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Were You Aware of the Federal Cyber Breech?…

By Matthew W. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you probably know that a foreign adversary (likely the People’s Republic of China) breached the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) data of four million federal workers.  This number includes current and former federal employees.  OPM is the federal government’s human resource agency. According to the […]

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QOTW: White Guy Only Wants Dark, Thin Black Girls. Is He Wrong?…

Got this note from “Mark” Hi Christelyn, I’m a big fan of yours and I really enjoy watching your videos, partly because you’re so attractive. I’m a white guy who has never had a girlfriend but I would love to have an interracial relationship with a black girl. Going through high school I never really […]

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Can’t Grow Out? Grow Up! Vertical Gardening Product To Try and…

Gotta love the Earthbox Garden Kit. I like it because has rollers so it makes moving your plants around a bit easier, and you can plant virtually anything in them, from artichokes to zucchini. No…I’m serious! Just don’t try to plant fruit trees or anything like that in them. It’s great for first time gardeners […]

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Beyond the Douche: Natural Ways to Keep It Fresh…Down There…

  Do you know what causes your “secret garden” to sometimes have a smell more like rotting compost than flowers? Unless you have an infection or STI, the odor you smell is the byproduct of bacterial growth, and the waste. Gross I know. It’s especially a problem during the hot, humid summer months when your […]

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Five Protective Styles For Medium Length Hair to Preserve Moisture and…

While I love my ‘fro, my last visit to Supercuts forced me to reevaluate how often I’m exposing my ends–the oldest and most vulnerable part of my hair to breakage and split ends. Today in Temecula it was 100 degrees and so dry it felt like we were living in a blow dryer. Yet when […]

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Austin Null Speaks On How White Husbands Can Talk to Their Black Wives…

I love the Nive Nulls. The usually keep it pretty light, so I was really happy when Austin decided to address the recent events in McKinney, Texas. He got really personal. I love that he did several things in this video: He acknowledged his privilege as a white person. He was able to be reflective […]

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WTF is WRONG with the Police? Teen Girl Gets Hair Pulled, Handcuffed…

I’m literally speechless right now. Just saw the video of the young, black teenagers in Texas gathered to have some end-of-the-year fun in typical suburban fashion. A pool party in an upscale neighborhood drew the concern of residents because…well…too many damn black people were showing up. Never mind that these kids were obviously well spoken […]

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When We Win, the Claws Come Out…On the Bashing of Serena…

I get it. For some folks (white people, I’m looking at you) tennis is a sport for the wealthy, country club crowd and skinny blondes with long legs. It’s got some of you foaming at the mouth that a very thick, muscular, BLACK woman from Compton keeps handing those chicks their asses on the court. […]

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Open Thread: A few of my favorite things.…

Time to unwind from the world’s stresses. Inspired by this entry by Trinigirl1: I think we should post a few of our favorite things.  The things that ease your mind.  The things that make you feel centered and at peace or are just plain fun. Just let your minds go free be it words, music, […]

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Black Woman WINNING! Franchesca Gets Her Own Show with MTV!…

I am so bursting with excitement right now…Franchesca Ramsey, You Tube sensation and all around awesome chick just got her own MTV web series called Decoded. We love Chescaleigh round these parts because she’s as awesome online as she is in person! She also got married recently to this cutie, who proposed in PARIS!!   […]

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Open Thread: What are You Teaching Your Daughters?…

My little Chloe had her 5th grade promotion yesterday. She made the honor roll and everything–my little Clo Clo is a smart one! At the end of the program, her class sang, “Do I Make You Proud?” and I crumpled down into a puddle of tears. Yes; indeed she makes me proud. But as she […]

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The Hate is Real: Facebook Group Vows Revenge on Black Women with…

People wonder why this blog still talks about the dysfunctions in the black community. They argue that we should just ride into the sunset with “Biff” and shut up. The problem with that is, the hateful factions of that black community continue to threaten, harass, and wish violence on black women. Too bad most people […]

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QOTW: Are You Keeping Your Interracial Dating Preferences in the…

The question… Hi there,  I am a fan of your website, and lurked for over a year before I decided to participate not long ago.  I hope you don’t mind, but I wondered if it would be possible to do a question of the week directed at black women and white men who are still […]

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Carl: A Message to Black Women…

Hello everyone. I am a white man who is rather fond of women, I happen to have a strong affinity for black women. Most of you who watch Christelyn’s videos have most likely heard my voice. I have the benefit of watching this world of Beyond Black and White and those who attack it from […]

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White Father Worries Because Kenyan Daughter “Wants My Skin…

“My wife and I have been together long enough for both of our daughters to not remember any other type of family unit.  My Caucasian daughter is nine and my cultural (Kenyan) and step daughter is 6.  Mya the 6 year old recently told my she wanted her skin to be my color.  I asked her why. But […]

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Wear Green Eyeshadow…Like a BOSS!…

Summer is a time for color…lots of it! That doesn’t just go for your clothes, either. I like to create looks that coordinate with my outfits…and I’ve got a few lime green outfits in my closet just dying to be paired with this look! Don’t believe anyone who tells you that bright bold colors aren’t […]

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Weddings, Weddings , BB&W Weddings!…

Just in time for “Loving Month!!” Well, do we have a treat for all of you. Sit back and relax with something nice to drink because you are going to a wedding. In fact, you’re going to several. What follows is a compilation of weddings….our kind….. that were taken from BB&W, around the web and from […]

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How to Grow Cucumbers in a Pot…

I’m going to churn these out (hopefully) once a week through the summer. It’s not too late to plant cucumbers from seed for a fall harvest, but if you’d like to enjoy them before summer is over, pick up some starter plants at your local plant store. That will take off about a month of […]

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QOTW: How to Get the Guy You Want with Confidence, Compliments and a…

I recently got two letters that said the same thing. Hello Chris, I enjoy going on your website. It’s very informative and heartwarming to see such happy couples. I also like your videos. You seem to give good advice. I am a twenty three year old black girl who has moved across the country a […]

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Gardening 101: Fight the Conspiracy to Keep You Fat!!…

People have been asking me for a more comprehensive introduction to gardening, along with some resources to books and stuff that I reference. Well wait not longer…here is is…all 20+ minutes of it. Emma and Zachary make an appearance, too.   I’m really serious about the grocery store challenge. Go into your local store and […]