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Smiling is Only the Beginning…Other Get-the-Guy Moves You Should…

If you’re planning to go to happy hour tonight on the slim chance you might meet Mr. Potential, you probably already know that you can’t be hiding behind your merlot with Resting Bitchy Face on. Yes you should smile–not like drooling idiot (that may come later) but strategically. Smiling says you’re, well, not a bitch. It also conveys that you’re open to getting to know the recipient of that smile. But once you’ve become an expert smiler, what’s next?

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Kola Boof: “I Never Loved Osama Bin Laden”…

Never to be outdone and never soft-spoken, the illustrious for some, the infamous for others, Kola Boof.

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Reality TV Star Evelyn Lozada on Why She Married an Abuser: “I…

Now I know that many of the BB&W regulars HATE reality TV shows featuring black women who aren’t afraid to turn on the ratchet–namely, shows like VH1’s Basketball Wives. But I saw something in the super trailer for the 5th season of Basketball Wives that I think is germane to the discussion of how black women* really feel about marriage.

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Ah Hell–Time to Rip Off Someone Else’s Wig: Second-Grader…

Another truly what-the-cuss…

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Gratuitous Photo of the Day…

I’m finally getting serious about my photography and am entering into the wily world of Photoshop and this is the first thing I’ve done I’m happy with so guess what? You’ll be tortured with my work from time to time.

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Black Women Suspicious When Desired yet Begging to be Desired?…

Black Women Suspicious When Someone Desires Them I just read this post on Clutch about a new dating site called I Love Black Women.  According to Clutch: “Launching soon, the site is described as being “inclusively for black women and those who want to date them.” Only black women can join the site but it […]

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Who Owns a Black Woman’s Womb?…

Despite the fact that a lack of being married is usually the result of a man not asking, it has been typically expected that the black women bear sole responsibility for having children by men who never had any intention of marrying them. And so black women are expected to accept, without complaint, a series of catch-22s:

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More Interracial Couples Than Ever, But…Why Are Less Tying the…

One look on most any busy street and you’re sure to see at least one or two mixed race couples together. More and more, younger people are crossing color lines to find love, but that love doesn’t always lead to marriage. Many are opting to live together rather than marry, according to the latest U.S. Census and as reported by the Los Angeles Times. Turns out that nine percent of co-habitating mixed-race couples reported to the Bureau, with married mixed-race couples trailing behind by four percent.

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Thank the Heavens For Alternatives for the Upcoming Cold Season……

As the last vestiges of summer release that last death hacks, I’m left a bit melancholy. Not because the warm, sunny Southern California weather will suddenly transform itself into blistering cold–we don’t have conditions nearly as drastic as that–but because all the kids are starting school. And with the start of school and my four kids exposed to the throngs of booger-picking, and no-hand-washing children who will no doubt brush across my children and spread their plague upon our entire family at least one of my four will spike a fever, guaranteed.

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Soaps: Interesting Interracial Love Triangle on The Bold & The…

I am an unapologetic soap fan, and while I know the stories are almost always absurd, I just can’t help watching. Everyday I have my lunch around the time The Young & The Restless and The Bold & The Beautiful come on and I’ve been watching with mild interest a love triangle with a black woman at the center.

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Ah, Julep…For Lusty Nail Lovers……

Check it out…

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Fashion: Bradley Bayou’s “The Science of Sexy” Put…

Ever buy an outfit without trying it on because you just knew it would fit, only to be disappointed, not because it wasn’t your size, but because it just didn’t look good on you? Or have you tried to mimic the style of your favorite celebrity only for it to look utterly ridiculous when you tried to pull it off? In both cases, you mistake most likely was that you were trying to fit a square peg into a circle and not dressing for your specific body type.

Monday is Punday.…

More groan-worthy puns for your enjoyment…

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So Crazy We Couldn’t Make This Up: A Hebrew Isrealite Stumbles…

ome people think that in 2013, sites like Beyond Black & White aren’t necessary because, hey, interracial marriages and have been legal in most states for decades. Sure; interracial relationships are a cake walk if you’re a Vietnamese woman married to a white guy compared to a black woman married to said white guy. And while all mixed-race relationships may have their challenges, there’s a special kind of hell black women go through in the black community through the most manipulative and guilt-inducing tactics you could imagine.

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Film Review: The Sapphires…

Did you know the U.S. Army hired entertainers for the troops during the Vietnam War? Did you know one such group of singers – The Sapphires – hailed from Aboriginal lands in Australia? A 2012 film treats us to their journey from rural country western singers to glamorous 60’s soul performers in an extremely dangerous locale. They pick up a hard boozing keyboardist (Chris O’Dowd – if he looks familiar he guest starred on HBO’s Girls) as a manager along the way.

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Lets Talk Movies…

Hello folks! I go by CAPT SMOOTH at BBW and I’ve enjoyed the many topics here but I tend to stick around the Off topic thread because we can open up anything for discussion. That includes film.

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New Fresh & Clean Off-Topic Thread!…

    Try not to get it dirty.

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Study Confirms that No Matter What I Do, Haters Will STILL Hate Me.…

I have a few trusted advisers in my inner circle who semi-regularly have to talk me off the ledge, because I have a small but vocal cadre of haters with some insane and rabid vendetta who want to prove the following:

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Want to Curb Your Spending? Study Says Shopping In High Heels Helps…

Who knew your Jimmy Choo’s could help you shop smarter?

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Cathay Williams: The Only Black Woman Buffalo Soldier…

Private Cathay Williams was the only woman to serve in the US Army as a Buffalo Soldier. On November 15, 1866 she enlisted in the Army as a man. Williams reversed her name William Cathay and lived as a male soldier and served until she was found out due to the last of many illnesses she suffered while a serving. She is the only documented black woman known to have served in the Army during these times when enlisting women was prohibited.