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Update! So Who Did Wes Pick??…

Drumroll, please! Wes picked Carrie! Check out our wrap up conversation… More about Carrie, in her own words: “I am a 27-year-old Hospitality Development Specialist in Venice Beach, California. I’m kind of a jerk, in a good way. Fulll of laughs, hyper-articulate, and just a woman trying to better herself. Originally a southern transplant myself, […]

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Dating Men Over 40: What’s the Big Difference?…

I spend a good 45 minutes of my morning, five days a week, on an elliptical machine or stair-climber at my local gym. Usually, there’s a book of some sort blocking my view of how much time I have left because, as you know, watching the time on that clock run down on the “fat […]

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Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating…

Last Friday we had our first “dating game” show on our live Google Hangouts. Five beautiful and quality women got a chance to meet and greet with my friend, Wes Murphy, who also has a You Tube channel.   It didn’t take long before someone in the comments section came in to say this… What […]

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PLEASE WELCOME BB&W’s Travel Consultant Adam Wyler…

  My name is Adam Wyler.  I was born in Mineola, NY, on October 16, 1966. I lived all of my life before I was 12 on Eastern Long Island. Dad was a production company manager on Broadway, so along with my brother and sister, we got to spend a lot of time in and […]

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‘Dating Game’ Line Up Featuring Wes Murphy Tonight!…

Check out the line up for tonight’s G+ chat!     These lovely ladies will meet Wes for the first time, so you do NOT want to miss it! Time: 7PM PST/10 PM EST Location: You Tube, be sure to subscribe here.  

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Why They Waited…Non-Black Men Explain Their Shifting Preferences…

After I released this video… A slew of men came to the channel to share their stories, and I thought it would be appropriate to share them here: From Darrell G… I am one of those guys you speak of, when I met my black girlfriend she was 25 and I was 35.  So yeah, […]

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Update on the ‘Meme’ Couple!…

You’ll recall that Beyond Black & White led the charge in re-writing the rotten memes that were created by haters of Cassia and Jacob. The response was epic! We wanted to do something nice for this young couple, who are also college students, so we paid the bill for them to go out on a […]

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6 Ways To Improve Your Self-Esteem…

If you haven’t realized it, self-esteem affects every part of our lives. It decides what jobs or promotions we go for, who we choose to date or marry, or even whether we’re able to speak up at functions and group gatherings. Our internal critic can wreak havoc on our self-esteem. Instead of telling us about […]

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Why Women LOSE When They Select Mates Primarily on Looks…

This post is an extension of the thoughts I posited on my YouTube channel last night. While the video encapsulates my thoughts, I need to take it a bit deeper here. (There were a couple of inaccuracies in that video…Stan has been married once.) White women know this; Asian women know it better. But when […]

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Zara: ‘Bad Hair’ Blues – Not All Natural Hair Coils…

I stopped chemically straightening my hair years ago – this was before the natural hair movement had taken off in the USA. I initially stopped relaxing and started texturising for a stylistic change. And then, just like that, I stopped doing that too. It just felt natural (no pun intended); an intuitive and organic decision. And […]

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Meet Erik and Tanya: Interracial Couple Living Abroad in Israel…

Since so much of the focus on interracial dating and relationships generates from an American perspective, it’s so refreshing to learn about couples like us that live in various other locales. Erik and Tanya are such a couple; they’re American expats who live in Israel.   I was able to sit down with this couple […]

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Mamie: “I Am Damaged, But Not Broken.”…

I woke up this morning and got ready for work and looked in the mirror for a bit. Such a mundane inconsequential action, looking in the mirror, but when I was younger I would avoid mirrors like the plague. I hated looking at myself. I was afraid to be confronted what I already knew, I […]

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Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White…

On the fan page today I presented a man, Stan, 58, who reached out to me because he wished to connect with a like-minded black woman. I was a little taken aback by the comments and suspicion that arose. (I’m not judging it; I do understand where it comes from so please don’t think I’m attacking […]

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Video Diary: For Those Who Want to Know What the Heck I Do When…

I’ve never done a video like this before, but the Little Man was excited to be front and center because he wanted to be like “The Nive Nulls.” Yes, my nine-year-old knows about them unbeknownst to me. Totally cool–it’s some really wholesome YouTube watching. So, for those who are curious about what the heck I […]

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February First: Open thread…

Just thought it was time for another Open Thread so that you can talk about what is on your minds. 

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Taraji P. Henson on her role as Cookie on FOX’s ‘Empire’…

Empire, the new music-drama from FOX, is a humongous hit. It follows hip-hop mogul Luscious Lyon (portrayed by Terrence Howard) as he prepares to take his record company public, AND secretly battles ALS with less than three years to live. Taraji P. Henson plays his ex-wife, Cookie, who co-founded Empire with Luscious using drug money […]

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IRR Romance: Chameleon by Ashe Barker…

    Beyond Black and White Article As a white author, it was something of a challenge to write an interracial erotic romance where the heroine is both a submissive, and the black partner. The power relationship in a Dominant/submissive romance is already a delicate balance and is right there at the forefront of the […]

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Next Friday: A Date with Wes Murphy, Live on G+!…

Wes with hair… Isn’t he totally adorable??    This may be one of the most enjoyable G+ hangouts yet! Fellow You Tuber, Wes Murphy is on a quest. He’s looking for his special someone this year, and he has enlisted my help.   So next week, we’re taking this challenge all the way interactive, and […]

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Zara: “I Don’t Swirl, I Date.”…

I don’t Swirl, I Date.  I have often wondered about the term, “Swirling,” ever since it made its way into everyday (US pop culture) colloquialisms to refer to interracial dating. “Am I a ‘Swirler‘ then?” I began to ponder to myself. I had never really seen myself that way. And there was just something about […]

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For Those Who Think Insults Endear You…Think Again.…

One thing that the black community clings to for dear life is the notion that people can be changed and taught through humiliation and degradation. It’s their version of “tough love.” Ask any disenfranchised black male You Tuber about why they do what they do, their response is often, “I love black women. I just […]