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Have You Noticed? Changes in the Out-of-Wedlock Conversation in the Black Blogosphere
First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.
–Mahatma Gandhi
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New Music: Arrested Development Drops New Album–FREE DOWNLOAD!
I know you remember this grammy winning group back in the 90′s. And then you heard that they gave their support for the No Wedding No Womb movement by producing a kick-arse song, “I’ma Fight Back Right Now.”
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It’s Time to Talk About the Fathers of the Children Born Out-of-Wedlock
I’ve come to the conclusion that perhaps the only way to help lower income women is to help lower income men. You see, it seems that no matter what, women will have children with whomever is available for them to have children with. And if the only men in neighborhood are the type of men who dream of becoming rappers and/or already have a baby mamma or two ’round the way, then those are the men that those women will procreate with.
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A Comprehensive Newcomer’s Guide to BB&W, BWE, Etc. Words and Phrases
This post was created to shed some light on the different words and phrases that you see used around here with a great deal of frequency by regulars. If you are new to this blog or various BW-centric/BWE spaces, you’ve probably wondered at least once, “What the heck does GAT-DL mean?!” Well, wonder no more! [...]
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Why do Low-Income Couples Marry Less and Divorce More?
This news release came in my inbox this morning, and I though it was significant enough to share it here in it’s entirety. What I find ironic is decades ago, it was high-income people who led the trends for marrying less and divorcing more. Poor people were aghast by them…remember? Then for a variety of reasons, it seems that the trend trickled down, but then more educated folks realized that single parenting and divorce ain’t the business, but poor people don’t seem to have gotten the memo.
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Jamila: Black People Do Have a Different Cultural Outlook on Marriage, And It’s Time Black Folks Accept the Consequences of that Outlook
“Yeah, it takes a “village” unfortunately there won’t be a village in about three generations, why? because three generations of Black children won’t know how to build a freaking Village. We have a Village because somebody fought to create maintain and preserve it. They were so good at constructing the village that despite our best efforts to burn it to the ground, the Village has some ever dwindling huts intact. They really knew how to build things back in the day. They built their village with STONE. We’re building our modern village with particle board.”
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She’s Moving On: Race Woman No More
“As long as Black women continue to accept their subordinate status in the Black community, Black people will continue their descent into the gutter. Any community that is too foolish to listen to the voices of the women is doomed for failure. I learned the hard way that being a Race Woman has a high price and I cannot afford to do so any longer. No longer will I defend the actions of men who do not give a rat’s ass about women who look like me or my daughters.”
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Time To Have A Conversation About The Connection Between Sex, Children and Responsibility
Marriage–of the legally and spiritually binding type–is the safest way to raise children here in America. I think it’s about time for Americans to ask themselves what do we need to do to make our marriages more like the kinds of marriages that Europeans are experiencing–even if the ‘marriage’ that Europeans are partaking of is not one that involves standing before a judge and pledging ’till death do us part’. Clearly, Europeans–and German’s in particular–know something we don’t know or have yet to acknowledge.
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Vanessa Bryant, Wife of Kobe Bryant, Has a Lesson for Black America
So how did Vanessa Bryant, the former Vanessa Laine, get it this good? There’s one main reason Vanessa is in this situation. And here it is: Vanessa Laine had parents that were not going to allow a man to mess over their daughter!
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LAwD, BEgeeZUS! Halle Berry Waves Buh Bye to U.S., Wants Nahla to Forget Her Daddy
People think I have it against Halle Berry because I say she’s CRAY CRAY (ooops, I wasn’t supposed to call her that anymore–sowwee!). But I don’t have anything against her personally–she’s a beautiful and accomplished woman. My beef with her is how she’s handling the custody issue with ex and baby-daddy, Gabriel Aubrey.
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AT LAST! An Online Dating Site All About Putting a Ring On It!
Just when some of you were ready to pack up your marbles and leave the whole online thing, or at least use your net time playing online games like Farmville and Cheeky Bingo, there just might be a hopeful new option for some of you.
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Do You Support Marriage for All?
I associate the word marriage with religion and since I also support a separation of church and state, I see nothing wrong with allowing religious institutions to retain final authority over the word marriage while the state only officially recognizes civil unions. But…
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Gay Men: The Black Community’s Favorite Whipping Boys.
Our communities are plagued with rampant unemployment, drug and alcohol abuse, crime, and poverty but these issues are ignored because it is so much easier for all concerned to beat up on gay people.
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Ghetto Nation: What Went Wrong in the Inner City Black Community?
Take a stroll in any inner-city neighborhood: On any given afternoon, you will see groups of able-bodied young men lounging carelessly on street corners, smoking marijuana boldly on street corners bragging about their bitches, whores and baby mammas. Although these young men show clear shiftless tendencies, throngs of ride or die chicks, sometimes with several children in tow surround them, taking loudly while dressed in pajama bottoms and dingy white wife-beaters complete with the proverbial head scarf.
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