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Beyonce (the Album) Review: Why this Church Girl Loves Bey and the…

Did y’all catch that Grammy performance?  Dayum.  I thought she had lost it as she had be gone for a minute, but we should never count King Bey out.  Yes, I call her King Bey not, Queen Bey.  I had left the BeyHive after no real music for 2 years and hearing “Bow Down” before […]

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Your Blues Ain’t Like Mine: The Lighter Side of the Colorism…

The life of a light skinned Black female can be an amazingly confusing place. The fact of the matter is that I didn’t necessarily understand my complexion to be something so, er, complex. My earliest memory of reference to skin tone was made by my Grandma Hill when she explained the three major races to […]

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My Big Announcement……

I’ve been hinting about this for a while, and I guess I could tell you, but it’s probably better to just show you…   So what is it? About the Series The series begins with our “Swirling” Experts, Christelyn Karazin and Jordan Harbinger, interviewing single clients who are looking to expand their dating options in […]

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Cheerios Does it Again, Dropping Major Dough for Super Bowl Ad…

Poking a dollar-wrapped finger into the eye of haters across America, Cheerios will  bring back the interracial family that brought so much controversy. As we’ve mentioned, advertisers are hip to the FACT that more and more families in America look like us, or have relatives, friends and co-workers who do. In fact, General Mills believes […]

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Crazy Diets: Two Hot Twin Doctors Put the “Low Fat” and…

Chris and Alexander “Xand” van Tulleken, twins who also happen to be doctors, recently embarked on an experiment to see which diets were worse–the low/no fat diet versus the high protein/low/no carbs diet. Chris did low fat, Xand did high protein. They followed a very strict regimen for what foods they ate with no variance. […]

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Kumquats! I Can’t Believe I Was Sleeping On Them……

Do you know what a kumquat is? It’s the color of an orange, and it sort of taste like an orange peel. Not the most appetizing by itself, but mix it in a vodka tonic (love you, Daddy Karazin) or a smoothie and wowzers…so delicious and nutritious. I grow these in my front yard and […]

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Swiffer Commercial Is Just the Beginning. Ad Guys Know EXACTLY…

This video holds the record for appearing in my inbox. I must have gotten 20. Woot! This is awesome, but pretty soon it’ll be as normal an image as…well…vanilla and chocolate ice cream. Advertisers aren’t doing this out of some social advocacy. This is where the world is going, folks. Now go mop your floors.

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Stuff I Like: Portrait-Ready, “Stay All Day” Foundation by…

As I age, my skin begins to act a little funny. The dry spots are dryer and the oily spots are still oily. So when you wear foundation with a T-Zone on overdrive, you want your skin to look “dewy” without being the poster child for Dawn dish detergent. Last week at IMATS I met […]

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Monday-Punday #22…

Monday-Punday #22   Well, it’s THAT time again, and SirLoin can serve up another set of groaners. Look at it this way … it keeps your vocal cords alive and active …   At 4pm, White Pawn Alice made it to the 8th rank. She was crowned as a White Queen, captured the Red Queen […]

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My True Confession: I Advocate Swirling Because I Was the Black…

A very strange and angry black man called Sergeant Willie Pete is enraged by me. He’s enraged because he took a comment I said in a You Tube video in which I was very honest and said that I really didn’t embrace my beauty until it was validated from external sources–yes; I didn’t think I […]

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Is There Any Group That Blames the Victims Worse?!…

So I’m reading about this miscreant who threw a bowling ball at a woman’s HEAD for not accepting his offer to buy her a drink, and the author over at Madame (makes) No-sense said, “This is the reason I answer to street harassment no matter how annoying or inappropriate it is.” Yes, that’s the answer. […]

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One Man Found Guilty of Not Disclosing HIV Status, Another Man Was…

Consider this post a friendly public service announcement about the importance of safe sex. It’s not just high schoolers who need this message. Craig Lamar Davis, 43, was just convicted of knowingly exposing one woman to HIV. He faces a second trial in a different county–Fulton County, GA–for intentionally exposing another woman to the HIV […]

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“Clutch/The Frisky” Nails It With Their Critique of…

I’ve been annoyed with Clutch’s editorial lineup over the past year, what with all their, “EVERYBODY’S RACIST!!!” posts, because I remember a time when the content was much more rounded. The good news is, it looks like they’re going back to that somewhat. They still have the “EVERYBODY’S RACIST!!!” posts, just not as much. So […]

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Maxi Me Gets Her Drive On!…

Yes, that’s an official driver’s license she’s holding. …And I’m trying to wrap my head around the baby in the back in a car seat and the BIG baby I see before my eyes. Maxi has been seriously motivated to drive and get her license as soon as she turned 16. She did that last […]

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Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’t exercise their…

I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a black man. Yet here we are: Up to our eyeballs in black men who can’t seem to get it through their heads that this is a pro-interracial relationship […]

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“On The Rise” New Reality Show May Swirl On Screen…

Special cross post from Swirling and Marriage On The Rise Reality Show Starring Dr. Misee Harris, Fawn Stone and LaKesha Walker We are in the age of reality television. Some are great, informative, funny and all around good entertainment. Some are more on the drama side, making us cringe as we identify the one or […]

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The Secret to Beauty Can Be Found When You Dig Deep…In Your…

No matter how many beauty stories we do about makeup and fashion, it all means absolutely NO-Thang if you don’t feed your body from the inside out. While for most Americans it’s still the dead of winter, late February and early March is the time to start thinking about growing your own “beauty garden.” What’s […]

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QOTW: Black Woman Wonders About Interracial Dating After 40…

The Letter… Hi Christelyn, I came across the BB&W website chance through a FB friends repost of a picture from the Interracial Dating Central FB page. I’ve been looking through the website and at some of the YouTube videos and I’m glad I came across them. I will be 40yrs old in February and I […]

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Chef Bob: Yakamein Recipe (New Orleans Style)…

Yakamein (Ya-Ka-Mein, often pronounced Yakamee) is a type of beef noodle soup commonly found in many Creole and Chinese restaurantsin New Orleans.  Used with permission of Chef Wendy Weber In New Orleans.  This is her personal variation of this soup. The soup consists of stewed beef (such as Thin sliced rib-eye) in beef-based broth served on […]

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We Want More!! Brown, Beautiful, and Killing It: Lupita Nyong’o…

On my blog Lattes and Lipstick I love to do a weekly segment called Brown Beauty of the Week where I feature beautiful brown women that are garnering fashion and media praise and I decided that since we celebrate brown on this fabulous blog that I would add this segment here, but I’ll entitle it […]