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TBT: KISS the Devil, Shame Your Parents

I’m nearly still scared to admit how much the sheer sight of these men turned me on. I’d never seen anything like it, and haven’t yet seen similar since then. But I remember the day like it was yesterday. The news, the media, those respectable people that we all looked towards for guidance had been[...] Read More…

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Ladies, Do NOT Date Interracially if You’re Too Suspicious of White Men. Please. Just…Don’t. (Letter)

A non-black man just sent me the email below regarding an exchange he had with a black woman on OKCupid that he found attractive. This woman is so defensive, so quick to try and discover closet racism, quick to start a fight, and suspicious of … Read More

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Man Candy Monday: Hollywood Hotties Then, and Now

What's the saying again, "Something old, something new. Something Man Candy, just for you?" Age ain't nothing but a number when it makes a guy just as hot, if not more so than he may have been in his younger days. For this Man Candy Monday, I bring … Read More

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Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

I'm working on a master list NEVER BEEN DONE before (not sure why, tho) on an interracial dating blog. Back when I co-work Swirling, we created a list of interracial-friendly cities and states, and some of them were not really a surprise--Los Angeles … Read More

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Open Thread: “How Do I Explain My Preference for Black Women without Sounding Like a Douche?”

Okay well he didn't say that...exactly. Here's what this 20-something white guy actually wrote... Mrs. Karazin,I'm not ashamed and I make it pretty well known amongst my friends that I have acquired an affinity for black women. As a result, I've had … Read More

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Why I Have Mixed Feelings About the Firing of the Co-Host of the “Opie & Anthony” Show

I remember when I was working as a lowly PR grunt representing a bagel company and trying to get a mention on the "Opie and Anthony" show when they were based in San Diego. I thought it was just a regional thing, but imagine my surprise that over … Read More

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New Documentary on the Black Church Shines a Light on Prosperity Pimps for Dollars

I have to give credit where it's due, because columnist Deborrah Cooper was the first to shine a light on how the church exploits black women and milks them of their resources. I remember interviewing Deborrah on this issue way back in the … Read More

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Have I Got You Curious Enough to Try Yoga? Online Guide Gives You the Basics

  I've been preaching the benefits of yoga on this blog for years because quite frankly, it works. It is such a holistic mode of exercise that quiets the mind, detoxifies the body, and builds muscle, improves posture, and produces a sleek, … Read More

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One Black Mother’s Heartbreaking Story of Raising Her Son Amongst a Nest of Miscreants Intent on His Ruination

When I read this very personal account from Breukelen Bleu, the founder of the Black Woman Think Tank, I knew I had to share it. So much of the criticism of single mothers raising black sons focuses on blaming the MOTHER for all the negatives. She … Read More

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History Made: Michelle Howard Become Navy’s First Female Admiral

Monday was event for celebration as the United States Navy appointed Michelle Howard to the ranks of Admiral making her the first woman in US history to do so. Her also being a woman of color makes this even more of a cause to take note. Along … Read More

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July is My Birth Month! Countdown to 41!

Last week I took this picture to memorialize how I look at 40. If you would have told my 20 year-old-self that I'd feel better and look better an nearly 41, I would have lobbied to have you committed. I'm proud of a few things at this point in my … Read More

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Grow It in a Bag: Patio-To-Plate Encourages Container Gardening

As I turn off a dusty road in Temecula wine country, I can't help but be impressed with Catrina's green house, where she's growing just about everything you can imagine. She's growing everything--all non-GMO organic seeds she also … Read More

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Five 100% Natural Beauty Products that Work 100% of the Time

I'm proud to say that the majority of the things I put into my body is natural and organic, but I can't say the same thing about what goes on my body. While I try to stay away for synthetic chemicals and potentially harmful preservatives, much of my … Read More

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Austin, TX Man Asks, “Am I the Black Woman’s Second Choice?”

First, thanks to all the men who have been writing me lately. I'm glad you're listening and observing. Gap, meet bridge. I got this letter from a reader yesterday and it's so important I moved it to the front of the queue. An Austin, Texas man … Read More