SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Looking back on it.

She Walks in Beauty She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies;                                And all that’s best of dark and bright Meet in her aspect and her eyes:                [...] Read More…

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Guest Writer: A Black Girl’s Guide to Studying Abroad in Valparaiso, Chile!

Meet Tiana (left) and Angel (right)–two brown girls who met while studying abroad in Chile! ☺   Valparaíso, Chile, with its art-splashed buildings, sloped hills, and turn of the century –styled funiculars, is often called the “San Francisco of South America.” I had the pleasure of studying abroad there from February 2012 to July 2012,[...] Read More…

black girls, violence towards black women, abuse, society, culture, rape culture, racism, media, stereotypes, technology, awareness,

Where Did 64,000 Black Women and Girls Go?

A person doesn’t just disappear into thin air but you would think they do when you learn that 64,000 Black women and girls are currently missing in the United States. With nearly every cell phone having GPS, digital cameras and satellites everywhere, our digital footprint is being recorded as we speak and as we type[...] Read More…

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#NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

It’s very rare that I get questions that stir my emotions, frustrate me, and make me deeply sad. I just received such a letter from a very young woman, and while I’m not sure if this entry will make a difference in her situation, I hope that perhaps others will take this as a cautionary[...] Read More…

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Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes, thick hair and skin that turns bronze in the sun. Indeed, the mystery and enticement of Indian men can’t be denied.   Of course[...] Read More…

recipes, cooking, gardening, ideas, entertaining, meals, healthy, food, nutrition, DIY, urban gardening, harvest, veggies, fruits, organic,

Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!

Whew. Got back from the Tenth Annual BlogHer conference in San Jose feeling a bit nervous. I mean, I called everyday to say hello to the hubby and kids, and remind Clo Clo to water the plants. A lot. Because the heat was well into the 90′s, and since I’m growing in containers and raised[...] Read More…

sex, intimacy, dating, mating, relationships, online dating, healthy communication, red flags, rules of dating, advice,

Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pretty much the same amount as the last two or three years. I meet and talk to new guys every week. But now that I am back on[...] Read More…

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QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb Questions!”

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me, fed up that his friends keep putting his girlfriend in uncomfortable positions. I made this video while at the BlogHer 2014 conference in San Jose, and guess who I[...] Read More…

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Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first thought the writer was talking about a white guy whom she dated and once introduced to family, was unceremoniously dumped. After all, this does happen. But surprisingly, I see this more often when[...] Read More…

99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem.

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still wheat) with some of my husband’s almond milk (he opts for the sweetened kind). It was after 11, and I should have been sleepy. But about[...] Read More…

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TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..

I heard about the fan fare involving Michael Jackson and dem during the early 80′s but I just wasn’t into him like that. The bad boy image and curly kit seemed a bit much too for me so I turned my eyes towards another type of brown boy crush. Since you know I’m greedy, I[...] Read More…

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JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!

Hi ladies, it’s been a long time since I’ve written here and it got me thinking that it’s high time that we shared our overseas experiences. This is where the article involves your participation! I love reading positive articles of black women enjoying their space and time overseas. It creates further encouragement for other black[...] Read More…