never take you out in public, and all the other LIES being told […]

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Take a Look at This EBONY News Release and Tell Me What’s Wrong.

I got the following news release from the public relations reps over at EBONY magazine. In the May issue of EBONY magazine, the publication partnered with the W.K. Kellogg Foundation (WKKF) to release the State of the Black Family Survey.  In the study, a national sample of 1,005 African-American respondents identified job loss and financial […]

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Essay by the Newest BB&W Blogger: ” The truth was I loved black women.”

Zac is a Facebook friend of mine, quite smart, quite cute, and has a lot of deep thoughts. He hails from Chicago. Hit him up on Facebook here. Zac: “I Never Had a Type” I never had a type.  Sure, I remember those conversations;  I just didn’t have anything to contribute.  Like anyone, I could […]


WHEW! Halle Berry Calls Her Hubby “Delicious.” Guess They’re Still a Thing!

Hey you Halle Berry fans, your worries might be over. Looks like Halle Berry is loving on her husband, Oliver Martinez, and calls him “delicious.” Here, see for yourself… video platformvideo managementvideo solutionsvideo player While I’m still holding my breath on whether or not this union will last, I’m glad that things seems to be […]


How Bleaching Products Promoted Colorism in the 1950′s

I saw this on “SwirlQueen’s” Facebook feed, published in the 1952 issue of Jet magazine. You know, that magazine that’s supposed to celebrate black people??   What you’re looking at, ladies and gentlemen, is a damn-near-white black woman embracing her black kang. What was the message? “Listen dark butts! Use this cream and then maybe […]


Jennette McCurdy Messed with the Wrong Dude; Hit Show Gets Cancelled After Andre Drummond (Allegedly) Leaks Racy Photos

There’s a lesson in here somewhere, I’m sure of it. Jennette McCurdy, co-star of the hit Nick show, Sam and Cat, got a rude awakening after she messed with the wrong baller by publicly criticizing his (lack of) sexual prowess. After McCurdy publicly shamed Drummond’s kissing skills and lack of romantic game, a racy photo […]

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The Picture That Changed My Life

  I posted the photograph below on my Facebook page last week. It brought back fond memories for Brenda Thompson so she shared a nostalgic story with me. And now I am sharing it with you. Enjoy! __________ The Picture That Changed My Life By Brenda Thompson Ronnie Bennett, Phil Spector, Estelle Bennett George Harrison, […]

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Gabriel Aubry Enjoys Spring Break with Nahla; Comments on How Much Emma Looks Like Her.

One thing you can always be certain of is, you hang around the haunts of LA types and you’ll eventually see some celebrities. That’s what happened when me and the family took a jaunt up to Santa Barbara for a mini spring break vacation. On our last day we just so happened to camp next […]


Photo of the Day: I Smile, Through Chaffed Thighs.

I write this piece, dirty and dusty, after 1.5 hours on a cantankerous horse that I think was trying to kill me today on a trail in the Santa Barbara mountains. We’re on a mini vacation on the outskirts of the S.B., and The Hubster and I thought it would be a good idea to […]


Who Gets Away With Raping Innocent Kids? Blackinstani Folks and Really Rich White People.

This headline stuck in my craw this evening: “Du Pont Heir Gets Probation for RAPING Three-Year-Old Daughter.” The suuummmbitch… And why, pray tell, did the judge give him such a lenient sentence? Because he was so worried about the near 300-pound and over six-foot-tall pedophile having it hard in prison. So let me get this […]