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Friday Funny: I Was Robbed by Ghetto Birds!…

I was just minding my own business having lunch at the Historic Mission Inn in Riverside yesterday, and look…                     Actually, these aren’t really ghetto birds. I reserve that moniker for pigeons. My father-in-law tells me these are English sparrows, whose ancestors hitched a ride on […]

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Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To…

I was moved to write this post by BBW community member Vivaforever, who expressed her concerns over the ugly hatred that is spread toward black women who date inter-racially by other black women: The sheer abundance of women like Key-sha is what troubles me. They seem to be growing in number as more BW date […]

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‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane…

A fan just shared this with me…it’s unbelievable. But read closely and you’ll see that these events don’t happen in a bubble.   Reading this, your first reaction would be to call this woman a “typical hood rat” but before you stone her, consider this. This girl’s mother had 12 kids by 38. She got pregnant […]

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Michael and Kemi – A BB&W Google+ Community Love Connection…

If you’ve been hanging out in the Beyond Black & White Google+ community over the last couple months, you got to witness this love connection go down. Michael, 49, lives in Rochester, NY. Kemi, 34, lives in St. Louis, MO. They started interacting with one another in November 2014 when, as Michael puts it, Kemi […]

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OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding!…

All you ‘Olitz’ fans out there might not ever see the fictional couple tie the knot, but drown yourself in the fantasy of this couple, who themed their entire wedding on the two characters giving us the happy ending we hope for! Event planner, Roxanne Duncan, tried to imagine the fictional couple’s fondest dreams come […]

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Update! BB&W Goes to Vegas in 2015!!…

Great news!  We now have The Linq at $97 per night including taxes! Also, if one or two people take a deluxe king room, the rate (including taxes) is $82. If a 3rd or 4th person is staying in the room at The Linq, the rate goes $40 per night, per person higher.  The rate […]

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Beauty Tuesdays: New You Tube Beauty Channel, MAC Concealer, My Review…

Shea Moisture continues to delight with product after quality product, and the newest expansion (a least it’s new for me) of the Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow & Restore line because I was really feeling the leave-in conditioner and the styling lotion, and I reported on it here. Imagine my surprise when I saw […]

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QOTW: Twenty-Something I.T. Girl’s Swirling Woes in New York…

Got this message today from a fan… Here is my question for you and your readers. I am a 22 black female from the suburbs of New York who just graduated college and it working full time in the IT field. I have been trying to find a serious relationship for the past few years […]

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‘Black or White’: New Film Tackles White Grandparents Raising Biracial…

It’s been great to see Kevin Costner regularly making films again. (We all love The Bodyguard, right? lol). Honestly, I had forgotten all about him until he surfaced at Whitney Houston’s funeral a few years ago, where he spoke quite eloquently and lovingly about her. Looking at his imdb page, he’s actually been working steadily […]

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Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action…

If you’ve been on the interracial dating pages on Facebook, you’ve probably run across this haterade:   People can be so cruel on the internet, and often forget that the people they demean and ridicule are real human beings, with real feelings. The above photo was a bastardization of this lovely one: Don’t you just […]

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IRR Romance: Pretending With The Playboy…

Pretending With The Playboy by Tracey Livesay Commitment makes you weak. It’s playboy Carter Richardson’s motto. The only exception to the rule is his aunt, and when Carter learns she’s terminally ill, he rushes to her bedside. Filled with fear and guilt—and desperate to ease his aunt’s mind—Carter does the only thing a guy could do…he panics and […]

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AAWG: Lady J’s Dating Profile Pic Do’s & Don’ts…

by SavageTango I’m laying here on the bed, looking up at the ceiling, and I can’t move. Not after what some chick named Lady J just put me through. My body is beaten. My back is battered. My biceps are bruised. Physically, I am a broken man. But mentally? Well, that’s a whole different story, […]

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Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse…

People should really do their homework when they come for this community, because I find that you folks are truly galvanized to protect what’s yours!! After the disaster of an interview with the “Reverend” Jesse Peterson and his screeching, bigoted caller, you all wrote in to ask the host and producers some HARD questions. So many […]

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Throwing Signs: Letting Him Know You’re Open and Interested…

Stalemates suck, don’t they? For every guy who’s asking, “How can I tell if the woman I’m interested in is open to dating non-black men?” there seems to be many black women who are scratching their heads, wondering: “Why do guys stare at me but never approach?” “Wait. Is he flirting with me? Nah. He’s […]

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A Nigerian in Paris – Torn between 2 Terrors  …

Written by: Zara Chiron, check out her website here. I guess this is what I was getting at when I defined what the term ‘Afropolitan’ meant to me. West-African born with my life’s years spent across 3 different continents. I feel connected to everything, without ever truly feeling like I belong anywhere; a multi-cultural person somehow […]

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Is Your Partner Addicted?…

It’s 2015, and time to look introspectively. Relationships are rarely easy; in fact, they’re usually pretty complex. Even when each member is ready, willing and emotionally able to put forth their best effort, issues pop up and things get complicated. And if you add mental illness, addiction, codependence and other psychological disorders to the mix, […]

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Overcoming Ambivalence to Make Room for the Love You Want…

Does anyone else struggle with what to say when people ask the dumb, “Why is a pretty girl like you still single?” question? I usually have an arsenal of flippant answers ready to fire off, depending on how feisty I feel in that moment: “I’ve been kind of busy traveling the world. It’s hard to […]

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WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!…

Yesterday I was invited to do an interview for some wacky, right-wing, conservative sock puppet for Sean Hannity named Jesse Peterson. Worst. Interview. Ever. See why.   You can listen to the whole interview here: If you would like to contact this “sage of wisdom” and ask him why he doesn’t think marriage to my […]

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Vintage Never Gets Old…Shabby Apple Pinup Look…

It’s been a while since I sang the praises of Shabby Apple, a collection of vintage dresses that puts the sexy in classy. I love the look of the 1940s, and think black women wore the heck out of it.   I’m wearing the Bronwyn Dress, ($88) a blue and black fit-and-flare made of soft, […]

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Tracy and Adiaya – Chasing Dreams Together…

Everyone, meet Tracy and Adiaya. Tracy reached out to us because he wanted to share his story.   I was born Vallejo, CA, and am 40 years old. Adiaya’s 37 and from Atwater, CA. I saw her profile on InterracialDatingCentral.com and decided to make the first move – I asked if we could talk. We […]