dating, relationships, swirlr, mixed marriage, culture, stereotypes, etiquette, black men, cheapskates, don't date him girl,

Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy Who Wants to Go…

So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog’s goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software engineer who claims to make six figures who expects a woman to go halvsies with him when he asks her out on a date. I was aghast at the […]

recipe, cooking, beef, DIY, dining, entertaining, dinner, winter, meals, preparation, family, eating, cooking, Chef Bob

Chef Bob: Braised Oxtails with Mushrooms Recipe…

Braised Oxtails with Mushrooms Recipe Flavorful beef oxtails are braised in wine and chicken stock with mushrooms, leeks, garlic, and herbs. Plan ahead for this one so you can de-fat the dish before serving with noodles or mashed potatoes. Prep Time: 10 minutes Cook Time: 3 hours, 15 minutes Total Time: 3 hours, 25 minutes […]

art, Betti Ono Gallery, Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, Oakland, California, catcalling, social campaign, exhibit, black women, sexual harassment, California, event,

Stop Telling Women to Smile comes to Oakland!…

  I am very proud to share that the Stop Telling Women to Smile campaign that I backed continues to roll along. Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, the artist spearheading the public art campaign to raise awareness of street harassment, will be in Oakland, CA February 19th-28th. During the week, she will host group discussions, artist talks and pasting flyers […]

Sophie Okonedo, mixed marriage, culture, relationships, blended families, swirling, Africa, international, documentary, society, sandra laing, apartheid, economics, class, black women, laws, rules, racism,

The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Privilege, Rejection…

Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here.  From the Guardian: The black woman – with white parents Sandra Laing was born black, but to white parents. It would have been strange anywhere – but in apartheid South Africa it was disastrous. Long […]

rent-a-gent, valentine's day, holiday, chinese new year, romance, dating, single women, escorts,

Need A Boyfriend For Valentine’s Day? Rent One!…

Are you tired of being the only manless woman in your circle of friends? Does your family constantly ask you if you’re seeing anyone? If you’ve got $525 and can pay round trip air fare from China plus accommodation, you can rent a man. Many young people face crushing pressure to show off a sweetheart […]

culture, race, ethnic, names, children, blended families, racism, discrimination, privilege, society, employment, stigma, dating, relationships, insight, black men, options,white men, black women, dating, interracial marriage, blended families, relationships, romance, flirting, advice, reader question, looking for love,

Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Place…

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were black? So awhile back, I wrote about my interest in using a matchmaker. Oddly enough, my search has led to a familiar place: a dating pool […]

dating, Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited, Sam Vaknin, book, author, narcissistic, disorders, illness, crazy men, advice, matchmaker, Swirlr, Jordan Harbinger, dangerous men,

Do You Recognize a Psycho When You See One? Jordan Harbinger,…

My friend and “Swirlr” co-host, Jordan Harbinger just interviewed a very dangerous man: an admitted narcissistic psychopath. You must listen when you can. It WILL help you protect yourself. There are more of these people walking amongst us that we realize. “As a psychopath I abuse as thoughtlessly and automatically as you breathe … I […]

marriage, couples, interracial dating, women with kids, black women, options, choices, divorce, family, widowers, men with kids, advice, swirling, blended families,

Inside the Male Mind: Why Divorced Single Mothers Get a Pass and Why…

I’m about to get really real in here for a minute, and what I’m about to say is going to offend a lot of people. I understand that. And I need to first say I do not agree with this notion, but that doesn’t negate the FACT that these ideas persist. We’re having a pretty […]

Tritan-plastic-cup-font-b-water-b-font-bottle-outside-sport-cqua-font-b-lemon-b

Health: Bad News for Diet Soda Drinkers–Study Says They Make You…

You think you’re doing something better for yourself when you skip all the sugary stuff at the fountain drink station for a seemingly-better choice of sugar-free diet soda to sip with your triple cheeseburger and chili fries, but you aren’t, according to a research team led by Dr. Sara N. Bleich at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg […]

Twitter, love, relationships, advice, questions, public forum, matchmaker, swirling, biracial, interracial, marriage, love, social media, expert,

