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Troll Asks, “What Race Will Your Kids Be?”…

Don’t you find it interesting how invested some people are in delineating and categorizing biracials or people claiming to be more than one race? I got such a note from a troll who was “concerned” about how my children will identify themselves. They want my kids to “pick a side,” or perhaps adhere to the […]

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Leona’s Love Quest: With Every End Comes a New Beginning…

Leona’s Love Quest  With Every End Comes a New Beginning The end of the spring semester is always bittersweet for me. Not only do I have to say good-bye to my best senior students but the end of the school year is always jam-packed with an insane amount of activity.  I’ve spent ten out of […]

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Unexpected Use for Pet Bedding in the Garden!…

If you planning on gardening in pots or raised beds this growing season, consider this discovery I found for keeping your soil cool and moist during the hottest dog days of summer–kiln dried pine bedding, often used as pet litter for small rodents. This stuff is amaze balls! I’m using this stuff as a ground […]

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Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3…

Last week I was directed to an informal study by Best Black Dating Sites that caused a mini uproar, but thanks to the mainstream black media’s persistent silence in reporting ANYTHING that make black men look bad, it has been relatively contained. The news was that there are only 3 “good” black men for every […]

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Open Thread: The sexy men of BB&W…

The incomparable Trinigirl1 has done it again. You posted them and she set it all to music. Ladies……. and gents please enjoy this montage of the great guys we love waking up next to and living our wonderful lives with.  

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Are You Brave Enough to ‘Cut Bait’ In Order to Make Room…

A friend of mine recently shared with me her dissatisfaction with a man whom she’s been seeing. Early in the relationship, he came on strong, full of promises and plans for what they would do together and how he would wine and dine her, give her his time and attention in order to win her […]

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The Travel Bug and Why I’m Okay With Being “Too…

Anyone else here tired of being told that the reason they’re still single is that they’re too picky? Yeah, I thought so. I’ve been hearing this line since the day I turned 21. Over the last 17 years, it hasn’t gotten any less annoying. Lately, the criticism has been leveled at my desire for a […]

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Why Is Ben Affleck Scared for the Public to Know His Ancestors Owned…

The Sony leaks are the embarrassing gift that keeps on giving. The most recent what-the-cuss was news that actor Ben Affleck lobbied to have the show, Finding Your Roots, omit their discovery that his family owned slaves. Asking such a thing is apparently against PBS editorial standards, but hey! It’s Ben Affleck!! Gawker acquired a […]

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Product Pick for Defined and Moisture-Rich Curls…

I just picked up Ouidad’s Whipped Curls Daily Conditioner and Styling Primer on a whim, because I’ve noticed recently that several hair manufacturers are trying to deliver styling products in mousse form. But a mousse is a mousse, right? They all tend to have the light and airy texture that most do. Not Quidad’s Whipped […]

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Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More…

I got a slew of messages about this video… (First thing, all these couples should go to You Tube because their images are being used, more than likely without their permission, with is totally illegal.)   The fact that this video has been shared on Facebook over 38,000 times and co-signed by many makes me […]

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Open Thread: Parenting the biracial child.…

I read this exchange on the Recent Incident in Maine a Sober Reminder That Interracial Couples are Still a Target article and thought it important enough for it to have it’s own thread. For those of you parenting biracial children please share your stories and questions.  For those of you who are old hands at it do […]

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Continued Victory…Our Voice is Being Heard Worldwide!…

Got this letter from a man in Quebec. It’s amazing how our platform is reaching so far and wide…and we’re virtually the counter balance to all the other black, head-in-the-sand media that refuses to tell the truth. What is more, the men are listening. They’re on this blog, and they’re REALLY on You Tube.  Dear […]

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In the Garden: Purple Cabbage and Coleslaw!…

I know you pass it in the produce section, and you probably think it’s pretty, and with that deep purple, it’s probably got all kinds of antioxidants and stuff you know you’re supposed to consume, but you don’t have any darned idea what to do with it. Cabbage is part of the brassica family, so […]

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QOTW: Texting Vs. Face to Face Contact…Which is Better?…

Got this note from a real cutie…I’m going to put his photo up here. Poor Bambi tho…deer looking like, “Why?! WHYYYYY??????” Not even gonna lie…love when the youngsters hit me up like this. Warms my heart… Hey Christelyn ! I had a question for you I watch alot of your youtube videos, I think you are awesome. […]

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BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family…

BB&W family, I really need your help. There is a sorry-excuse for a man name Sergeant Willy Pete who makes regular videos criticizing me, which is fine, but now he has gone one step further an bringing my my children, lusting after my daughter, accusing me of ruining my children, and infringing my copyrights. This […]

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Reader Responds to “What Black Men Think of Natural Hair”…

Yesterday I got the best letter. It was from Kelvin Bulluck, a photographer in the Baltimore area. Hello Christelyn, I recently came across your post on “What Black Men Think of Natural Hair” & first let me start by thanking you for sharing your opinion on the topic.  I got a kick out of reading it, […]

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QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too…

The question: I just recently signed up for your email subscription. I get so excited when an email pops up from you. I enjoy reading the questions and articles you share. I recently started dating a white man and I really like him a lot. He treats me wonderfully. Always holds my hand in public, […]

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Orange (Makeup) Is the New Black: Quick Skin Prep, Tutorial and…

I absolutely love spring! It’s time to break out the flirty and feminine dresses, and get colorful with the makeup. The theme for today is orange, with a little bit of brown and a touch of copper…   Before you apply…prep your skin!! Your face is the palette, so make sure it’s in the best […]

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New Study Suggests Professional Black Women “Marry Down”…

It’s well known that most black women are taught by their parents to get through school, don’t get pregnant, and don’t worry about getting a man while you’re getting your degree. So we do it and it’s done. But when it’s time to start looking for a mate that is comparable with our achievements, the […]

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Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!…

Say what you want about her mouth, but Azealia Banks is aesthetically cute as a button, and boy, can she pull ’em. Check out her rumored new boo…Jesse Bradford! Remember him in Swim Fan? You know what else I love? Looks like this pretty-fly-for-a-white guy is publicly expressing Azealia’s superiority in his mind, versus Iggy… […]