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Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than…

We’ve all heard it before. Black women swearing they won’t date interracially because they’ve bought into the notion that only a black man can understand “the struggle.” Okay; let’s say that is so. Does that trump everything else? I mean, once you’ve raged on how unfair the white supremacist system is, what else have you […]

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Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says…

Since I’ve started blogging, I’ve heard lots of rumblings from young women that guys today are just…different. Dates have become “hangouts at the apartment with a hope of a hook up,” less men willing to wine and dine, and more men avoiding marriage. And at least one author, Janice Shaw Crouse, author of Marriage Matters, […]

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Jim and Allie – Timing Is Everything…

Allie, 46, and Jim, 44, met 23 years ago, when she was a recently-graduated student at the Coast Guard training center where Jim taught. At the time, she was dating his colleague, but she says she had a crush on him from the first day she met him. “It was his confidence, and caring personality,” […]

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Click, Date, Love: Getting the Most Out of Online Dating…

A few weeks ago, we announced my participation in Laurie Davis’ Click Date Love group coaching series. Since then, we’ve had three sessions, and you know what, I’m actually excited to try online dating again. I haven’t purchased a Match.com membership yet because I’ve been crazy busy working my day job, traveling (post coming soon […]

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Corsets and Waist Training…So It’s Really a Thing?…

Ah the corset…once an essential undergarment in the days of old has now seemed to have made a comeback. Women all over Intagram and Tumblr are showing off their sexy corsets and claiming that wearing them for extended amounts of time will create an hourglass shape. The question isn’t whether it works–wearing a corset will […]

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Gluten-Free Squash Blossoms…a MUST Try if You’ll Garden…

Last December, amongst wrapping presents and essentially going broke, I planted a few seeds in anticipation of the upcoming spring. One plant I was really excited about was my Ronde De Nice, a light green, globular zucchini that works amazing in my paleo zucchini bread. And here it is, March, and my little seed has […]

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Totally Awkward Conversation with Jay Smooth Challenges Who Has the…

OMG…if you haven’t yet seen this conversation between Jay Smooth, host of “Underground Railroad,” a popular radio show in New York City, you need to watch. In the video, MSNBC host Nancy Giles, a black woman, assumes that Jay is “co-opting” blackness, because he’s all, “street,” when he speaks, but appears white. He responds that […]

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What? Starbucks Wants Baristas to Talk About Racism?…

By: ZacofBothSides Some of my best friends are Carmel Macchiatos. This is really happening.  No not Manny Pacquiao versus Floyd Mayweather , I mean, that IS happening, but no, this is better. And no- not Al Sharpton going undercover to capture a top Isis lieutenant .   Avengers opus 2? Could be fun, but you’ll […]

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LaToya: Steps to Take TODAY to Kick Start Your Fitness Journey…

I got a chance to speak with LaToya, the official BB&W ‘Best You’ trainer, to discuss how those of us who have signed up for the ‘bikini body challenge’ on our forum can get a jump on their personal fitness goals. She and I did this informational video, and I’ll share this first one, but […]

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Kesha: “My Husband Was Not the Man of My Dreams”…

By:  Kesha Fisher He was a single man and two daughters made up my world.  We set off on a quixotic journey, bumping into love and marriage along the way.  Then came the house, the children doubled, and a rescue dog sealed the deal.  I had the perfect family as far as I was concerned. […]

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Check Us Out: Alex Barnett and I Have Hilarious Convo About Blended…

  If you haven’t yet heard of comedian, Alex Barnett, I feel sorry for all the laughs you’re missing. Alex, a lawyer by trade and a funny guy by nature, is married to the gorgeously-afroed, Camille, and together they have a son, whom Alex regularly wrings his hands over like a old Jewish mother. In […]

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QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be…

From Alexa: Christelyn, I’ve been following your page for quite some time and I was wondering if you could give me some insight on how to overcome the racial divide that seemingly happens in interracial relationships. My boyfriend is white, and while he understands racism exists, not only does it seem he is not concerned […]

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Bobbi Brown Does Mauve Like a Boss, Plus #ThePaintedLipsProject +…

By now you all know I’m a sucker for a good pink. The weekend, after taking the little princess to see Cinderella… …We went to Sephora, which is basically crack in merchant form for makeup addicts. I asked the make up artist to show me a lipstick that would give me that come-hither, sex-kitten look […]

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How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?…

*Due to the politically correct climate we live in, the author of this piece has opted to remain anonymous. First, if you’ve turned the head of a *true* alpha male, pat yourself on the back. Because an alpha male believes he should have the best of everything, and if he wants you, then you’ve got […]

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Calling All Expats!…

We have so many BW here who have worked, taught or studied abroad. On travel posts, a wealth of information often comes out in the comments section. So, let’s dish on our experiences abroad for readers who may be watching from the sidelines, gaining the courage for a big jump. Hair? Taxes? Belongings? Visas? Cultural […]

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‘Best You’ in a Bikini! BB&W Lands Personal Trainer to…

It’s nearly mid-March and soon the snow will begin to thaw and you’ll want to trade your sweaters and long johns for short shorts and bikinis. The question is…are you ready? Keeping the promise to give you AWESOME interactive content you can’t find anywhere else, the Beyond Black & White forum will host the ‘Bikini […]

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Maybe Next Lifetime (My intercultural dating experience)…

By Shannon Rodgers Many of the ladies here in the BB&W community, have expressed concerns about dating men of certain cultural, and ethnic back grounds; and with good reason. A lot of us feel that men of certain cultures would never take a relationship with a black woman, an American woman, a Christian woman, or […]

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Carrie Rebounds After False Start with the ‘Emotional…

Editor’s Note: This post was created shortly after Carrie’s abrupt ending with you-know-who.  “Ricochet Rebound” By Carrie Thompson YouTube lurkers (who don’t know me from a can of paint) are commenting on how ugly, sad and lonely I am over a guy who called me for two weeks? Seriously. Albeit I did not expect a […]

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Pinks and Blues…Get the Look!…

Colored eyeliner can be daunting, right? You’re not sure if you’re daring enough to divert from basic black, and you’re worried it’s just for high school teenagers. Then, eureka! A color that just screams to be worn, and goes on easy enough that you don’t have to resort to old-school techniques like lighting the point […]

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On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!”…

I’ve written about this before, but recent events make it necessary to revisit the con game men play to illicit pity and activate the nurturing instinct in women when they says they want a [in this case, black] woman, but can’t seem to find one. The red flag goes up when these men are good […]