madness, anger, frustration, emotions, ABW, stereotype,stigma,

Tell Um Why You Mad, Hun….

You know what I don't believe in.......? Being quiet when I'm pissed off or done wrong. There. I said it... I could give a flying pickle how anyone feels when I feel as if an abomination has occurred against my personhood. That 'Angry Black Woman' shit is and is not a cool moniker because I get that … Read More...

dating, relationships, mating, interracial relationship, meeting mates, app, digital dating, hook ups, Niki McElroy, Tinder, black women looking for non black men, how can I meet guys,

Author of “Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men” Dishes on Her Experience Using Tinder

My buddy and fellow IR author, Niki McElroy, author of  A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men, recently took an 8-month ride on Tinder, the popular dating app. If you’ve ever been curious about what this new dating rage is all about, then this is a must read. I have been dabbling in the ever […]

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Tune in Today to See Super-Cute Naturalista, LaToya Codner on “Days of Our Lives”

If you’ve been on this blog any amount of time, you know I’m a stay-at-home mom. As such, it’s a requirement to watch soap operas. You get your membership revoked if you don’t. So I’m watching Days of Our Lives today, after not watching for over a week, and who do I see? This cute […]

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Big, Bold and Beautiful: I’m Loving NeNe Leakes on Season 18 of DWTS

I don’t know how you feel about NeNe Leakes, or if you even follow the reality show fodder enough to know who she is. But there is one thing that can’t be denied, NeNe is a big, beautiful, and vivacious Black woman and she showed everyone as much during her debut moment on season 18 […]

dating, teens, interracial dating, young people, proms, Ebony magazine, stigma, stereotype, society, relationships,

Guess Who’s Coming to the Prom? EBONY Magazine Releases Encouraging News About Teens and Interracial Dating

Thank lawdbejeezus that today’s teenagers don’t have as many hangup about interracial relationships that the older folks seem to have. According to this report in the April 2014 issue of EBONY, today’s youth just might put me out of a job, and I couldn’t be happier. According to research conducted by Frank N. Magrid Associates, […]

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No Excuses! Six Good-For-You Plants You Can Grow Without a Yard

At some point, it will cease to be winter in the Midwest and East Coast and continue to be the never-ending summer it has been in California. Usually the last of the snow leaves for good in April so there’s plenty of time for you to stock up on seeds, starter plants and pots for […]

Patrick Wanin, Ph.D, Matthew Hussey, black women, femininity, perception, gender roles, dating, dynamics, inter human relationships, interracial dating, womanhood, sexuality, stigma, masculinity, what is femininity, black women are feminine,

Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It Mean to Be Feminine, and How Does That Affect Attraction?”

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and women on the other end–the girly-girls–who often feel  shamed by feminists who think they are slaves to patriarchy. I want to get to the bottom of the discussion […]


Monday Punday # 28

Monday-Punday #28   SirLoin, an amateur maritime historian, offers the following tidbit concerning the offshore sailing log of the USS Constitution, the oldest commissioned warship in the world.   “On 23 August 1779, the USS Constitution set sail from Boston, loaded with 475 officers and men, 48,600 gallons of water, sufficient food, 74,000 cannon shot, […]

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DISGUSTING! Father Beats 13 Year-Old Girl, Mother Watches, Records and Calls Her Daughter a B*tch

What I find most disgusting about this video is how the mother is so gleeful in her blood lust, egging this man (is he her father?) to beat her, calling her a bitch, and recording it for World Star Hip Hop. As a mother of three daughters, I shiver at the clear disdain this woman […]

dating, spit ups, rumors, divorce, bad patterns, therapy, couples, Halle Berry, actress, Oliver Martinez, marriage, split, Hollywood,

Halle Berry Rumored Split Leads Me to Ask, “At What Point is Problem Really YOU?”

Apologies in advance to #TeamHalle stans, but I’m scratching my head about the news that Halle Berry might be splitting from yet another partner, making this her third divorce and 50-11th failed relationship. Are Halle Berry, 47, and Olivier Martinez, 48, going down a rocky path? The couple, who haven’t been spotted together since Dec. 7, are […]

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Iffy Belly? No Waist to Speak Of? Consider the Monokini

I am one of those unfortunate women who does not have an hourglass shape. Yes; I’m slim and fit, but no amount of exercise and diet will change my basic anatomy. So I have to fake it by choosing items in my wardrobe that give the illusion of an hourglass. Enter the most amaze balls […]

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I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on the Tom Joyner Show This Morning

I had the opportunity of a lifetime today to speak my piece to Tyler Perry and get the peanut gallery to admit that colorism plays a MAJOR role in the dating options with black women. Oh, and we talked about my show, “Swirlr” too. During the show, Tyler Perry teased that black men have a […]