Christelyn’s new book is on the threshold of release as I’m typing this. And with that news comes the necessary promotion and word spreading you expect while trying to get a product out there to consumers. There was a link to one such feature that had the predictable bit of grumbling and talking points. You know, the lie-filled scare tactics that never fail to come up when black women even think about expanding their dating options.
In any case, one particular sentiment stood out to me…
Proof that black media shuns and shies away from “too many” interracial relationship topics.
It’s become cool to feign disinterest in getting married. I can’t count how many interviews I’ve read in magazines where some Hollywood starlet claims that she doesn’t know whether or not she’ll ever get married–to her, being in love is all that matters and the whole marriage-thing isn’t on her radar at the moment.
“Stop having people tell you which group or race thinks you’re not beautiful. Who are they to determine that? And why do we allow that discussion to happen?”
Here’s the thing, I completely understand that not all black women will find non-black men attractive. Thus my suggestion to a black women to open herself up to dating non-black men will sometimes fall on deaf ears. Heck, I don’t like short men, and any suggestion that I get to date a cute guy who happens to be the same height as Danny DeVito will be ignored. But whether the issue is that you don’t think you’ll like the look of a pale-colored penis or that height-challenged males turn you off, the LEAST you can do for other women is to not shout that crap from the highest rooftop–in other words, could you stop f&*king up it for those who do like pale-colored men and the vertically challenged? I’m just saying…*insert Kanye West shrug here*
“Welcome to my quest for love! In last week’s introduction I explained how three books, Love in 90 Days by Diana Kirschner, PhD., If I’m So Wonderful Why Am I Still Single? by Susan Page and Find a Husband after 35 by Rachel Greenwald, M.B.A., inspired me to jumpstart my search for true love.”
I find it interesting that black women only comment on non black men ‘wanting sex.’ Most black women seem to have zero problems with sleeping with black men who only want sex. Do you really think that most black men view black women, in a non sexual way?
Like black women, Asian men have low intermarriage rates. But here’s one HUGE difference: They’re STILL getting married.
The BWE blogs talk a lot about vetting, so we know it means more than working a gig giving pets shots and enemas. But the question is, how do we vet? What questions should you be asking to get to the answers you want, and how do you do it without sounding like a crazy chick? Read on…
Follow this BB&W Crew member as she goes on an earnest and deliberate quest to find love. Get your popcorn ready!
**Attention all–I got this question today, and because of the sensitive nature of the post, I brought in a licensed therapist, Tina Tessina, PhD, to chime in. As always, feel free to pass along your sage advice. Let’s take good care of this girl.**
Copyright 2011 : All Rights Reserved. The text, images and tutorials themselves are copyright their respective owners.
Copyright © 2011 Beyond Black & White
Designed by: Lindsey Breeden
