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QOTW: “How Do I Stop Believing I’m Und...

Hello! So, a brief description of myself. I am a young black woman, 21, in college and due to graduate soon. I have always known that I was more attra...
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black women, fashion, skin care, ageing, beauty, assets, value, opinion, self esteem, mixed marriage, dating, Iman, Voila Davis, Tina Turner, black don't crack, don't look your age,

Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Agel...

As I sit in a bar in the resort in Cancun with The Hubster, I glance around the scene. Non-black women young and old are gathering around. We just fin...
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beauty, acceptance, race, complexion, unique, self esteem, culture, society, dating, attraction, Youtube, video, advice,

Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Asse...

by Christelyn Karazin Ladies, it’s time you stop looking at your shade as a liability. Every group of women has their own unique “brand of...
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Essence, Black magazine, media, culture, class, race, stereotypes, Black Kang, dating options, self esteem, economics, messages, communication, marriage, value, bias, diversity in dating, misogynistic, racist, Idris Elba, skin magazine, Black interest magazines, sales, light skinned black women, Messence, Black Men Magazine,

The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: Wh...

As a former public relations executive, I can tell you without any doubt that the media sends us messages–messages that we expect, messages that...
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self esteem, advice, society, fitting in, culture, individualism, opinions, power dynamics,

Let Um Know…. I’m Not Here for THAT!!

Time for a public service announcement from the good people that occupy the head space of Tracy Renee Jones. Read for clarity and content if you never...
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RIP Maya Angelou: A Phenomenal Woman Has Left the ...

Famed poet, activist, and author Maya Angelou has died at the age of 86. We send her family, friends and the literary community our heartfelt condolen...
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self esteem, black women, not good enough, advice, dating, dysfunction, abuse, domestic violence, interracial relationships, mixed couples, black women dating, codependent, emotional health, mental health,

Message to the Men: Sometimes Nothing You Do Will ...

Oy vey….. What comes part and parcel of being a friend of mankind is being privy to information that other women aren’t. In addition to th...
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awkward, being different, confidence, unique, advice, self esteem, black women, shyness, taking chances, emotional health, swirling, swirlr, interracial dating, blended families, biracial, tracy renee jones,

Are You An Awkward Black Girl? Here’s Why It...

I’ve been in a lot of discussions with the Bae lately. And it’s nice to have someone around who won’t allow me to get into my ‘...
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Karyn Washington, beauty, solidarity, social media, black women, suicide, self esteem, depression, support, red lips, bodies of black women, politics, pop culture, beauty standards, hip hop, #DarkSkinRedLipProject, #NoBareLips30, Keiko Kaveri,

Dark Girls Can’t Wear Red Lipstick, Huh? #No...

Of course we all know about the recent passing of Karyn Washington, and her work to encourage black women to love their shade and her #DarkSkinRedLipP...
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I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swir...

I had the opportunity of a lifetime today to speak my piece to Tyler Perry and get the peanut gallery to admit that colorism plays a MAJOR role in the...
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Nicki Minaj, Gabrielle Union, beauty ideals, self esteem, economics, aspirations, blogs, madamenoire, media, news, long hair, Toni Morrison, The Bluest Eyes, hatred, standards, articles, priorities, empowerment, Instagram, huffington post, black women,

Chile Bye: Black Women Are More Than the Length of...

I’m trying to get my life together and work on things more compelling in this second month of the new year and, dammit, if Facebook doesn’...
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Rocquelle Porch, red lipstick, insults, black woman, essence, blogger, dark skin, complexion, hatred, self esteem, comments, degradation, dreads, natural hair, hatred,

Does This Woman Offend You?

I’m making my rounds this morning to read all the news, rags and gossip and was struck by this woman.   Before I read the story, I took in ...
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race, discussion, black culture, ratchet, perception, information, dialogue, conversation, explanation, White, Black, biracial, question of the week, swirling, mixed marriage, learning, ignorance, cu

QOTW: White Man Asks, “What Is Black Culture...

I can hear some of you rolling your eyes. Okay, I might answer this question myself pretty well, but most non-Black people, and apparently the “...
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Message to the Lurkers: Not All of Us Are Preachin...

I know there are Hella people that come through here to read, and I understand like anywhere else, its hard to step out of your safe corner and make f...
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