How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
She’s between a rock and a hard place…
Online dating may not be the only way to meet a mate, but it certainly has become an essential part of the matrix. And since men are visual, women looking to catch the attention of the fellas need to make sure their profiles are perfect–the absolute perfect reflection of you. The goal is to get the guy to hover over your picture and profile long enough to allow the opportunity for him to get to know you on the inside. You know you’ve doing something right when you get a message from a tall and handsome man who writes, “I can’t stop looking at your picture.”
I was not prepared for the response to the first part of this post. I was not prepared to think of myself according to my skin shade rather than as simply a human being. I was not prepared for guilt for having written the article despite not being dark-skinned myself. But most of all, I was not prepared for the push back from non-dark skinned women.
Parents, fathers of daughters in particular, YOU should be front and center in telling each of your daughters how beautiful, smart, precious, important she is to YOU! She should be able to sit on your lap safely, and hear those things that matter so much, first from YOU.
Got this note, and it really struck a nerve with me…
It’s rare that I come upon a post that is just so delicious and well-suited for this blog that my fingers literally itch to cut and paste. This is one of those times. Thanks to BB&W Crew members, Kia and Brenda55, you are about to feast your eyes on the ultimate touché–a list of reasons why black women should date white men.
Why are movie producers okay with pairing Naomie and Zoe again and again with White men (and an Asian in Ninja Assassin) in blockbuster mainstream films? It makes you wonder why these producers are willing to face the protests of racists by employing Black women in these roles. Do they think that the actresses are attractive enough that audiences won’t mind?
“I’m scared myself. My girlfriend is scared for me as well, as she’s dated outside of her race before and has been tempered to the stares that an interracial relationship tends to garner, along with the insults, etc.”
Not sure if you ladies are aware of the INCREDIBLE amount of non-black men lurking on this blog. Why are they here? Research and intelligence gathering, of course. Some have already dating black women in the past, some are currently dating or even married to black women, and other are here straggling along the fence. This post is for the straggling dudes. As many of you know, Jordan is my dear friend–and he knows his stuff. –Chris
In such a marriage and family-oriented society, I don’t see any kind of accommodations for singles happening anytime soon and black women are still marrying at the lowest rate among all groups (with the legal right) in America. Do you think it’s true that marrieds have it better than singles or is this just another case of the grass looking greener on the other side?
Question: What are some other ways to differentiate between someone who is “damaged beyond repair” and a “work in progress”?
Blasian love in the 19th Century…
They marry, divorce, and get remarried faster than a jackrabbit getting a quicky behind the bushes. Why?
She is law school, and is seeing many of her white schoolmates dating, mating and beyond. But there’s only slim pickings for her.
It isn’t enough to pretend that your being with one guy is enough to save your life and your womb. Because it’s not. Get tested often, and always use protection. Monogamy isn’t a condom.
Welp, here’s some new study that seems to inherently make a whole lot of sense. Just like the study that says people who eat real vegetables are healthier than people who eat McDonald fries for theirs, or people who live next to freeways have less healthy lungs than people who live in the Connecticut countryside. Sociologist Elizabeth McClintock of the University of Norte Dame released a study basically suggesting that more attractive women have less casual sex than “unattractive” women, because the less-pretty will often negotiate sex as a compromise. Her study included both men and women, but for this post I’m going to just concentrate on the women. Here’s the highlights:
Take a look at this stunning family…