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Are Women Wrong When They Shut Down Men Who Comment on Her Sexiness?…

A recent conversation from the comments over at Consumption and Control: The Foundation of Men’s Sexuality? deserves it’s own post.  FriendsofJay We were just about ready to leave for dinner when I read some comments on this post and decided to reply.  Here are a few ideas.  However, I am not casting aspersions on anyone.  Only […]

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Monday Punday #17…

Monday-Punday # 17 SirLoin is pretty sure that it’ll take some folks a bit of cheating to deal with these (answers at the end … but don’t peek … yeah, sure): As I was going to St. Ives I met a man with seven wives! Each wife had seven maids’ Each maid had seven cats. […]

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Dear “Nuttin’ Butta Brotha Women”: An Open Letter…

  Dear “Nothing But A Brother” and “I Don’t Date White Guys” black women, How do you feel? Is your holiday season all you’d hope it would be? Are you with your special significant other? If so, congrats. If not…Well, I’ve got some not so good news for you. And it comes by way of […]

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Soft, EASY, Feminine and Natural…Make-Up Look in Five Minutes or…

If you’ve stayed away from beauty balms because you were worried none of them comes in the perfect shade of chocolate, here’s two to try: Balm Shelter by The Balm ($25), and SMASHBOX Camera Ready BB Cream ($39). Both give light coverage, moisturize and have an SPF. However, I think Balm Shelter might give a […]

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Holidays with the “Chocolate Cousins”… Anyone…

When it comes to extended family gatherings during the holidays, mixed couples with kids often wrangle with how much exposure they want relatives to have with them. You might worry about that crazy uncle or aunt going rogue and begin ranting about how your husband owes them 40 acres and a mule. I know I […]

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Watch Real Black Women with their Non-Black Boyfriends…

I was just goofing around on YouTube so I thought I’d share this with you. Many people don’t think Black women can get along with non-Black men. Well there are many videos on YouTube featuring Black women and their non-Black boyfriends so you can see for yourself (these are the videos Black-woman-haters love to complain […]

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Chef Bob: Meatloaf Wellington…

 Meatloaf Wellington This rich, buttery entrée is a variation on Beef Wellington, a traditional English dish of beef tenderloin, then baked inside a puff pastry. Our version is less expensive, but no less delicious! In cooking meatloaf, “under wraps” usually means the meatloaf is enclosed in some sort of shell or casing I.E. pastry or […]

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Christelyn Karazin Addresses Critics of Her Interracial Dating…

My, my, my. It seems to be that there’s some folks really feeling some kinda way about my promotion of interracial relationships with black women. Apparently I am single-handedly destroying the black community, merely because I have the NERVE to tell black women they are worthy and have options. I blaspheme when I tell black […]

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“If Black Men See Us With White Men, It Will Scare Them…

I don’t know how many ways it can be said that in this life you are free to choose and love whoever you wish. Or that spaces like this featuring women who are attracted to, dating, or married to non-black men does not change the fact black women are indeed entitled to date and marry […]

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The Last (Hilarious!) Episode of ‘Pursuit of Sexiness’…

‘Pursuit of Sexiness,’ the web series created by comediennes Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata has come to an end. The sixth and final episode has the ladies on the subway, shaking their money maker’s. This entire episode reminds me so much of the Chicago ‘El’ train system–there is always somebody at the Jackson redline stop […]

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Farhia and Jason, Two Ancient Cultures – Modern Day Love…

   Jason and Farhia I saw Farhia and Jason’s beautiful wedding of April 11, 2013 in pictures.  Many have seen this couple’s fab photos as they are in various blogs and Pinterest boards.  I fell in love these pics and went directly to the outstanding photographer ‘s website and of course I wanted an interview.  They […]

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Calling All Geeks! Comic Con 2014!!…

  Anyone going to Comic Con in 2014? Chris attended last year’s San Diego convention and the Swirling after-party seemed like it was a blast based on this sneak preview Chris gave us! I really enjoy Batman and will be interested in progress on the Man of Steel sequel, which turned into a Batman vs Superman movie […]

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Consumption and Control: The Foundation of Men’s Sexuality?…

My recent comment over at Tracy Renee Jones‘s post “Village Voice Exposes R. Kelly and Our Willingness to Ignore The Sexual Assault of Black Females” went over rather well, so I have made it into a post. Perhaps in this environment I am not telling anyone anything they do not already know, but here is […]

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The Top 5 Most Ridiculous Anti-Beyoncé Statements Made Since the…

Beyoncé has released a new album, which means that thousands of people went without lunch this week and that people who dislike the woman and/or her music had a reason to let their hatred of all-things-Beyoncé be known. I’ve only listened to the snippets of Beyoncé’s eponymous album so far, and some songs I really […]

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Okay, then. So Let’s Talk About Black Women And Our…

I was thinking since we were talking about the word “desperate” being thrown around, why not bring it around to another word that certain people like to accuse us of in this space: Hate. I tried to write about this before, but I don’t think I was really able to get across what I was […]

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Six Tips for Eating Healthy During the Holidays…

By Ashley Harvard, BB&W Health and Wellness Editor With all of the holiday treats being passed around the office, at parties and in our homes, it can be tough to stay on track with our diets. I know it is for me (especially when chocolate or pie is involved). But there are a few strategies […]

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Important Tweet Chat Today About Colorism on #SheThrivesChat…

You guys won’t want to miss this discussion about how damaging, soul killing, harmful, crippling, and cruel colorism continues to affect the black community, and specifically, black women. I was a victim of this hurtful discrimination as a child and young adult, and it was deeply hurtful and confusing. It changed who I was, and […]

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OMG…Loving YourKidVid…You Gotta See…Cuz…

Last year I filmed me and the kids taking a day trip up to the snow. I sent this to the folks over at YourKidVid and, equipped with elfin magic, they produced this… !!!!! What?! They can do that now?? *Furiously digs through five years of back logged family videos* So what is YourKidVid, exactly? […]

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The Future of Dating As We Know It–the Good, the Weird, and the…

Am I just old, or are these results just so incredibly scary and pathetic? The Future of Relationships from sparks & honey

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QOTW: “Help! I’m Afraid My Family Won’t Accept My…

The Question… Hi Christelyn, my name is Zahara, I’m 20 years old, and I am coming to you with in need of advice on my situation. I met a guy online over a year ago and he is from England, and of course I am American. He is white and I am black. Oh he is […]