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Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry…

There are those who know exactly what they like. Their tastes are carved in stone and nothing else will do. When it comes to men, I’m a fan of aesthetics and beautiful male representation. Dark black skin is like nothing else in this world. This week’s Man Candy Monday is dedicated to the Darkest Berry. […]

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Black Girl Travel Sponsors Georgia Teen’s First International…

Fleace Weaver, founder of BlackGirlTravel.com, recently sponsored a 17-year-old Georgia teenager’s trip to Rome, Italy for the first “Look Back, Give Back” competition. The goal is to facilitate travel and empower young girls to become world citizens. I got an opportunity to interview Na’Isah and Fleace while on her trip via Skype. Take a look. There’s a […]

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As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the…

As younger black women increasingly express their willingness to date out, AND men of other races become more vocal in their adoration of black women’s beauty, the hand wringing in the black community has become frenzied.

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Video: BB&W Fan Get Married, Serenades Groom; Bring Him to Tears…

Again…best job in the world I have. I help people know their worth. I let couples know they have support. And guess what I get in return? Stories like these!!! Hi Christelyn, I just want to say, thank you for continuing your Beyond Black & White Blog. I’ve been reading it for the past couple […]

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Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad…

As Blackistan continues to be in denial that colorism exists, I give you Exhibit A to the contrary. A flyer, “Light Skinned vs. Dark Skin,” with a note on the back that light skinned chicks get in free until 12 AM. Honestly stuff like this only elicits a chuckle and a shake of the head […]

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Swirling and Marriage: 2014 Couple of the Year…

Allen and Lynne Lo Introducing the Swirling and Marriage 2014 Couple of the Year.  We see lots of beautiful, swirling couples on this site. Sometimes, one of these lovely couples stands apart from among the others. I came across this couple first on Pinterest and Facebook via The Swirl World. Adrienne London Leach of TSW put […]

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Feelings About Renisha McBride……

By Pella The verdict for the Renisha McBride trial is in and Theodore Wafer, the man who shot McBride in the face on his porch in 2013 was found guilty of both Second Degree Murder and Manslaughter. ​According to the New York Times Wafer is facing up to life in prison. First when I heard this I was excited. […]

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Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?…

On day I walked into FedEx Kinkos one day to send out a package, and while I was waiting, I saw a book that caught my eye, Eat Vegan Before Six. I thought it was interesting–being a “flexetarian”–eating no meat until dinner time is something I’ve been doing consistently for nearly a year since I started […]

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You Tube Star, Chescaleigh Talks Making a Plan and the Timeline…

We talk a lot around here about making plans and making positive changes to have better lives. Once you make a plan, you need a roadmap. That’s why I was really intrigued when I saw Chescaleigh at The Timeline Project booth at a conference I recently attended. When I found out it was sponsored by […]

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#OnlineDating Success…She Made the First Move.…

Online dating has it’s ups and downs, I’ll admit you often have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. However, with 52% of men using online dating sites to find women, you can’t really discount it. What is more, stats suggest that the average dating-to-marriage period for people who met online […]

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Ready to Flee to Freedom? Tips to Get You on Your Way……

How many people are unhappy with their lives but do virtually nothing to fix them? Unfortunately, far too many. There are deeply ingrained bad habits, poor self-image, self-sabotage, lack of discipline and a host of other issues to grapple with. The pain of change may seem too great at times. But, at some point, you […]

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: From Hair to There…

I’m tangled,       like the curls of my love’s hair,       like a snake encharmed,     I turn and twist.         What is this knot,       this dizzy maze, this snare?     All I know:       if I’m not tangled here, I […]

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QOTW: “How Do I Tell My Girlfriend I Love Her Natural…

This note made me go “AWWWW!!!” Dear Ms. Karazin, I am writing to you as a young “white” boy of 18 years (though I only acknowledge the existence of one race– the human race). I have been enjoying my first ever relationship, though it is sort of unofficial. My companion is a black girl of the […]

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“Help! My Mother is a Mammy, and Resents My Desire for a Nicer…

Hey Christelyn!First, I want to say thank you for showing me the light. Your site led me to discover BWE groups all over and has exposed me to the world I was ignoring. Your site also showed me that I was normal. I’ve always liked non black men and I always was made to feel […]

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New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the…

Moguldum Studios just released a documentary lending a hard look at the astronomical 72% out-of-wedlock rate in the black community. And I’m LOVING that media has become more vocal on the crisis, because it is a crisis. Because this is of particular importance to me and my work, I’ll be buying this video. However, I’ll […]

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Man Candy Monday: Big Bald Head and Those With Coiffed Beards…

I love to run my fingers through a man’s hair, however, sometimes that’s not necessary. Men with bald heads leave nothing to the imagination. Emotion, expression and vulnerability are his display of power. I’ve no quarrel with a man who spends his well earned money at the barber each and every week. Whether you love […]

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Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women.…

Someone on my You Tube channel sent this video to me, and upon looking at the title, I thought it was just another cuss-filled, vitriolic video about how black women were the root to all ills in the black community. But what struck me was that the two gentlemen in the video look like “nice” […]

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Latest News of NYPD Brutality PROVES You Can’t Be…

I think I might have been a lone voice in the wilderness in my blog space when I reported and expressed my outrage over the tragic and unnecessary death of Eric Garner, 43, who who was killed by the NYPD as the result of a chokehold. The medical examiners ruled it a homicide. While other […]

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OMG…Let These Folks Be! In Their Ninety’s, Interracial…

This has got to be the sweetest thing in the whole world, and even more endearing that this couple–a white man and a black woman–live in the state of Virginia, Ground Zero for the legalization of interracial marriage in the United States. What’s even more compelling, this couple was alive during that time, and might […]

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Eric Garner: He Was Murdered. Definitively.…

It looks like Eric Garner, the victim of homocide via the Staten Island police, might get some justice. According to the New York Daily News, “The Staten Island man who collapsed after being placed in the banned restraint by a police officer died from compression of the neck and chest, the New York City Medical […]