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Have We Completely Lost Our Humanity? Connecticut Elementary School…

Did I just hear Bill Handel say “elementary school,” like, with young kids, like…babies? Killed?

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“Authentic Blackness” and More GAT-DL Co-opting….…

Redskins quarterback Robert Griffin III has said that he basically wants to be known as a quarterback and not be defined as an African American quarterback first and foremost. I took it to mean he wanted to be known for his individual achievements and not have “BLACK” slapped in front of everything he did. He wants to, I assume, be judged by who he was first rather than as a representative of an entire ethnic group.

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Who Says “Black” is “Black?” Kola Boof Has…

My friend Kola Boof never pulls any punches. Sometimes I just hangout out on her Facebook page with my popcorn and watch the show. One of her posts last week garnered 1,000+ comments because Kola has some seemingly controversial opinions about mixed race people identifying themselves as “black.” She posed an idea that I’d never thought about before. She expresses disgust that black people will let anyone with a few drops of black blood identify as black, with gusto. She specifically calls out Soledad O’Brien, who identifies as black, but doesn’t much look it.

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Barbecue Eye Round on Mashed Turnips and Potatoes with Roasted…

Turnips and Brussels sprouts are in season. Take advantage!

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UPDATED VIDEO DEMO: Real Talk: How Much Would You Pay for Healthy…

When I first started to give doing my hair a go, I thought I’d save a ton of money not going to the salon and being held hostage all day to an overbooked stylist. I’m glad to say I’m free of the overbooked, gum-popping, self-entitled stylist, but…I’m still spending a ton.

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New Dissolving Female Condom Said to Prevent Pregnancy, STI’s,…

Ever since BB&W regular, Law Wanxi, wrote to me with an uncomfortable truth, that women are pretty much on their own when it comes to birth control, the more I believe he might be right. That’s why I got excited when the geniuses at the University of Washington have created a dissolving female condom that not only protects women from unwanted pregnancy, but is said to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections and HIV/AIDS.

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Black, White, Other, DBR IS DBR IS DBR (Damaged Beyond Repair)…

Black women who advocate for other black women to expand their dating pools to include all races are often accused of bashing black men; as some are quick to apply the DBR (damaged beyond repair) label to them. No one claims that all black men are dbrs. That would be unfair as there are some great black men out there.
On the other hand, if the shoe fits……

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Meteorologist fired after responding to viewer who didn’t like…

This woman was FIRED because some hillbilly suggested she put on a wig.

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EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part 6: “Different worlds, and…

One evening Bee and I were returning from a dinner out. I was walking her to her front door when we heard “Bang… bang….. Bang-bang-bang!” The gunshots came from a couple of blocks away. As my eyes grew wide, Bee calmly said “I guess I had better get in the house.” Suddenly, more shots rang out. “Bang… Bang…. Bang…. Bang!” By that time my eyes were as big as saucers. Again speaking very calmly, Bee said, “You should probably get out of here.” I swear I turned and SPRINTED for my car in the driveway. It seems like I may have dove through the window too but maybe not since it was rolled up.

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Commentary on the Crooked Room: Mammy, Oh Mammy, Wherefore Art Thou…

In the “crooked room,” we’ve met the Jezebel. Now, let’s meet her polar opposite: the Mammy.

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‘SwirlGirl’ Needs Our Help! Participants Urgently Needed…

Recent stories indicate that BW are experiencing gains in employment and benefiting positively from an apparent shift in workplace dynamics. Yet, despite this good news, some professions hold the reputation of perpetually presenting inequities in women’s advancement and earnings. Higher education is one such profession.

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Good Step: Michaela Angela Davis Wants Atlanta Women to “Bury…

We sit around flapping our gums about how black women are portrayed in the media, and that we need to build coalitions to promote positive images of black women. Got to support a woman who’s rallying the ground troops to make it happen.

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I Love Men….But The Question Is……Do You?!…

Do you love men?
And if not….why?

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Week Two of the “Swirling” Book Giveaway! Tell Us Why Your…

If your Christmas is doomed to suck this year, let us give you something for the trouble.

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Jamila: “Why I *heart* Sallie Krawcheck and Marissa Mayer”…

When it comes to women, people equate sacrifice with love. Why are we still fighting the antiquated notion that a woman who has little-to-no desire to be a stay-at-home mom must not love her kids?

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Another White Guy Spills It: A Tale of a Blind Date Gone…Good.…

This is a true story about a white guy who never dated interracially, had a somewhat myopic view on race relations, and never dreamed in a million years he would have a black wife.

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Men Love Sports. How To Speak Their Language Without Sounding Like a…

A basic knowledge of some top teams and players can help break the ice with that cute guy you’ve been eyeing across the sports bar!

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Ever Wonder What White Guys Say About Black Women When We’re Not…

I got this note today from Kevin Pyne, a Facebook friend of mine who’s a white guy and mostly dates black women. I think you’ll find this very interesting. More and more non-black men are becoming intrigued with the prospect of dating black women, a group that they once thought was completely off-limits to them. Hear it from the horse’s mouth.

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Heat-Free Bantu Knot Updo…

Here’s a style that you can wear for a holiday gathering that chic and mature, and best of all, no heat needed.

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Question of the Week: English White Guy Asks Me How to Meet Black…

I received this note from “J,” a young man living in England who is interested in black women, but it unsure how to approach them. After you read this, you have to wonder how critics of “Swirling” say the book is “unnecessary. If these people read this note and STILL cling to that ridiculous criticism, then they’re as dumb as a box of rocks, nuts, and bolts.