62 Is “Nerd” The New “Cool”?

Is “Nerd” The New “Cool”?

I see nerds everywhere nowadays…and that’s a good thing! Being a “nerd” has officially become the new “cool”.


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3 SheKnows.com: Four Truths About Interracial Relationships

SheKnows.com: Four Truths About Interracial Relationships

The folks at SheKnows.com asked me to lend them some wisdom on the oft studied, oft misunderstood, oft discussed, oft debated tangle of that, that, and the other regarding interracial relationships.

Here’s a bit:


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36 Do You Have to Leap Small Buildings and Wear a Cape to Snag a Rainbeau?

Do You Have to Leap Small Buildings and Wear a Cape to Snag a Rainbeau?

It’s probably safe to say that Avant did pretty well for herself. This is a hunch, but I’m guessing nobody told her she needed to lower her standards and start trolling jailhouses when it was time for her to start looking for a hubster. The one she got is a high-acheiver and makes more than $2 million a year. What you see here, my friends, is a power couple. One in which I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have seen in the 80′s, or even the 90′s. This is a new, NEW Power Couple.


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14 Stila, Vaska, Barleans, SENNA, Anatasia Beverly Hills and More Wanna Make Sure You’re “First Date Ready” at L.A. “Swirling” Book Signing!

Stila, Vaska, Barleans, SENNA, Anatasia Beverly Hills and More Wanna Make Sure You’re “First Date Ready” at L.A. “Swirling” Book Signing!

After May 15, I’ll be expecting to be on your Christmas, Kwanza and Hannukah cards because the mother of all book signings is happening in Los Angeles, and boy oh boy, we’ve got some goodies for only the first 25 people who arrive at Eso Wan book store–you know that one, where BARACK OBAMA and BILL CLINTON came down from Heaven to sign their books. And because I know people, I’ve got some folks really, REALLY excited about getting all of your First Date Ready (FDR). We want you to be FDR inside AND out, so get a relationships book like “Swirling” to get your mind right, and I’ll take care of the rest.


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24 Mitt Romney Thinks Poor People Should Act Like Rich People

Mitt Romney Thinks Poor People Should Act Like Rich People

Hey all you entrepreneurs out there who lack the collateral or a high enough credit rating to acquire a loan from a bank to start your business, Mitt Romney has some advice fom you: Get a loan from your parents. Oh, your parents are poor too you say? Oh well, I guess Mitt hadn’t considered that your being poor had anything to do with your parents being poor. Ooopsy-daisy!


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25 JC Davies’ Book Review: “New Book for Sistahs and the Men Who Wanna Love Them”

JC Davies’ Book Review: “New Book for Sistahs and the Men Who Wanna Love Them”

“…And even after my own 20-plus years of interracial dating, four years of full-time research, and writing a book on the topic, there were things in Swirling that I hadn’t heard before.”


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17 Best Frenemies: What’s the Deal With Toxic Friendships?

Best Frenemies: What’s the Deal With Toxic Friendships?

Once upon a time you had friends and you had enemies. Then somewhere along the line in the effort to get along with EVERYBODY, we got “frenemies”: a cute pop culture term for people that, to be blunt, you really have no business socializing with in the first place.


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44 “Swirling” Chapter Excerpt: “What Do I Do If My Partner’s Parents Think Our Interracial Relationship is a Sin?”

“Swirling” Chapter Excerpt: “What Do I Do If My Partner’s Parents Think Our Interracial Relationship is a Sin?”

This one is serious, so no silly sound effects. This is a real note, for a real person, so I want to be sensitive to how she might be feeling. It’s one thing to face rejection because of skin color, but it’s a whole other thing for folks to hide behind “religion to justify bigotry. In this video, I give the writer some tips on how to deal with it, identify red flags and how to talk to her mate about the situation. We go into a lot of details about these situations in “Swirling,” but I’ll share just a little bit here:


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43 Bet You Never Heard of This Movie: “Foreign Student”

Bet You Never Heard of This Movie: “Foreign Student”

This film takes place during the 1950s in the deep South where racial prejudice is an accepted norm and the one drop rule was still boldly and openly enforced. Black girls were expected to lower their eyes in the presence of a white man or woman. In many ways it was a simpler time and yet backward in almost every sense of the word. (Europe WAS much more evolved when it came to race in those days. No wonder black fled there by the droves.)


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68 Video: Beautiful Black Bride with Her Rainbeau

Video: Beautiful Black Bride with Her Rainbeau

This wedding looked like it was amazing. Wish I was around, I would’ve crashed it.


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15 Trend Tales: Ballet Flats

Trend Tales: Ballet Flats

While finishing May’s chiczine, conducting interviews and contributing posts as the new fashion and beauty editor over here at BB&W, I have come to the realization that many of you chic women are parents who wish to look chic without the fuss or some fo you aren’t parents and honestly and realistically cannot run around in stilettos all day.


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12 Beauty: We May Not Wrinkle But We Sag–Black Women and Sun Damage

Beauty: We May Not Wrinkle But We Sag–Black Women and Sun Damage

We’ve all heard the term, “black don’t crack.” For the most part, it’s true–oily skin, darker skin with a thicker layer tends not to wrinkle as readily as our paler sisters. But know this–just as sure as wrinkles can show your age, so can sagging of the connective tissue–that hang-dog, jowly look you often see when black women reach middle age. I bet you think that just comes with the territory. Nuh uh.


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27 Move away from the Bull’s-eye Part 2: Allowing fear to manipulate you into the crosshairs

Move away from the Bull’s-eye Part 2: Allowing fear to manipulate you into the crosshairs

A major issue is that when a group of African Americans try to other the undesirables that exist within our ethnic group, they get hit with the “Uncle Tom”/”Traitor to their race” label. The idea being that WE need to stick together NO MATTER WHAT (level of dysfunction must be allowed or tolerated) in order survive as a single race.


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