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The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two…

As a former public relations executive, I can tell you without any doubt that the media sends us messages–messages that we expect, messages that reinforce, and messages that influence. So when I saw a magazine cover show up on my Facebook timeline, complete with a message from Kola Boof, I began to really try and […]

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Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns…

Oh, you kids are so, so spoiled. I feed you Man Candy each and every Monday, yet you scream for more various and different kinds. It’s like your appetite can’t be squelched, nor your eyes filled with enough delectable treats. I was sent a special request for a Man Candy feature so since you know […]

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Willow Smith Snags the Cover of Teen Vogue…

Regardless of whether or not you agree with Will and Jada’s liberal parenting skills you can’t deny that Willow Smith is one awesome young Black woman. Freedom and protection during childhood can help to cultivate creativity, individuality and a strong sense of self. These things are what makes Willow unique and has also landed her […]

SavageTango tells all: Getting his attention…

SavageTango Let me say right off I’ve been down this road on numerous occasions. I’m no stranger to the issues you’ve raised and understand to a degree where you’re coming from. First things first, as a white dude I take the position that I will gladly listen and sympathize with what you have experienced and […]

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(Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and Interracial Dating.…

Writer: Hey my name is “Sue” I’m a black female live in St.Louis Mo I have had bad relationship with black men so I decided to date white men my last relationship was a white male we was together for 1 year but it didn’t end well he broke up with me after a year […]

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Open Thread: Does Being a Natural Make You Feel Like a Different…

I have a confession. I don’t think I’ll ever where my hair straight again for any length of time. Why? Because I feel like straightening my hair makes me look…ordinary. Like every other black chick with hair down her back. Boring. I love the fullness of my fro. It just feels…fully me. How about you? […]

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QOTW: White Guy, 51, Ready to Get His Swirl On……

The question: Just wanted to say thank you for your advice on fyooz for non-black men on dating or even just letting a black woman know that I’m interested.  I’m a 51 year old white guy, most people think I’m about 40 :), divorced for going on nine months.  I’ve always been attracted to black […]

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Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists…

Since I can only take one post per day of people attacking me on my opinions on whether the sky is blue or not, I’m going to simply report the news on this one and let you draw your own conclusions. Universal Pictures recently put out a casting call for black women for the upcoming flick, […]

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TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now…

Children!! I’ve got a confession to make. When I was but a wee babe, there was no such thing as (c)rap music!! There wasn’t much R&B (as you know it) and there certainly wasn’t dedicated radio stations, let alone the internet wouldn’t be along for many, many, MANY, years to come. So, how did I […]

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Unspeakable! New Jersey Reporter Fired for Telling the DAMN TRUTH!…

We live in such a crazy time in America, when saying the obvious will literally get you fired and physically and socially ruin you. I know back in 2010 when I organized No Wedding, No Womb, I could do so because I was beholden to no one  for my income, so threats to silence me […]

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Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black…

Some people wonder why this blog continues to talk about black men in reference to black women dating interracially. It would seem at the surface, that since we have moved on, there should be no further discussion. However, many black women don’t come to the decision of opening up their dating options just because of […]

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Got to Give Credit Where It’s Due…Some Real Knights Rode…

I have to admit I was among the folks who cringed with Rachel Jeantel took the stand in the Trayvon Martin murder trail. She was a walking, talking stereotype–chip on her shoulder, absolutely no concept of social etiquette, poor grammar with the reading level of a third-grader. Bigots loved to hang their hat on Rachel, […]

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Hilarious Weird Al “Tacky” Has Aisha Tyler and Jack Black…

Weird Al’s still got it! Jack Black is a twerking fool, and Aisha looks adorable even when she’s trying to look tacky. On an aside, what products you think Al is using on his curly locks? Just wondering. Bet he lurks on the natural hair boards.

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Watermelon in a Pot? Yaaaaaeeessss….…

Nothing says summer like a ripe, juicy watermelon. That’s why I’d decided to grow some despite my extremely limited garden space. Watermelon vines require a lot of space so they and ramble, so it would seem almost impossible to think that you can grow one in a piddly little container. But you can. And I […]

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It Started with Just a Few Voices, and Now a Cocophany: The Forces…

When you’ve been blogging for nearly five years, you begin to notice some trends. For instance, I remember when I first came on the scene and the sacred cows that black women weren’t to EVER discuss–the humungousgargantuanbigass out-of-wedlock statistic, black women dating and marrying men who weren’t black, street harassment, the palpable hatred black men […]

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Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition…

Did you shed a tear when you found out this is the final season of the True Blood franchise? I know I am not the only one exceptionally in love with this mystical story about a small town that contained some of the sexiest bi-identified vampires and werewolves. This week, we take a look at […]

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More Black Women Taking Up the Fight to Tackle Obesity…

It’s no secret that some black women have a complicated relationship with food. For some of us, food means love, comfort, safety. When you’re stressed with all the toils of life, there’s little more heavenly than a Krispy Kreme doughnut, Popeye’s buttery biscuit, red velvet cake, syrupy, doughy peach cobbler. Science shows that eating such […]

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“Im a Negro Bed Wench,” and Other Things I Learned Since…

Written by The Peacock Bride I’m a sell out. I’m a Negro Bed Wench. I’m an Uncle Tom. Yup…How did I find this out? Like most things, I’ve found out from the internet. I’m a bad woman who obviously hates myself and Black people…not because of who I “hate” but because of who I love. […]

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Caption This. ESPN, The Body Issue.…

Two words. BRICK. HOUSE. What say you?

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New Interracial Relationship Fiction: “The Wrong Man”…

Review of The Wrong Man by Karla Fears   What is a woman to do when temperatures soar into the triple digits? The best solution is to turn up the air-conditioner, sip a cold drink and read Delaney Diamond’s new book, The Wrong Man. You will find the drink and cool air are de rigeur […]