madness, anger, frustration, emotions, ABW, stereotype,stigma,

Tell Um Why You Mad, Hun….

You know what I don't believe in.......? Being quiet when I'm pissed off or done wrong. There. I said it... I could give a flying pickle how anyone feels when I feel as if an abomination has occurred against my personhood. That 'Angry Black Woman' shit is and is not a cool moniker because I get that … Read More...


Chris Dorner Burned Alive: Is This a Movie or Real Life?

Does that name sound vaguely familiar? Well, if you reside in Southern California, you probably know his name all too well. The 33-year-old SoCal resident allegedly went on a killing spree beginning two weeks ago on Super Bowl Sunday. He is reported to have killed two Irvine residents, one Riverside police man and another officer just yesterday in the Big Bear Lake area. All the while, he evaded capture by setting his own car ablaze and escaping to remote locations on foot. Sound fake? It’s not.

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Ali and Lissette Gonzalez: Color Blind and Valentines

Take a look at this stunning family…


Swirling on Planet Earth Part 7: What is Intimacy?

I am not talking about sex, and those elements in that process of two people experiencing the physical aspects of enjoying each other as man and woman. You know, the stuff Mother Nature has in place to allow organisms to procreate. Could I make that any more dry and sound like a lecture from a Biology teacher that puts everyone to sleep? Good, if you are still reading, now I get to the interesting stuff… I am talking about intimacy, that myriad of little actions that allow you and your Boo to enjoy each other as a couple, as a unit, as ONE with whom you just kind of melt together a bit.


Oaktown Paul Reports Thriving BW/WM Meet Up Group in Oakland!

Swirling made another small step forward this weekend, when our Meet-up group (Sisters With White Misters) met at Rassela’s Jazz club in San Francisco. It was, for so many reasons, a memorable swirling experience and a true demonstration of community being created.


Money Crashers: Six Strategies for Becoming Debt Free

David Bakke dug himself out of over $30k in credit card debt he accumulated during his college years. He is now debt-free and shares his tips on the blog, Money Crashers Finance.


Would You Ever Protect a Racist From Physical Harm?

This woman threw herself to protect a man who hated her simply for the color of her skin. Could you have done it?

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Racial Wealth Gap Is Partially Explained by Blacks Willingness to Help Their Poorer Relatives

Black people are having problems accumulating wealth because their relatives bleed them dry?


(Bonus) Question of the Week: Black Women Blaming Their White Boyfriends for Racism

“It feels like I’m constantly being attacked…”


Day Twelve of 28 Days of Heart Health: New Studies Say Fish Oil Not Effective Protection Against Heart Disease

Well this is disappointing news. Looks like all the promotion about fish oil lending protection against heart disease might have been more gimmick than good science. The Sept. 12 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association published a review of over 20 studies involving over 70,000 patients–some of which were heart patients–that revealed that fish oil gave no real protection for the heart.


What Ever Happened to Character Building?

Elegance gives the basic building blocks.


Black Women Scare You? Get Real!

Is it fair when people, men in particular, express fear of black women?