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Man Candy Monday: Big Bald Head and Those With Coiffed Beards…

I love to run my fingers through a man’s hair, however, sometimes that’s not necessary. Men with bald heads leave nothing to the imagination. Emotion, expression and vulnerability are his display of power. I’ve no quarrel with a man who spends his well earned money at the barber each and every week. Whether you love […]

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Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women.…

Someone on my You Tube channel sent this video to me, and upon looking at the title, I thought it was just another cuss-filled, vitriolic video about how black women were the root to all ills in the black community. But what struck me was that the two gentlemen in the video look like “nice” […]

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Latest News of NYPD Brutality PROVES You Can’t Be…

I think I might have been a lone voice in the wilderness in my blog space when I reported and expressed my outrage over the tragic and unnecessary death of Eric Garner, 43, who who was killed by the NYPD as the result of a chokehold. The medical examiners ruled it a homicide. While other […]

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OMG…Let These Folks Be! In Their Ninety’s, Interracial…

This has got to be the sweetest thing in the whole world, and even more endearing that this couple–a white man and a black woman–live in the state of Virginia, Ground Zero for the legalization of interracial marriage in the United States. What’s even more compelling, this couple was alive during that time, and might […]

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Eric Garner: He Was Murdered. Definitively.…

It looks like Eric Garner, the victim of homocide via the Staten Island police, might get some justice. According to the New York Daily News, “The Staten Island man who collapsed after being placed in the banned restraint by a police officer died from compression of the neck and chest, the New York City Medical […]

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New Interracial Relationship Fiction: “Smoke and Mirrors”…

“SEX, BETRAYAL, SURVIVAL & REDEMPTION…..Smoke and Mirrors” is the latest release by literary Interracial and Multicultural Bestselling Author, Tiana Laveen.

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Cool Tools To Help You Get Your Yoga On…

I know everyone has a preference, but I personally believe that yoga is the single most amazing, body changing, stress reducing, and weight loss practice you can do. It literally will change your outlook on life, plus give you killer legs and a bum you can bounce a penny off of. I like that yoga […]

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TBT: KISS the Devil, Shame Your Parents…

I’m nearly still scared to admit how much the sheer sight of these men turned me on. I’d never seen anything like it, and haven’t yet seen similar since then. But I remember the day like it was yesterday. The news, the media, those respectable people that we all looked towards for guidance had been […]

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New Anti-Swirling Meme: “How Can You Oppose Racism And Be…

I’ve been seeing the following bit of stupid making its way around the web at an increased clip. The people who are desperate to guilt-trip black women (and make no mistake, this is almost always brought out to shame black women EXCLUSIVELY…) out of exercising their dating and marriage options will often pull this argument […]

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Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed with Tears.…

You won’t want to miss this. One of the most touching letters I’ve ever received. Ladies, don’t let anyone tell you that non-black men are not checking for you, won’t love you, cherish you, or try to understand you. Reading this letter will change anyone’s mind on that. Dear Christelyn,    You don’t know me […]

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Looking back on it…

She Walks in Beauty She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And all that’s best of dark and bright Meet in her aspect and her eyes:   Thus mellowed to that tender light Which heaven to gaudy day denies.   One shade the more, one ray the less, Had […]

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Guest Writer: A Black Girl’s Guide to Studying Abroad in…

Meet Tiana (left) and Angel (right)–two brown girls who met while studying abroad in Chile! ☺   Valparaíso, Chile, with its art-splashed buildings, sloped hills, and turn of the century –styled funiculars, is often called the “San Francisco of South America.” I had the pleasure of studying abroad there from February 2012 to July 2012, […]

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Where Did 64,000 Black Women and Girls Go?…

A person doesn’t just disappear into thin air but you would think they do when you learn that 64,000 Black women and girls are currently missing in the United States. With nearly every cell phone having GPS, digital cameras and satellites everywhere, our digital footprint is being recorded as we speak and as we type […]

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#NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.…

It’s very rare that I get questions that stir my emotions, frustrate me, and make me deeply sad. I just received such a letter from a very young woman, and while I’m not sure if this entry will make a difference in her situation, I hope that perhaps others will take this as a cautionary […]

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Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men…

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes, thick hair and skin that turns bronze in the sun. Indeed, the mystery and enticement of Indian men can’t be denied.   Of course […]

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Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!…

Whew. Got back from the Tenth Annual BlogHer conference in San Jose feeling a bit nervous. I mean, I called everyday to say hello to the hubby and kids, and remind Clo Clo to water the plants. A lot. Because the heat was well into the 90′s, and since I’m growing in containers and raised […]

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Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?…

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pretty much the same amount as the last two or three years. I meet and talk to new guys every week. But now that I am back on […]

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QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb…

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me, fed up that his friends keep putting his girlfriend in uncomfortable positions. I made this video while at the BlogHer 2014 conference in San Jose, and guess who I […]

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Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often…

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first thought the writer was talking about a white guy whom she dated and once introduced to family, was unceremoniously dumped. After all, this does happen. But surprisingly, I see this more often when […]

99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem.…

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still wheat) with some of my husband’s almond milk (he opts for the sweetened kind). It was after 11, and I should have been sleepy. But about […]