Relationship Tweet Chat Today, 4PM PST/7PM EST…

I get so many relationship questions that I often can’t get to them all. But today, I’m going to be part of a tweet chat with my fellow co-founders of the She Thrives Network! One of our founders, Gennifer Miller, works as a matchmaker and coach, so you do not want to miss the chance […]

goals

Blessed? Amazing?! Wonderful?!! How Is Your 2014 Looking So Far?…

Thus far, my year has been all of the above and more! How many of you made New Year’s Resolutions at the end of 2013? Well, now that one month has passed since those resolutions were made its time to have a period of reflection. Look at your resolutions. What did you accomplish in the […]

cooking, healthy, treats, kitchen, home, drinks, recipe, Maxwell House, coffee, chard, spinach, almonds, ice, cooler, greens, garden,

Treat Time: The Maxwell House International Green Smoothie…

I’m a sucker for green smoothies, and since my garden’s greenery is growing almost too fast for me to consume, I’ve taken to having one every morning. I’m getting a kick out of experimenting with different flavor combinations–kumquats for citrus; chocolate and coffee for the fancy coffee-house version; berries for, well, berry flavor. My journey […]

black-mother-and-child

QOTW: “I Have Five Kids. Is It Too Late for Me to Swirl?”…

I get this question quite a bit, and I have to be very delicate how I answer. But it’s time to address it. Hi Christelyn,  I’m a single black woman in my 40’s and as long as I can remember I’ve always been attracted to Caucasian men but I have never dated outside of my […]

Abigail Allen, Perfectly Mixed, blog, writer, biracial, mixed marriage, swirling, movies, cinema, slavery, history, culture, empowerment, 12 Years a Slave, commentary, choices, pride, African American, African, Caribbean,

“I Love You. So Before You Tell Me Why I Should Watch ’12…

That I think about slavery every day. And have for as long as I can remember. Every time I look into my eyes, big and brown like Harriet’s and Sojourner’s and the thousands whose names I’ll never know. Every time I write my own name, “Allen” isn’t native to Jamaica. I think about it when […]

style, fashion, dressing, grooming tips, flirting, attraction, dating, relationships, couples, ashy skin, dry skin, winter, hydration, suave moroccan, dry oil, beauty products, style, winter,

Raise Your Hand if Your Elbows are Ashy…

Raise your hand if your skin is feeling a might tight during this long, dry winter. I don’t know about you, but I’m raising my hand and looking at an ashy elbow. To alleviate this condition, I have a stock of lotions and potions, but if you’re half the product junky that I’m am, there’s […]

Frigo-Underwear-Front

BBW’s First Valentine’s Day Gift Guide for Him…

Women if you are like me, you are absolutely stumped about what to buy your beau for VDay. I personally think men are harder to shop for than women. Should I get him jewellery (does he wear jewellery?). What about cologne (what does he like to wear or should I buy him something I think […]

interracial couple, sports, Paris, international, athletes, Olympics, skating, inspiration, black women, Vanessa James, Morgan Cipres, Parisian, skaters, competition, Winter sports,

Parisian Figure Skating Pair Vanessa James and Morgan Cipris are Hot…

The Sochi 2014 Winter Olympics are underway, which, for ice skating aficionado’s means multiple chances to watch lithe athletic women being hoisted in the air by their equally lithe and athletic male skating partners. One pair to watch is Vanessa James and Morgan Cipres who are representing France. Don’t they look cute together? James partnered […]

black men, white men, romance, relationships, advice, couples, penis, big black dick, interracial, pick up artists, mysogency, racist, racism, ignorant advice, dating, culture, stereotypes,

Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over your fear of the black…

I recently ran across a post from a “Pick Up Artist” site  by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was interesting to sneak a peek into the male mind, and what things they are thinking about us. Take in the comments with a strong backbone, because they […]

Swirlr, interview, Tom Joyner, Nikki Woods, black women dating interracially, challenges, web series, Youtube, challenges faced by Black women, marriage, dating, intimacy, cultural, Black American Web, stereotypes,

Video: “Black Women Get a Special Kind of Shade,” Says Me,…

Check out my interview with Nikki Woods, producer for Tom Joyner TV and Black America Web, and I get pretty real about the challenges that black women have when dating interracially. We also talk more details about the upcoming multicultural dating series I’m hosting, “Swirlr.”

eric asla, tyra banks, america's next top model, dating, boyfriend, romance, kisses, interracial, marriage,

It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo…

Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America’s Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a restaurant with photographer Eric Asla. After their romantic lunch date that included plenty of kissing and whispers, they took a stroll. Asla is Norwegian and after he left Europe and […]