Dating & Marrying Ethnic Men

Jason and Colette: Player One and Player Two

Colette took me up on my offer to e-mail me about her love story. She and Jason met in the most amazing way. I hope you love hearing about their seven-year marriage. Congratulations on the amazing journey!

 

What are your names?

J and C: We are Jason and Colette

 

How did you meet?

C: We met on a video game called Final Fantasy XI Online.

 

How did you get to connecting and getting to know each other? Were you in the same gaming group, chat room or something?

We were in the same Linkshell and played together. The more we played the more we got to know each other. One day, he asked me if I stopped dating someone, which I never dated anyone on a game period, which peeked my curiosity in him. Then we continued to talk more and more. We moved conversations to the phone and that was that. We spoke everyday. We were close to best friends before we met in person.

 

What are your cultural/ethnic backgrounds?

C: I am Black. My background is Jamaican.

J: I am White.

 

Did either of you find the dating process challenging?

C:  I did not find dating Jason challenging at all. He came at a point when I had probably sworn off men.

J: No, I found that we fit, so dating was a nice time out.

 

Given the current political climate, was dating interracially challenging? Did you find that your political leanings were a barrier at all?

C: I do not like politics in general. We normally do not discuss much of it.

J: Not an issue.

 

For the lady, did you ever find that you had a dry spell in the dating process? If so, how did you get yourself out there again?

C:  I did not really like to date. I found the time to be wasteful, but Jason was different.

 

For the lady, do you feel that your skin tone made it challenging to date as a whole? If so, how did you overcome that?

C: Skin tone was never my issue. It never really stopped me from what I set out to do.

 

Where are you now in your relationship?

C:  We have been married for over seven years now.

 

When did you know it was going somewhere?

C: When he made me cry going through TSA checkpoint. We parted ways and it felt weird parting. Felt I was leaving a part of myself. I didn’t want to separate from him.

J: After the first week we spent together.

 

Do you live abroad (outside of the US)? If you live in the US, which region or state do you live in?

C: I live in New York. I have never lived abroad.

J: I have never lived abroad either. When we first met, I lived in New Mexico, but now I live in New York too.

 

Do you feel that your location is really welcoming of interracial couples?

C: We live in a predominantly Black neighbourhood. We never really had any issues.

 

What is your ideal date?

C: We love going to the movies and checking out new and interesting restaurants.

 

What is the best thing that you like about each other?

C: I love that Jason spoils me when I do not think I should be spoiled. He takes very good care of me and my family. He is diligent and a hard worker. Besides that, he is the most genuine person I have ever met.

J: Colette is very affectionate and makes doing things a good time together.

 

What is the best part about being together?

C: The cuddles.

 

What is your favourite shared memory?

C: We have so many good memories together that it is hard to pick out just one. But our most precious are our trips (traveling) together. We get to relax and spend time together, with no interruptions.

 

What challenges have you faced? 

C: We personally do not have any challenges. We are now challenged with caring for my father.

 

How do you deal with difficult times?

C: We really have not had any, so I think if we did, we would communicate issues that arises.

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How have you adjusted to life together?

C: That was the easiest surprise I had: we fit together really well.

 

What kind of boundaries protect your relationship?

C: I do not discuss my relationship with anyone.

J: The same. I do not really talk about my relationship outside of the home.

 

How has your family reacted?

C: They LOVE him from the start.

J: All the parents get along very well.

 

How have your friends reacted?

C: My friends love him too. He blended seamlessly.

J: Everyone I know is supportive.

 

How are things now with friends and family? Are they supportive or are there any outstanding issues?

C: All are supportive.

 

Is this a new dynamic for you?

C: No, it is the same as any other relationship dynamic

 

What are some of the expectations you had before your relationship?

C: I didn’t have any, really.

J: Nothing. I didn’t come in with any certain expectations.

 

What are some of the things you do to keep your relationship growing?

C and J: We always spend time together.

Do you have a blog or YouTube channel?

C:  I have a blog and an Instagram handle.

J: I don’t have anything.

 

If so, do you share about your family? If so, you feel that your channel provide representation for you and couples like you?

C: My blog & Instagram is a mash of different things that I am interested in.

If not, what do you share on your channel?

C: I share little of family on it. But it’s more mishmash of interests.

 

What advice would you give to others?

C: Don’t let people comment or add unwanted advice into your relationship.

 

Is there anything else you would like to share?

C: I have nothing else.

 

Thank you so much for reading this interview! That is the end of this couple’s feature. If any of you are interested in participating in this series, please leave a comment below or connect with me or Christelyn Karazin. You can e-mail me for an interview at [email protected].

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