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Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men…

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes, thick hair and skin that turns bronze in the sun. Indeed, the mystery and enticement of Indian men can’t be denied.   Of course […]

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Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!…

Whew. Got back from the Tenth Annual BlogHer conference in San Jose feeling a bit nervous. I mean, I called everyday to say hello to the hubby and kids, and remind Clo Clo to water the plants. A lot. Because the heat was well into the 90’s, and since I’m growing in containers and raised […]

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Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?…

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pretty much the same amount as the last two or three years. I meet and talk to new guys every week. But now that I am back on […]

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QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb…

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me, fed up that his friends keep putting his girlfriend in uncomfortable positions. I made this video while at the BlogHer 2014 conference in San Jose, and guess who I […]

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Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often…

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first thought the writer was talking about a white guy whom she dated and once introduced to family, was unceremoniously dumped. After all, this does happen. But surprisingly, I see this more often when […]

99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem.…

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still wheat) with some of my husband’s almond milk (he opts for the sweetened kind). It was after 11, and I should have been sleepy. But about […]

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TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..…

I heard about the fan fare involving Michael Jackson and dem during the early 80’s but I just wasn’t into him like that. The bad boy image and curly kit seemed a bit much too for me so I turned my eyes towards another type of brown boy crush. Since you know I’m greedy, I […]

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JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!…

Hi ladies, it’s been a long time since I’ve written here and it got me thinking that it’s high time that we shared our overseas experiences. This is where the article involves your participation! I love reading positive articles of black women enjoying their space and time overseas. It creates further encouragement for other black […]

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Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People…

The East Coast folks know that we’re on a tight deadline. These days you can’t quite tell when Summer springs or when Winter will Fall through, so it makes the most sense to get all early dating phase-ish things out the way while you can still can. I’m a resident of the state of New […]

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Reader Letter: Black Woman Married to a Black Man Sees the Site for…

I love it when people finally “get” it. The letter… I pop in on your site from time to time and my feelings about what you are trying to do have run the gamut. But your recent posts have made it clear to me that I misjudged your intent, and I wanted to say keep […]

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Love It! Couple I Interviewed for Loving Day 2014 Tied the Knot!!…

I just love it when this happens, and it happens a lot. Last year, courtesy of online dating site, DateWhoYouWant.com, I was able to attend the 2013 Loving Day flagship celebration in New York City. While I was there, I met a couple and did a video that has gone semi-viral. Well guess what? The […]

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Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner…

Many of you know that I draw a hard line on black men in the community who abandon their children en masse and never even think of marrying the voluminous baby mamas they have peppered all over their blighted neighborhoods. So when I first read about, then saw the awful video of gentle-giant Eric Gardner […]

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Nutritious, Delicious, and Filling: How to Make Your Own Sun Dried…

I’ve had mixed success with tomatoes this season. My heirloom tomatoes I grew from seed have produced “meh,”  (good but not prolific) but the two vines of organic, non-GMO roma tomatoes I bought from Home Depot as starter plants have taken off. These were supposed to be a determinate variety, meaning that they won’t keep […]

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Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.…

Take a look at this specimen of perfection… So who is he? He’s Nick Bateman. A model, actor, and wanna-be Ninja Turtle that has everyone on Facebook–both gay and straight–going completely bat shit. I just may have to leave my husband for this man. And according to this advertisement, he’s into Asian and Black chicks. […]

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OMG Pink for Dark Girls…Yay Mineral Fusion!…

I have about a half dozen pink lipsticks in my stash, so many that it took me a dog’s life to get to trying a Mineral Fusion shade that just about knocked my socks off. You are looking at me wearing, CHARMING, the pink shade of lipstick offered from Mineral Fusion. I achieved this look […]

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Feeling Lonely? Isolated? Use Social Media to Create Your…

I recently got a note from a black woman married interracially, and it got me to thinking about how sometimes, interracial relationships can cause challenges in forming friendships. I have a question. My husband and I have no friends. Some black women won’t talk to me, they call me a sell out. Some white women […]

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The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two…

As a former public relations executive, I can tell you without any doubt that the media sends us messages–messages that we expect, messages that reinforce, and messages that influence. So when I saw a magazine cover show up on my Facebook timeline, complete with a message from Kola Boof, I began to really try and […]

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Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns…

Oh, you kids are so, so spoiled. I feed you Man Candy each and every Monday, yet you scream for more various and different kinds. It’s like your appetite can’t be squelched, nor your eyes filled with enough delectable treats. I was sent a special request for a Man Candy feature so since you know […]

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Willow Smith Snags the Cover of Teen Vogue…

Regardless of whether or not you agree with Will and Jada’s liberal parenting skills you can’t deny that Willow Smith is one awesome young Black woman. Freedom and protection during childhood can help to cultivate creativity, individuality and a strong sense of self. These things are what makes Willow unique and has also landed her […]

SavageTango tells all: Getting his attention…

SavageTango Let me say right off I’ve been down this road on numerous occasions. I’m no stranger to the issues you’ve raised and understand to a degree where you’re coming from. First things first, as a white dude I take the position that I will gladly listen and sympathize with what you have experienced and […]