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Three Ways to an Irresistible Online Dating Profile
Online dating may not be the only way to meet a mate, but it certainly has become an essential part of the matrix. And since men are visual, women looking to catch the attention of the fellas need to make sure their profiles are perfect–the absolute perfect reflection of you. The goal is to get the guy to hover over your picture and profile long enough to allow the opportunity for him to get to know you on the inside. You know you’ve doing something right when you get a message from a tall and handsome man who writes, “I can’t stop looking at your picture.”
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Recognizing the Necessity and Importance of Dark-Skinned Feminine Beauty Part II
I was not prepared for the response to the first part of this post. I was not prepared to think of myself according to my skin shade rather than as simply a human being. I was not prepared for guilt for having written the article despite not being dark-skinned myself. But most of all, I was not prepared for the push back from non-dark skinned women.
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A Father Speaks Out His Responsibility to Make His Daughters Feel Beautiful.
Parents, fathers of daughters in particular, YOU should be front and center in telling each of your daughters how beautiful, smart, precious, important she is to YOU! She should be able to sit on your lap safely, and hear those things that matter so much, first from YOU.
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Like Bees to Honey: Be Charming…It’s Totally Easy and Well Worth it!!
Have you ever been in the company of a person that made you feel instantly at ease? The way you interact with them is almost like you are familiar with each other, even if you’ve never met, yet you leave the interaction with a feeling of genuine happiness and an upbeat attitude. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but its a pleasantness that certain people give off about themselves.
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Would you date a man who lived in ‘Hotel Mama’?
I was chatting it up with one my gorgeous guy friend when he revealed an interesting tidbit about himself: he had lived with his parents until he was 29 years, only for the last 2 years had he been in his own apartment.
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The Ultimate Touché: Blogger Lists Reasons To Date White Men in Response to Ice’s Ode to White Girls!
It’s rare that I come upon a post that is just so delicious and well-suited for this blog that my fingers literally itch to cut and paste. This is one of those times. Thanks to BB&W Crew members, Kia and Brenda55, you are about to feast your eyes on the ultimate touché–a list of reasons why black women should date white men.
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Black Women Who are Acceptable in Film and TV
Why are movie producers okay with pairing Naomie and Zoe again and again with White men (and an Asian in Ninja Assassin) in blockbuster mainstream films? It makes you wonder why these producers are willing to face the protests of racists by employing Black women in these roles. Do they think that the actresses are attractive enough that audiences won’t mind?
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Question of the Week: Self-Proclaimed “Redneck” in Love with Caribbean Queen, Scared Senseless.
“I’m scared myself. My girlfriend is scared for me as well, as she’s dated outside of her race before and has been tempered to the stares that an interracial relationship tends to garner, along with the insults, etc.”
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For the Fellas Hot for Dating Black Girls, Take This Expert’s Advice and “Grow Some Gonads!”
Not sure if you ladies are aware of the INCREDIBLE amount of non-black men lurking on this blog. Why are they here? Research and intelligence gathering, of course. Some have already dating black women in the past, some are currently dating or even married to black women, and other are here straggling along the fence. This post is for the straggling dudes. As many of you know, Jordan is my dear friend–and he knows his stuff. –Chris
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Leona’s Love Quest Part XX- The Cost of Being Single in America
In such a marriage and family-oriented society, I don’t see any kind of accommodations for singles happening anytime soon and black women are still marrying at the lowest rate among all groups (with the legal right) in America. Do you think it’s true that marrieds have it better than singles or is this just another case of the grass looking greener on the other side?
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Damaged vs. Damaged Beyond Repair vs. Work-in-Progress: What’s the Difference?
Question: What are some other ways to differentiate between someone who is “damaged beyond repair” and a “work in progress”?
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Serious Question: Why Can White Women Get Married Five Minutes After a Divorce?
They marry, divorce, and get remarried faster than a jackrabbit getting a quicky behind the bushes. Why?
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Question of the Week: Twenty-Something Law Student Parched in a Swirl Desert
She is law school, and is seeing many of her white schoolmates dating, mating and beyond. But there’s only slim pickings for her.
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Monogamy Isn’t A Condom: What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You!
It isn’t enough to pretend that your being with one guy is enough to save your life and your womb. Because it’s not. Get tested often, and always use protection. Monogamy isn’t a condom.
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New Study Suggests Pretty Women Have Less Casual Sex Than Less Attractive Women. Why?
Welp, here’s some new study that seems to inherently make a whole lot of sense. Just like the study that says people who eat real vegetables are healthier than people who eat McDonald fries for theirs, or people who live next to freeways have less healthy lungs than people who live in the Connecticut countryside. Sociologist Elizabeth McClintock of the University of Norte Dame released a study basically suggesting that more attractive women have less casual sex than “unattractive” women, because the less-pretty will often negotiate sex as a compromise. Her study included both men and women, but for this post I’m going to just concentrate on the women. Here’s the highlights:
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What Black Men Say When Black Women Aren’t Around
What do men talk about when women aren’t around? Is the conversation different based on the races, ages and culture of the men? Tracy has the inside scoop…
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