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QOTW: “I Have Five Kids. Is It Too Late for Me to Swirl?”…

I get this question quite a bit, and I have to be very delicate how I answer. But it’s time to address it. Hi Christelyn,  I’m a single black woman in my 40’s and as long as I can remember I’ve always been attracted to Caucasian men but I have never dated outside of my […]

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“I Love You. So Before You Tell Me Why I Should Watch ’12…

That I think about slavery every day. And have for as long as I can remember. Every time I look into my eyes, big and brown like Harriet’s and Sojourner’s and the thousands whose names I’ll never know. Every time I write my own name, “Allen” isn’t native to Jamaica. I think about it when […]

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Raise Your Hand if Your Elbows are Ashy…

Raise your hand if your skin is feeling a might tight during this long, dry winter. I don’t know about you, but I’m raising my hand and looking at an ashy elbow. To alleviate this condition, I have a stock of lotions and potions, but if you’re half the product junky that I’m am, there’s […]

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BBW’s First Valentine’s Day Gift Guide for Him…

Women if you are like me, you are absolutely stumped about what to buy your beau for VDay. I personally think men are harder to shop for than women. Should I get him jewellery (does he wear jewellery?). What about cologne (what does he like to wear or should I buy him something I think […]

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Parisian Figure Skating Pair Vanessa James and Morgan Cipris are Hot…

The Sochi 2014 Winter Olympics are underway, which, for ice skating aficionado’s means multiple chances to watch lithe athletic women being hoisted in the air by their equally lithe and athletic male skating partners. One pair to watch is Vanessa James and Morgan Cipres who are representing France. Don’t they look cute together? James partnered […]

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Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over your fear of the black…

I recently ran across a post from a “Pick Up Artist” site  by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was interesting to sneak a peek into the male mind, and what things they are thinking about us. Take in the comments with a strong backbone, because they […]

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Video: “Black Women Get a Special Kind of Shade,” Says Me,…

Check out my interview with Nikki Woods, producer for Tom Joyner TV and Black America Web, and I get pretty real about the challenges that black women have when dating interracially. We also talk more details about the upcoming multicultural dating series I’m hosting, “Swirlr.”

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It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo…

Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America’s Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a restaurant with photographer Eric Asla. After their romantic lunch date that included plenty of kissing and whispers, they took a stroll. Asla is Norwegian and after he left Europe and […]

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Monday-Punday #24…

Monday-Punday #24 SirLoin thought you’d all enjoy this bit of wisdom … The Pink Gorilla A middle-aged man is on a business trip through Romania. He had missed the train and so had to take a little rental car instead. His car was around 20 years old and was not really up to the trip, […]

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Michonne…. The Magnificent (Or My Reason to Discuss Walking Dead…

Yeah, baby!! I survived the season hiatus to tune in to watch the premier of The Walking Dead and so did Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. There was much to be excited about but fans seemed to be hands down psyched over Michonne the Magnificent played by the actress Danai Gurira and its not hard to […]

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Chile Bye: Black Women Are More Than the Length of Their Hair…

I’m trying to get my life together and work on things more compelling in this second month of the new year and, dammit, if Facebook doesn’t make it extremely hard. I check in to see what’s what, get a dose of family baby cuteness, and other entertainment when low and behold what do I see? […]

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Be Dramatic with a Gel Liner and Highlights…

I love playing up my eyes, and spent the majority of my primp time trying to get them just right. What I’ve noticed that really helps with giving me the big doe-eyed look are two things: framing and highlighting. Framing is the combination of shaping and filling in the eyebrows, defining the eye with a […]

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Week-end Read “Blood to Blood” by Ifè Oshun…

“Blood to Blood“ by Ifè Oshun This is a young adult Fantasy Papa Grace Publishing Published December 28, 2013  Length 232 pages So what is a young woman with dreams of stardom to do? All of 16 years old and thisclose to making her dream of making singing her career and now this. The Change. […]

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National Black HIV Awareness Day: Have You Been Tested?…

February 7th is National HIV Awareness Day. HIV/AIDS has claimed approximately 250,745 lives over the last five years. Though much less than the 80’s this death number is still to high for a preventable disease. Get Educated by knowing the facts about HIV and AIDS. You can learn more about the disease and treatment options by […]

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LMAO Haters are Hilarious!…

Sometimes, when I read mean and crazy stuff by people who have an insane, mouth-frothing, over-the-top hatred for me, I get sad. And then I realize, I just need to get over myself. Haters are hilarious!

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QOTW: “Am I Wrong If I Choose to Never Date a Black Man…

I just got this note from a fan of the blog and fan page: I have a question for you Christelyn as well as the other group members who are doing the swirl. (I hope I spelled your name right. It’s such a pretty name. ) I am a black Latina who has been with […]

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Monica: “I Thank God For My Husband”…

Monica L. In light of a recent post, I wanted to share a refreshing story of Monica L.  This beautiful, scholarly sister would not let negative messages from anyone or church affect her love, happiness and future.  However Monica fully credits God for allowing her and her husband’s paths to cross.  I too feel meting […]

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Vintage Black Glamour Is Coming to a Coffee Table Near You…

Beauty. Class. Style. Grace. Talent. Nichelle Gainer, writer and proprietor of the tumblr site Vintage Black Glamour, is set to publish a coffee table book on black glamour, style, and history, in Spring 2014. The book, which bears the same name as her tumblr, will contain vintage imagery of black icons from the twentieth century. […]

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How Much, If Anything, Do the Beneficiaries of Profits From Slavery…

Turns out Benedict Cumberbatch’s fine arse is the descendant of plantation owners who got super from owning sugar-cane producing plantation in the Caribbean. A newly appointed city commissioner in New York, Stacey Cumberbatch, told the New York Times last week that she believed British actor Benedict Cumberbatch’s fifth great-grandfather owned her ancestors on an 18th-century […]

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End Racial Descriptions in Crime Alerts – What the Cuss?…

(credit: CBS)   There has been a recent uproar at the University of Minnesota because a black student was misidentified as a burglary suspect.  This is alleged because the student was black.  Well it most likely is true that he was misidentified because he was black.  What is up with that?  We all don’t look alike.  But […]