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Jamila: “He said I was too broke to be in a relationship.”…

Everyone single person hates this question, but we’ve all probably been asked it at one time or another: So, why are you single? I like to respond that I just haven’t met the right guy yet. But I have a sneaking suspicion that the real reason I’m single is because I’m poor–hardworking and ambitious, but poor all the same.

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To the Swirling Familes, a Cautionary Tale to Remind Us to Vet The…

The case of Glenda Moore and the downing death of her two young boys reminds mixed race families have to choose their neighbors and neighborhoods wisely.

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Ready to Join the Convent? Nine Tips to Make Dating Easier.…

Before you throw in the towel and give up dating altogether, take inventory of what’s not working. Take a look at SwirlQueen’s tips…

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Friday Funny: Things Scarier Than Having a Black Wife……

C’mon. I bet you can think of a few.

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A Man’s Right to Choose: The Ongoing Battle over Your Uterus…

Does it seem like women’s reproductive rights have been at the forefront of virtually every senatorial, gubernatorial, or presidential election debate thus far? Well, maybe that’s because as the parties polarize, more extreme views of social issues become the norm. So, what does this mean for the epic Roe v. Wade? Only time will tell…

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Fashion #Trending: Graphic Sweaters and Skirts…

Graphic Sweaters are all the rage this fall. Not just any graphics, but cute graphics like kittens, hens and polkadots. These cute additions to anyone’s wardrobe adds a bit of whimsy to your style. Showing others that you are never too old to be a bit girly and fanciful.

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What Does Hurricane Sandy Mean for the American Voter?…

A massive storm has devastated most of the east coast. Some have speculated that the election may get delayed. But, the true political impacts of Hurricane Sandy are still uncertain.

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Is Your Hair Enjoying the Proper Moisture and Protein Balance?…

Too much moisture? Hair breaks. Too much protein? It’s break then, too. How to know when enough is enough.

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Product Review: Can Tide Win Me Back?…

I wasn’t a fan of Tide for a while, but their new Tide Pods are seducing me back…

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Globalization and the Call to Save Black Boys: Will it Work?…

Brenda breaks down how globalization affects the outcomes of black urban boys.

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Gorgeous Guys Who Aren’t Having Sex (…Say What?)…

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Nine Financial Mistakes Women Make When They Divorce…

Going through a divorce is stressful enough. Get back on your feet by avoiding these financial pitfalls.

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Photo of the Day: My Little Precious, The Curly, Short-Haired Version…

The Babster is such a girl. She’s tortured us all with keeping “Tangled” on a loop, so it was only natural that The Hubster picked this out for Trick-or-Treat…

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Wanna Sexy Halloween Night? Three Products You Might Want to Try!…

Why can’t the grown up have a night of mischief, too?

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You Mean They Have a Name for That?! A Scientific Look at Why…

This blog is accused time and time again of ‘praising the white man, who can do no wrong’ while bashing black men, who are the quote-unquote scum of the Earth. Beyond Black and White is accused of this because any discussion of the dysfunctions within the black community is seen as putting the dirty laundry of black folks out in public. The fact that we also talk about interracial dating here is just the salt in the wounds of some folks caused by the open discussion of the very real abuse that black women and girls have experienced at the hands of black men.

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Sometimes Jesus Wants You To Get Some Therapy, Says Happily Married…

Sometimes we need more than prayer to get us through.

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Why Do We Always Have to Be Reminded that “White People Do It,…

When black people act up and are called on being scumbags by people who are not black, the issue isn’t that the persons in question are scum, but why black scum isn’t treated as well as non-black scum. Yes, let’s completely ignore the whole “scum” thing in the name of racial solidarity.

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Dolce and Gabbana 2013–Racist or Overblown?…

Are critics being so sensitive about this new collection?

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Let’s Hear It from the Boys: Why Flirting and Romantic Overtures…

Are you missing the cues?

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Chef Bob’s Stuffed Peppers with Ground Beef and Rice…

A mixture of ground beef or sausage, seasonings and rice slowly baked in a savory tomato sauce is the epitome of comfort food. Served up with some smooth rich mashed potatoes and warm bread you’ll think you have found the perfect way to spend a cold winters evening! Stuffed Bell Peppers are also excellent on your diet as they are low in calories.