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Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black…

Got this note today. It’s an important reminder about why interracial dating is often more complicated for black women and non-black men, and why this site is so important, and why our critics are terrified that it exists. Christelyn, I’m a religious reader of your site, and love to hear your responses to guys’ questions […]

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Great Times at SXSW…

I recently had the pleasure of checking off a bucket list item: attending the SXSW Film Festival! It was my first time in Austin and everyone I met was amazingly nice (not to mention the excellent BBQ I enjoyed). I saw unique, engaging films featuring people of color and/or women, graciously received autographs from two […]

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Breaking Point? What’s Up with All These Stories of Black Women…

I woke up to yet another story of a black woman who brutally killed her child in a restaurant bathroom. She’s 35, most likely a single mother. From the New York Daily News: A “soulless” mother shockingly killed her 20-month-old son in the bathroom of a Midtown burger joint Monday — and prevented restaurant workers […]

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QOTW: Hispanic Man Hesitant to Approach Black Women……

The Question: “Hey Christelyn just wanted some advice on how to approach black women i’m hispanic but i am mixed with white/american indian(cherokee)/and mexican. i do get alot of stares from black women (interested stares) but i am scared to approach them because i know how black people can be( the families not the girl) […]

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Black and White Gingham and Red All Over……

This weekend was a double whammy of a good time for me. I attended one of my favorite yearly conventions, the Make Up Show Los Angeles, and while I was there, I got a chance to see Matthew Hussey at one of his live events. Matthew is amaze balls, but more on that later. Here’s […]

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Black Beauty: Celebrating Black Women’s Luscious Lips…

By Zara Let’s face it, our lips are so juicy that they go out and buy them – but without wanting to give us the credit where it is due! We often hear about the “great lips” of certain white actresses and public personalities (who shall remain nameless) but we NEVER hear about the numerous black women […]

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Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed…

Now…I didn’t see this coming. Looks like Azealia Banks dates white men, and prefers to do so over black men.   I would have never guessed. Humans are complicated, are they not? What I found interesting is the response Clutch had about this: It’s always interesting to hear why someone chooses to not date their […]

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False Claims of Racial Profiling Like Son of Taraji P. Henson and…

I’d read in passing curiosity that Empire star, Taraji P. Henson had decided to take her son out of USC, one of the top, most coveted universities in the country, and transfer him to Howard University–also a great school and as HBCUs go it’s the cream of the crop. The reason? Outrage over the belief […]

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More Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women…

We got great feedback on our last rundown of film and TV projects featuring black women so here’s more news. Film Kerry Washington to portray Anita Hill. Rihanna’s animated film, Home, opened at #1 with over $54 million at the box office, sounding beating expectations. View a few clips here. A film on baseball phenom […]

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QOTW: Featuring ‘Maxi Me,’ Discussing High School Love and…

Brought in heavy reinforcements on this! Here’s the question: “I’m 16 years old and I’ve never even had a boyfriend before, sometimes I am content, but most of the time I am very lonely, the thing is, is that I have always been attracted to boys of other races, I have never been attracted to […]

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Advertisers Take Notice at Rise in Multicultural Families…

If you’ve had a feeling all the ads with interracial couples and mixed-race kids has recently ramped up, it’s not your imagination. In a report by Nielsen, The Multicultural Edge: Rising Super Consumers, young and savvy spenders are setting trends and establishing brand relationships with companies that confirm their existence. From the report: The Multicultural […]

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Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE…

Blackish, a comedy about prosperous black people who are relatively normal gets three million viewers. Empire, a show displaying black dysfunction, greed, and all around ratchetry gets 11 million viewers a week, and is celebrated in major black media outlets across the internet. Take a GOOD look at the two families represented in the photos […]

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Video: New Technology in Hair Care…

So I have to admit I’ve been having a lot of good hair days…so I thought it might be a good time to discuss advances in hair care that works to keep the hair on your head longer, thus granting you additional growth and thickness.Take a look…       Items I mention in the […]

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Cute Cheschleigh Video Explains Privilege Like You’re a…

This is probably the cutest and least irritating explanation of privilege ever. Kudos to  Chescaleigh and animator, Kat Blaque. That’s what I’m talkin’ bout…two sisters working together to make it happen!  

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History: Swirling for the Sake of the Children (and Yourselves) …

By Stanley Solomillo  African, Asian and multiracial adults with monoracial, biracial, and multiracial children standing in front of an unidentified school in Suriname (c. 1910).  Courtesy Janet Reiziger.  In 1910 a photograph was taken of children and adults in front of an unnamed school, possibly in Paramaribo, the capital of the Dutch colony of Suriname […]

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Carrie: “The Fling That Turned Into A Thing?”…

“The Fling That Turned Into A Thing?” By Carrie Thompson For perspective on this story, make sure you first read this. He is deserving of my vagina, but I’m still not giving it to him. For starters he does not reside full-time in America, a jet-setting golfer strongly opposed to have his personal business on the internet. […]

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Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than…

We’ve all heard it before. Black women swearing they won’t date interracially because they’ve bought into the notion that only a black man can understand “the struggle.” Okay; let’s say that is so. Does that trump everything else? I mean, once you’ve raged on how unfair the white supremacist system is, what else have you […]

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Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says…

Since I’ve started blogging, I’ve heard lots of rumblings from young women that guys today are just…different. Dates have become “hangouts at the apartment with a hope of a hook up,” less men willing to wine and dine, and more men avoiding marriage. And at least one author, Janice Shaw Crouse, author of Marriage Matters, […]

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Jim and Allie – Timing Is Everything…

Allie, 46, and Jim, 44, met 23 years ago, when she was a recently-graduated student at the Coast Guard training center where Jim taught. At the time, she was dating his colleague, but she says she had a crush on him from the first day she met him. “It was his confidence, and caring personality,” […]

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Click, Date, Love: Getting the Most Out of Online Dating…

A few weeks ago, we announced my participation in Laurie Davis’ Click Date Love group coaching series. Since then, we’ve had three sessions, and you know what, I’m actually excited to try online dating again. I haven’t purchased a Match.com membership yet because I’ve been crazy busy working my day job, traveling (post coming soon […]