madness, anger, frustration, emotions, ABW, stereotype,stigma,

Tell Um Why You Mad, Hun….

You know what I don't believe in.......? Being quiet when I'm pissed off or done wrong. There. I said it... I could give a flying pickle how anyone feels when I feel as if an abomination has occurred against my personhood. That 'Angry Black Woman' shit is and is not a cool moniker because I get that … Read More...

About Singledom: “But What If GAWD Sends You a Man With 9 Kids???!! What Are You Going to Do Then?”

Oh boy…or girl…

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Zo-Mi-Gorsh! Oprah’s Mega-Fro on the Cover of “O” Magazine!

Ladies, it looks like sporting your kinks has become a full-fledged mainstream phenomenon. How are you all feeling about that?

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PT 1: An Honest Conversation Between You and I…Embracing Your Sexuality

“My main issue is that I’m struggling terribly with trying to reconnect to my sexual side in a healthy way and generally see sex and my overwhelming desire for it in a good way and don’t know what to do about this. I have a history of sexual abuse in childhood by my cousin and rape in adulthood.”


Watch Zoe Saldana and Christian Bale in the First Trailer for ‘Out of the Furnace’

Zoe Saldana has GOT to be the luckiest Afro-Latina actress in Hollywood right now…

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Video: Fat & Curly Twist Tutorial

I’ve gotten a bunch of requests from folks about how I acheived this look. So without further ado…


QOTW: “I Can’t Stand My Black Girlfriend’s ‘Hood’ Name!”

Guy loves girl, but hates her “hood” name. Take a look at what I say.

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“Blindian” Love! Best Wedding Video Ever!!

I ran across this video via our Facebook fan page after Stephanie and Vijay sent me a wedding photo from their recent nuptials on June 21. Someone found the video and I couldn’t help smiling throughout the whole thing.

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A “Must Download” for the Online Dater…

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This is me, only…slightly glow-y. My eyes are brighter, my teeth whiter, my face smoother. This is a common technique professional photographers charge an arm and a leg for, but you can do the same thing with your selfies with Beauty Box, an free online app that allows you to take pictures, or upload your old ones and enhance them with a variety of filters.

EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part 11 – The “three finger, three second” relationships rule

Now that I am becoming SO experienced in relationship matters (quit rolling your eyes, that was said “tongue-in-cheek”)…. I want to share my rule that I call the “three fingers, three second” rule that applies for anyone involved in a relationship. Then I want everyone to chime in with their implementation of this rule.


Iyanla Vanzant: “There is no reason to continue to have children with men who don’t honor us.”

It looks like Iyanla Vanzant is a fan of No Wedding No Womb. There’s just so much truth in what she’s saying, and it echos so much of what we teach, preach and nag about on this space. Some folks are getting real defensive about what Miss Vanzant has to say, because hit dogs holler and black folks especially don’t like to be told that their poop stinks.


Fall 2013 Trends: Best of Britain..Plaid, Tweed and Argyle!!

This fall the fashion is taking the spring trends and dragging them to the dark side.