New Anti-Swirling Meme: “How Can You Oppose Racism And Be Attracted To White Men?”

I’ve been seeing the following bit of stupid making its way around the web at an increased clip. The people who are desperate to guilt-trip black women (and make no mistake, this is almost always brought out to shame black women EXCLUSIVELY…) out of exercising their dating and marriage options will often pull this argument[...] Read More…

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(Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and Interracial Dating.

Writer: Hey my name is "Sue" I'm a black female live in St.Louis Mo I have had bad relationship with black men so I decided to date white men my last relationship was a white male we was together for 1 year but it didn't end well he broke up with me … Read More

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Open Thread: Does Being a Natural Make You Feel Like a Different Person?

I have a confession. I don't think I'll ever where my hair straight again for any length of time. Why? Because I feel like straightening my hair makes me look...ordinary. Like every other black chick with hair down her back. Boring. I … Read More

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QOTW: White Guy, 51, Ready to Get His Swirl On…

The question: Just wanted to say thank you for your advice on fyooz for non-black men on dating or even just letting a black woman know that I'm interested.  I'm a 51 year old white guy, most people think I'm about 40 :), divorced for going on nine … Read More


Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

Since I can only take one post per day of people attacking me on my opinions on whether the sky is blue or not, I'm going to simply report the news on this one and let you draw your own conclusions. Universal Pictures recently put out a casting call … Read More

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TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

Children!! I've got a confession to make. When I was but a wee babe, there was no such thing as (c)rap music!! There wasn't much R&B (as you know it) and there certainly wasn't dedicated radio stations, let alone the internet wouldn't be along … Read More

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Unspeakable! New Jersey Reporter Fired for Telling the DAMN TRUTH!

We live in such a crazy time in America, when saying the obvious will literally get you fired and physically and socially ruin you. I know back in 2010 when I organized No Wedding, No Womb, I could do so because I was beholden to no one  for my … Read More


Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

Some people wonder why this blog continues to talk about black men in reference to black women dating interracially. It would seem at the surface, that since we have moved on, there should be no further discussion. However, many black women … Read More


Got to Give Credit Where It’s Due…Some Real Knights Rode in to Save Rachel Jeantel

I have to admit I was among the folks who cringed with Rachel Jeantel took the stand in the Trayvon Martin murder trail. She was a walking, talking stereotype--chip on her shoulder, absolutely no concept of social etiquette, poor grammar with the … Read More


Hilarious Weird Al “Tacky” Has Aisha Tyler and Jack Black Acting Ridiculous

Weird Al's still got it! Jack Black is a twerking fool, and Aisha looks adorable even when she's trying to look tacky. On an aside, what products you think Al is using on his curly locks? Just wondering. Bet he lurks on the natural hair … Read More

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Watermelon in a Pot? Yaaaaaeeessss….

Nothing says summer like a ripe, juicy watermelon. That's why I'd decided to grow some despite my extremely limited garden space. Watermelon vines require a lot of space so they and ramble, so it would seem almost impossible to think that you can … Read More

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It Started with Just a Few Voices, and Now a Cocophany: The Forces Speaking Up for Black Women Are Being Heard, and Some Folks are Scared

When you've been blogging for nearly five years, you begin to notice some trends. For instance, I remember when I first came on the scene and the sacred cows that black women weren't to EVER discuss--the humungousgargantuanbigass out-of-wedlock … Read More

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Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition

Did you shed a tear when you found out this is the final season of the True Blood franchise? I know I am not the only one exceptionally in love with this mystical story about a small town that contained some of the sexiest bi-identified vampires and … Read More

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More Black Women Taking Up the Fight to Tackle Obesity

It's no secret that some black women have a complicated relationship with food. For some of us, food means love, comfort, safety. When you're stressed with all the toils of life, there's little more heavenly than a Krispy Kreme doughnut, Popeye's … Read More