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So…I Got Accosted In Cancun……

I just got back from THE BEST vacation I’ve ever had in Cancun on an all-expenses paid vacation The Hubster won from his job. Being an employee of a company who owns Pleasant Holidays definitely has it’s benefits. We spent an incredible five days on a beach resort where the sky and water was so […]

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Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women…

Did you know that black women are responsible for… –The huge out-of-wedlock rate ALONE. Black women need to learn to keep their legs closed.–Horrible black mothers are the reason so many black men are “turning gay”–Black women refuse to let black men lead.–Black women are too educated. Make your man a plate an STFU–Black women […]

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Chef Bob: Individual Beef Wellingtons…

  INDIVIDUAL BEEF WELLINGTONS An elegant yet effortless entrée, classic beef Wellington features individual portions of quickly seared beef tenderloin topped with rich mushroom duxelles and enclosed in puff-pastry dough.  There are few dishes more elegant than Beef Wellington. It looks like a million dollars and tastes like heaven. It’s also surprisingly easy to make, […]

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SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables…

I spent countless hours this week assembling this collection of photos.  I love my work and heck, somebody has to do it. I could also lie to you and say that this is all about giving you guys some gift ideas for the upcoming holiday season. Not that any of these little nothings would’t make a […]

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I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are…

I recently heard news that an organization called Color of Change is holding Bravo’s feet to the fire for it’s negative depiction of black women on their parade of degradating show line up full of black women willing to scratch each other’s eyeballs out to get a steady paycheck. Official statement from Ariana Hatch, Managing Director […]

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QOTW: “How Do I Stop Believing I’m Undesirable?”…

Hello! So, a brief description of myself. I am a young black woman, 21, in college and due to graduate soon. I have always known that I was more attracted to other races than my own, and I never found anything wrong with that. But, for a long time I did struggle with the whole […]

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Open Forum: What’s the deal McNeil?…

Got no tale Nightingale. With the advent of the new Beyond Black & White Forum located here:http://beyondblackwhiteforums.com/ these Open Forum articles may be going the way of the Model T Ford. Remember the BB&W Forum is user directed which means you can start a thread on any topic you wish.  So get on over there, […]

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Justin and Krystal – 18th Century Class and Elegance…

  I found Krystal and Justin’s wedding on WedLuxe Magazine.  I could not take my eyes off this classy couple and their Parisian and Versailles-themed wedding and reception.     These beautiful photographs were done by Corina V. Photography.  The venue at the Liberty Grand Entertainment Complex was perfect for the architect couple who met while studying architecture.  The […]

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Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’…

As I sit in a bar in the resort in Cancun with The Hubster, I glance around the scene. Non-black women young and old are gathering around. We just finished dinner and spoke to two couples in their twenties we met the previous day in the bluest ocean of pee-temperatured water ever (!!).  Out of […]

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IRR Book Review: Nichelle Gregory’s “Soul Sweet”…

“Now that is how you write a good book”! My review of Nichelle Gregory’s “Soul Sweet” (By Yema Nelson) The key ingredients to a perfect book are imagination, realistic storytelling and good grammar. Let’s just say, Ms. Nichelle Gregory must be the “Perfect Literary Chef” because she cooked up a masterpiece with “Soul Sweet”. An […]

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Off to Cancun……

Hey ya’ll! Right about now I’m sitting at LAX airport about to board a six hour-ish flight to Cancun with The Hubster. One of the perks of his job is opportunities to win all-expenses paid vacations. Woo hoo, hubby! So with the inlaws out to watch the kids, we’re getting ready for some…fun. Been working […]

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AAWG: Wow her with your Whiteness by Savage Tango…

 her with your Whiteness by Savage Tango So, another Halloween has come and gone and I’m hoping it went well for you guys.  Did ya manage to lay the foundation for your New Year’s Swirl?  Cuz that’s our goal here, ya know.  Gotta be a man with a plan and the plan is to be […]

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On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Interracial…

The question: Hey guys I hope you guys can give me advice on this issue I’m having. I’ve been talking to this white guy I met online. He says he really likes me but problem is he has never thought of dating a girl outside of his race. He comes from netherlands and says there […]

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Mia Love Elected for Congress!…

She’s black,  she’s republican, she’s Mormon and she can now add congresswoman to the list. Mia Love has  made history by becoming the first black woman in Utah’s history  to be elected to congress. The former mayor of Saratoga Springs has been the one to watch since she first ran in 2012  for the seat […]

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Madonna…

  That’s right.  Expect the unexpected when it comes to SirLoin and Babe Wednesday. Any guy crazy about his lady and looking forward to the family they are creating will totally get my choice of mothers to be as this week’s Babes. Seeing her as her body changes.  Being there to insure that she has […]

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How the ‘Black Church’ Cheated this Woman Out of the…

How Being Churchified And Church Going Limited My Dating Pool And Marriage Prospects. By Raina T. Shaw Also known as The Salon Chair “Therapist”. For years starting from age nineteen I was a church goer (off and on but more on than off) immersed in the non-denominational Christian church teachings. I didn’t grow up in […]

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Honest Question: What Do Folks Expect Quality Black Women to Do?…

By now you’ve heard that I’m coaching adorable radio and television personality, Jacque Reid. We announced the endeavor, coordinated with the help of InterracialDatingCentral.com, in her quest to find a quality man, regardless of race. But if you hear the audio…you can see there’s a clear and palpable disapproval of Jacque taking up swirling, and […]

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So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the…

Recently, a video documenting one woman being harassed on the street by various men in New York went viral and sparked numerous discussions on news channels and talk shows. While I am glad that this discussion is being had, my concern  that once again , black women are left out of the discussion and it annoys […]

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On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past Against You!…

He says he doesn’t want any secrets between you. He says your past doesn’t matter…but he still just wants to know. Everything. The age you first got kissed. If you played spin the bottle. How many sexual partners you’ve had and when, where, and how many times, all in the name of “trust and full […]

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ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wanna test out the new Forum?…

We are still in the process but now is the time to test this baby out before we fully populate the forum with content. Sign in and register here: http://beyondblackwhiteforums.com/ You helped build  it so test drive it and tell us what you think. Again thanks for all of your support.