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Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White…

On the fan page today I presented a man, Stan, 58, who reached out to me because he wished to connect with a like-minded black woman. I was a little taken aback by the comments and suspicion that arose. (I’m not judging it; I do understand where it comes from so please don’t think I’m attacking […]

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Video Diary: For Those Who Want to Know What the Heck I Do When…

I’ve never done a video like this before, but the Little Man was excited to be front and center because he wanted to be like “The Nive Nulls.” Yes, my nine-year-old knows about them unbeknownst to me. Totally cool–it’s some really wholesome YouTube watching. So, for those who are curious about what the heck I […]

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February First: Open thread…

Just thought it was time for another Open Thread so that you can talk about what is on your minds. 

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Taraji P. Henson on her role as Cookie on FOX’s ‘Empire’…

Empire, the new music-drama from FOX, is a humongous hit. It follows hip-hop mogul Luscious Lyon (portrayed by Terrence Howard) as he prepares to take his record company public, AND secretly battles ALS with less than three years to live. Taraji P. Henson plays his ex-wife, Cookie, who co-founded Empire with Luscious using drug money […]

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IRR Romance: Chameleon by Ashe Barker…

    Beyond Black and White Article As a white author, it was something of a challenge to write an interracial erotic romance where the heroine is both a submissive, and the black partner. The power relationship in a Dominant/submissive romance is already a delicate balance and is right there at the forefront of the […]

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Next Friday: A Date with Wes Murphy, Live on G+!…

Wes with hair… Isn’t he totally adorable??    This may be one of the most enjoyable G+ hangouts yet! Fellow You Tuber, Wes Murphy is on a quest. He’s looking for his special someone this year, and he has enlisted my help.   So next week, we’re taking this challenge all the way interactive, and […]

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Zara: “I Don’t Swirl, I Date.”…

I don’t Swirl, I Date.  I have often wondered about the term, “Swirling,” ever since it made its way into everyday (US pop culture) colloquialisms to refer to interracial dating. “Am I a ‘Swirler‘ then?” I began to ponder to myself. I had never really seen myself that way. And there was just something about […]

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For Those Who Think Insults Endear You…Think Again.…

One thing that the black community clings to for dear life is the notion that people can be changed and taught through humiliation and degradation. It’s their version of “tough love.” Ask any disenfranchised black male You Tuber about why they do what they do, their response is often, “I love black women. I just […]

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Leona’s Love Quest : Friends with Penalties…

Leona’s Love Quest  Friends with Penalties Whether it’s possible for a man and a woman to be friends is an age-old question made popular by a scene in When Harry Met Sally, one of my favorite Rom-Coms. (OMG! Remember when Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan were that young and beautiful?!) Surely men and women carry […]

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Full-Feature Make-up Tutorial: Secrets to Smooth and Poreless-Looking…

  Unlike Beyonce, I don’t wake up looking like this. There’s a lot that goes into having camera-ready skin. It’s funny, because I never thought that I’d have to be concerned about such things, but here I am…into my 40s and appearing on You Tube, cable networks, and perhaps sometime in the future, network television. […]

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Mamie: Your (Black) Feminism Crash Course……

By Mamie Mooney As the saying goes,”You’re only as good (or as relevant) as your loudest idiot.” Unfortunately, feminism has had the pleasure of lining the mouths of quite a few idiots–so it’s likely that you’ve picked up some misinformation along the way. It’s ok, I won’t hold it against you. I am a feminist, […]

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Ever Wonder What Millennials Think About Interracial Dating?…

By Shannon Rogers, BB&W College Correspondent Bridging the Gap: Millennial’s and Interracial Dating Aisha, 22, Senior: “I asked him: “Do you even date black girls? Like, how does that work for you?” When it comes to interracial dating amongst millennials, it’s clear much has changed about the dynamics of race relations and dating since our […]

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When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America…

There is yet another “relationship” book by black men aimed at black women. As soon as I heard this one has eight – EIGHT – co-authors, I knew vomit-inducing nonsense was ahead. Sure enough, The Today Show interviewed three of the authors and the never-married, so-called “IBM” (Ideal Black Man), Frank, did not disappoint. Visit […]

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Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!…

Take a look…you’ll probably get a kick out of it. It’s my attempt to disrupt all the hate-filled, anti-black woman screeds on You Tube…

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Sleepy Hollow is on the Verge of Cancellation. What Happened?…

  The TV show Scandal ushered in a wave of TV projects starring black women. One of the first was Sleepy Hollow, starring Nicole Beharie, which brought FOX monster ratings during its first season. I’ve never watched the show, but apparently the chemistry between Nicole and Tom Mison (who portrays Ichabod Crane), hooked viewers. A […]

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Friday Funny: I Was Robbed by Ghetto Birds!…

I was just minding my own business having lunch at the Historic Mission Inn in Riverside yesterday, and look…                     Actually, these aren’t really ghetto birds. I reserve that moniker for pigeons. My father-in-law tells me these are English sparrows, whose ancestors hitched a ride on […]

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Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To…

I was moved to write this post by BBW community member Vivaforever, who expressed her concerns over the ugly hatred that is spread toward black women who date inter-racially by other black women: The sheer abundance of women like Key-sha is what troubles me. They seem to be growing in number as more BW date […]

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‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane…

A fan just shared this with me…it’s unbelievable. But read closely and you’ll see that these events don’t happen in a bubble.   Reading this, your first reaction would be to call this woman a “typical hood rat” but before you stone her, consider this. This girl’s mother had 12 kids by 38. She got pregnant […]

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Michael and Kemi – A BB&W Google+ Community Love Connection…

If you’ve been hanging out in the Beyond Black & White Google+ community over the last couple months, you got to witness this love connection go down. Michael, 49, lives in Rochester, NY. Kemi, 34, lives in St. Louis, MO. They started interacting with one another in November 2014 when, as Michael puts it, Kemi […]

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OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding!…

All you ‘Olitz’ fans out there might not ever see the fictional couple tie the knot, but drown yourself in the fantasy of this couple, who themed their entire wedding on the two characters giving us the happy ending we hope for! Event planner, Roxanne Duncan, tried to imagine the fictional couple’s fondest dreams come […]