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SirLoin’s Babe Wenesday: She’s got Legs.

She's got legs, she knows how to use them She never begs, she knows how to choose them She's holding leg wondering how to feel them Would you get behind them if you could only find them? She's my baby, she's my baby Yeah, it's alright The girl is alright, she's alright … Read More...

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Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed…

You won't want to miss this. One of the most touching letters I've ever received. Ladies, don't let anyone tell you that non-black men are not checking for you, won't love you, cherish you, or try to understand you. Reading this letter will change … Read more...

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Looking back on it…

She Walks in Beauty She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And all that's best of dark and bright Meet in her aspect and her eyes:   Thus mellowed to that tender light Which heaven to gaudy … Read more...

Valparaiso, Chile, black girl's guide to travel, overseas, education, travel, living abroad, international travel, Chile, women traveling, adventure, expat,

Guest Writer: A Black Girl’s Guide to Studying…

Meet Tiana (left) and Angel (right)--two brown girls who met while studying abroad in Chile! ☺   Valparaíso, Chile, with its art-splashed buildings, sloped hills, and turn of the century –styled funiculars, is often called the “San Francisco of South … Read more...

black girls, violence towards black women, abuse, society, culture, rape culture, racism, media, stereotypes, technology, awareness,

Where Did 64,000 Black Women and Girls Go?…

A person doesn't just disappear into thin air but you would think they do when you learn that 64,000 Black women and girls are currently missing in the United States. With nearly every cell phone having GPS, digital cameras and satellites everywhere, … Read more...

advice, Youtube, video, dating, single motherhood, pregnancy, fatherless children, casual sex, regrets, young women,

#NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the…

It's very rare that I get questions that stir my emotions, frustrate me, and make me deeply sad. I just received such a letter from a very young woman, and while I'm not sure if this entry will make a difference in her situation, I hope that perhaps … Read more...

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Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian…

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes, thick hair and skin that turns bronze in the sun. Indeed, the mystery and enticement of Indian men … Read more...

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Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive…

Whew. Got back from the Tenth Annual BlogHer conference in San Jose feeling a bit nervous. I mean, I called everyday to say hello to the hubby and kids, and remind Clo Clo to water the plants. A lot. Because the heat was well into the 90's, and since … Read more...

sex, intimacy, dating, mating, relationships, online dating, healthy communication, red flags, rules of dating, advice,

Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?…

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pretty much the same amount as the last two or three years. I meet and talk to new guys every week. … Read more...

QOTW, advice, white friends, black friends, bias, race, culture, education, teaching moments,

QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black…

How many us have felt like you've had to be the ambassador of all black people when you're around people of other races? On guy wrote me, fed up that his friends keep putting his girlfriend in uncomfortable positions. I made this video while at the … Read more...

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Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and…

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, "My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I'm Black." I'll admit, the first thought the writer was talking about a white guy whom she dated and once introduced to family, was unceremoniously dumped. … Read more...

99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem.…

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still wheat) with some of my husband's almond milk (he opts for the sweetened kind). It was after 11, and I … Read more...

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TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..…

I heard about the fan fare involving Michael Jackson and dem during the early 80's but I just wasn't into him like that. The bad boy image and curly kit seemed a bit much too for me so I turned my eyes towards another type of brown boy crush. Since … Read more...

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JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!…

Hi ladies, it’s been a long time since I’ve written here and it got me thinking that it’s high time that we shared our overseas experiences. This is where the article involves your participation! I love reading positive articles of black women … Read more...

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Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People…

The East Coast folks know that we're on a tight deadline. These days you can't quite tell when Summer springs or when Winter will Fall through, so it makes the most sense to get all early dating phase-ish things out the way while you can still can. … Read more...

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Reader Letter: Black Woman Married to a Black Man Sees…

I love it when people finally "get" it. The letter... I pop in on your site from time to time and my feelings about what you are trying to do have run the gamut. But your recent posts have made it clear to me that I misjudged your intent, and I … Read more...

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Love It! Couple I Interviewed for Loving Day 2014 Tied…

I just love it when this happens, and it happens a lot. Last year, courtesy of online dating site, DateWhoYouWant.com, I was able to attend the 2013 Loving Day flagship celebration in New York City. While I was there, I met a couple and did a … Read more...

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Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric…

Many of you know that I draw a hard line on black men in the community who abandon their children en masse and never even think of marrying the voluminous baby mamas they have peppered all over their blighted neighborhoods. So when I first read … Read more...

tomatoes, organic, food, health, gardening, veggies, DIY, make it at home, entertaining, weight loss, nutrition, urban gardening, lifestyle, economics, Roma tomatoes, Home Depot, affordable, cooking, dining, family, hobby, wellness,

Nutritious, Delicious, and Filling: How to Make Your…

I've had mixed success with tomatoes this season. My heirloom tomatoes I grew from seed have produced "meh,"  (good but not prolific) but the two vines of organic, non-GMO roma tomatoes I bought from Home Depot as starter plants have taken off. These … Read more...

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Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up…

Take a look at this specimen of perfection... So who is he? He's Nick Bateman. A model, actor, and wanna-be Ninja Turtle that has everyone on Facebook--both gay and straight--going completely bat shit. I just may have to leave my husband … Read more...

beauty tips, makeup, pink lipstick, fashion, style, Mineral Fusion, colors, Spring, inspiration, Chris tries it for you,

OMG Pink for Dark Girls…Yay Mineral Fusion!…

I have about a half dozen pink lipsticks in my stash, so many that it took me a dog's life to get to trying a Mineral Fusion shade that just about knocked my socks off. You are looking at me wearing, CHARMING, the pink shade of lipstick offered … Read more...