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“If Black Men See Us With White Men, It Will Scare Them…

I don’t know how many ways it can be said that in this life you are free to choose and love whoever you wish. Or that spaces like this featuring women who are attracted to, dating, or married to non-black men does not change the fact black women are indeed entitled to date and marry […]

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The Last (Hilarious!) Episode of ‘Pursuit of Sexiness’…

‘Pursuit of Sexiness,’ the web series created by comediennes Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata has come to an end. The sixth and final episode has the ladies on the subway, shaking their money maker’s. This entire episode reminds me so much of the Chicago ‘El’ train system–there is always somebody at the Jackson redline stop […]

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Farhia and Jason, Two Ancient Cultures – Modern Day Love…

   Jason and Farhia I saw Farhia and Jason’s beautiful wedding of April 11, 2013 in pictures.  Many have seen this couple’s fab photos as they are in various blogs and Pinterest boards.  I fell in love these pics and went directly to the outstanding photographer ‘s website and of course I wanted an interview.  They […]

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Calling All Geeks! Comic Con 2014!!…

  Anyone going to Comic Con in 2014? Chris attended last year’s San Diego convention and the Swirling after-party seemed like it was a blast based on this sneak preview Chris gave us! I really enjoy Batman and will be interested in progress on the Man of Steel sequel, which turned into a Batman vs Superman movie […]

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Consumption and Control: The Foundation of Men’s Sexuality?…

My recent comment over at Tracy Renee Jones‘s post “Village Voice Exposes R. Kelly and Our Willingness to Ignore The Sexual Assault of Black Females” went over rather well, so I have made it into a post. Perhaps in this environment I am not telling anyone anything they do not already know, but here is […]

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The Top 5 Most Ridiculous Anti-Beyoncé Statements Made Since the…

Beyoncé has released a new album, which means that thousands of people went without lunch this week and that people who dislike the woman and/or her music had a reason to let their hatred of all-things-Beyoncé be known. I’ve only listened to the snippets of Beyoncé’s eponymous album so far, and some songs I really […]

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Okay, then. So Let’s Talk About Black Women And Our…

I was thinking since we were talking about the word “desperate” being thrown around, why not bring it around to another word that certain people like to accuse us of in this space: Hate. I tried to write about this before, but I don’t think I was really able to get across what I was […]

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Six Tips for Eating Healthy During the Holidays…

By Ashley Harvard, BB&W Health and Wellness Editor With all of the holiday treats being passed around the office, at parties and in our homes, it can be tough to stay on track with our diets. I know it is for me (especially when chocolate or pie is involved). But there are a few strategies […]

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Important Tweet Chat Today About Colorism on #SheThrivesChat…

You guys won’t want to miss this discussion about how damaging, soul killing, harmful, crippling, and cruel colorism continues to affect the black community, and specifically, black women. I was a victim of this hurtful discrimination as a child and young adult, and it was deeply hurtful and confusing. It changed who I was, and […]

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OMG…Loving YourKidVid…You Gotta See…Cuz…

Last year I filmed me and the kids taking a day trip up to the snow. I sent this to the folks over at YourKidVid and, equipped with elfin magic, they produced this… !!!!! What?! They can do that now?? *Furiously digs through five years of back logged family videos* So what is YourKidVid, exactly? […]

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The Future of Dating As We Know It–the Good, the Weird, and the…

Am I just old, or are these results just so incredibly scary and pathetic? The Future of Relationships from sparks & honey

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QOTW: “Help! I’m Afraid My Family Won’t Accept My…

The Question… Hi Christelyn, my name is Zahara, I’m 20 years old, and I am coming to you with in need of advice on my situation. I met a guy online over a year ago and he is from England, and of course I am American. He is white and I am black. Oh he is […]

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Village Voice Exposes R. Kelly and Our Willingness to Ignore The…

If you are one of those unfortunate types that still find wonderment in the music of R Kelly then you have my condolences. Above and beyond the issue of him being an internationally known creep, it seems his music has declined to the level of his own morality. The Village Voice posted an expose with […]

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Monday Punday 16…

Monday-Punday 16 SirLoinDeBeef gleefully watched as the cat, yet again, deposited another delightful post-internal gift on the Persian silk carpet and concocted: Seen on T-shirts:   Ancient orators tended to Babylon   When I talk about computers, I make my motherboard   For Lease Navidad That cheese doesn’t belong to you … It’s nacho cheese. […]

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Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner: Breaking Bread With the Abuser…

The holidays are supposed to be a time of celebration and cherished memories. Families, friends and old acquaintances find their way back to the nest to share meals, to visit and to spend time together. And although being in close quarters with our loved ones is usually seen as a good thing there are those […]

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A Vocation that Gives You the Ticket to Travel Is……

We talk a lot about how travel can change your outlook and how you see yourself and how others see you. But most jobs won’t allow you to jump up and travel all over the United States and, if there are, you usually won’t have the option to stay put if there’s a place you’d […]

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Head-To-Toe Holiday Ready. Are You?…

I recently did a photo shoot for a project that I’m dying to tell you about but can’t just yet. I’m sharing (some) of them with you because it’s the holidays and time to step your best foot forward. After all, many a relationship has been formed underneath the mistletoe. At 40 and 1/2 years […]

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Is This Blog Making Black Women Look Desperate?…

This is a blog that frequently discusses love and relationships. The”Swirling” book that is on the side of the page advertises a desire to seek love and relationships. This seems to suggest that discussing these things should be the norm on a site like this. However, there was a sentiment raised  that suggests we are molding […]

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Ah, Technology. Heard of YourKidVid? You’d Better Learn Before…

So, I just discovered this cool new L.A. video company made up of award-winning directors, editors, and film-makers called YourKidVid. They’re bringing their talents to all those little videos we have hanging around on our phone and computer, and turn them into short films, little cinematic experiences. My mini-movie is currently under production and I […]

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What the Cuss?! More Media-Driven Anti-Black Woman, Anti-Swirl…

A reader on our fan page brought this bit of bull-donkey to my attention and while I’m not surprised, I am sooo ticked off about the continued anti-black woman propaganda in the media, which now is being directed toward black women married interracially to white men. Tell me if you didn’t look at this and […]