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Why “Marriage at First Sight” Is the Worst Thing to Happen…

Have  any of you seen the promos for the new reality-show pablum being shoved down our throats called, Marriage at First Sight?  The general idea is that relationship “experts” choose your mate and you agree to marry the person they deem appropriate for you. The argument for such a show is that arrangement marriages have […]

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TBT: The Dukes of Hazzard…

Growing up in the 80’s was quite an experience. Television shows revolved around likeable charecters that weren’t too bad on the eyes. It was during this time where my boy crush database was in development and one of my favorite eye ball treats was to sit down next to my Dad for an episode of […]

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Our Favorite Interracial Romance Authors Made History This Week!…

Some of your favorite IR novelists got catapulted to main stream a few days ago when they were featured on USA Today. The line up for the Scandalous Heroes collection! Except: Nine authors — Sienna Mynx, Latrivia Nelson, Pepper Pace, Bridget Midway, Serenity King, Aliyah Burke, Tiana Laveen, Yvette Hines, Erosa Knowles — offer up a […]

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RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty…

We already knew that Real Housewives of Atlanta’s Apollo Nida was facing Fed time based on some banking trickery he was implicated in a few years back. The verdict has come down and the husband of Phaedra Parks, an attorney, will be serving a reduced sentence of eight years leaving behind his gorgeous wife and […]

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“A Beautiful Burden” One Man’s Commentary on…

By “Zac Onbothsides”   Ok. We’ve established that there’s an attraction, we’ve even talked about the awkwardness of expressing it,  or more specifically, the response from many when we struggle to put it into words that will allow everyone to sleep at night.  We’ve acknowledged that it may make any number of folks feel some […]

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That Awkward Moment When Numbskulls Assume Your Biracial Baby…

Last night, my husband Sean was holding our 16-month-old daughter Maya as we were boarding a flight from BWI to MCO. As we stepped onto the plane, one of your flight attendants opened her mouth and inserted her foot quite deeply inside. Flight attendant to Maya: Hi there! Are you going to see Mickey?Sean: Nah. […]

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In Season in the “Beauty Garden”…Eggplant…

Hot summer months means eggplants…and lots of them. You’re probably noticing that these are on sale at your local market, so nows your chance to try this pleasantly meaty vegetable, loaded with vitamins, antioxidants and micronutrients…all that work in concert to make you more beautiful from the inside out. From World’s Healthiest Foods: Good for […]

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Ladies, Do NOT Date Interracially if You’re Too Suspicious of…

A non-black man just sent me the email below regarding an exchange he had with a black woman on OKCupid that he found attractive. This woman is so defensive, so quick to try and discover closet racism, quick to start a fight, and suspicious of whether or not she’s being fetisized. Can I just say […]

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Man Candy Monday: Hollywood Hotties Then, and Now…

What’s the saying again, “Something old, something new. Something Man Candy, just for you?” Age ain’t nothing but a number when it makes a guy just as hot, if not more so than he may have been in his younger days. For this Man Candy Monday, I bring you, Hollywood Hotties, Then and Now.   […]

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Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!…

I’m working on a master list NEVER BEEN DONE before (not sure why, tho) on an interracial dating blog. Back when I co-work Swirling, we created a list of interracial-friendly cities and states, and some of them were not really a surprise–Los Angeles and pretty much all of California, parts of Texas, some fly over […]

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Open Thread: “How Do I Explain My Preference for Black Women…

Okay well he didn’t say that…exactly. Here’s what this 20-something white guy actually wrote… Mrs. Karazin,I’m not ashamed and I make it pretty well known amongst my friends that I have acquired an affinity for black women. As a result, I’ve had several people ask me (out of curiosity instead of disgust, I hope) why […]

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Why I Have Mixed Feelings About the Firing of the Co-Host of the…

I remember when I was working as a lowly PR grunt representing a bagel company and trying to get a mention on the “Opie and Anthony” show when they were based in San Diego. I thought it was just a regional thing, but imagine my surprise that over time these shock jocks dominated the radio waves […]

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New Documentary on the Black Church Shines a Light on Prosperity Pimps…

I have to give credit where it’s due, because columnist Deborrah Cooper was the first to shine a light on how the church exploits black women and milks them of their resources. I remember interviewing Deborrah on this issue way back in the day. The conversation continues with this newly-released documentary from Moguldom Studios. I […]

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Have I Got You Curious Enough to Try Yoga? Online Guide Gives You the…

  I’ve been preaching the benefits of yoga on this blog for years because quite frankly, it works. It is such a holistic mode of exercise that quiets the mind, detoxifies the body, and builds muscle, improves posture, and produces a sleek, feminine physique.   Because there are so many varieties, sometimes folks can get […]

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One Black Mother’s Heartbreaking Story of Raising Her Son…

When I read this very personal account from Breukelen Bleu, the founder of the Black Woman Think Tank, I knew I had to share it. So much of the criticism of single mothers raising black sons focuses on blaming the MOTHER for all the negatives. She and she alone is to blame if her son is […]

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History Made: Michelle Howard Become Navy’s First Female Admiral…

Monday was event for celebration as the United States Navy appointed Michelle Howard to the ranks of Admiral making her the first woman in US history to do so. Her also being a woman of color makes this even more of a cause to take note. Along with her new rank and four star shoulder […]

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July is My Birth Month! Countdown to 41!…

Last week I took this picture to memorialize how I look at 40. If you would have told my 20 year-old-self that I’d feel better and look better an nearly 41, I would have lobbied to have you committed. I’m proud of a few things at this point in my life. I’m growing my own […]

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Grow It in a Bag: Patio-To-Plate Encourages Container Gardening…

As I turn off a dusty road in Temecula wine country, I can’t help but be impressed with Catrina’s green house, where she’s growing just about everything you can imagine. She’s growing everything–all non-GMO organic seeds she also sells–in containers, to stay in containers. Catrina is convinced urban dweller can grow their “garden of eating” […]

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Five 100% Natural Beauty Products that Work 100% of the Time…

I’m proud to say that the majority of the things I put into my body is natural and organic, but I can’t say the same thing about what goes on my body. While I try to stay away for synthetic chemicals and potentially harmful preservatives, much of my beauty regimen come from “science magicians.” This […]

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Austin, TX Man Asks, “Am I the Black Woman’s Second…

First, thanks to all the men who have been writing me lately. I’m glad you’re listening and observing. Gap, meet bridge. I got this letter from a reader yesterday and it’s so important I moved it to the front of the queue. An Austin, Texas man is concerned that all the interest he’s receiving from […]