Diagnosis: Swirl Apologist Syndrome

Written by Nicole For all the talk we have about black women dating interracially, black women who date and marry out represent a small fraction of th... READ MORE

Would you date a man with 22 kids?

Written by Nicole   Since things are still quite serious around these parts, here is a fun little article to bring some levity to the otherwise t... READ MORE

Just How Divested are You?

Trigger warning: If you are a fan of Kobe Bryant, Terry Crews, Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein, Nelly, or defending black men in general, maybe sit this ... READ MORE

Tips for Surviving Hobosexual Season

Written by Nicole J. Originally published September 2019 – republished because this phenomena is bound to make a reappearance when those stimulu... READ MORE

PSA: You are free to be childfree!

Written by Nicole J. Originally published August 2019 In the last few weeks, I wrote about 5 stories about black parenting that went viral recently. T... READ MORE

What Does Vetting Mean, Anyway?

Written by Nicole J. Landlords vet potential tenants, employers vet potential employees. In a market where you are the prize to be won (despite what m... READ MORE

Cosmic Connections: The Census, The Coronavirus &#...

If in the last two weeks, you’ve scoured your local grocery store for pantry staples, worn a mask out, or had to meditate your way out of another tr... READ MORE

Worried About Your Job? Better Get Real About Rela...

Things are crazy, right? And in times like these, when jobs come into question and the Dow is schizophrenic, the claws in the corporate world come out... READ MORE

Dan Gasby might as well have killed B Smith #RIP

This is another super long post. I am sorry, but I could not keep my thoughts to 1000 words. As per usual, read the whole thing before you come for my... READ MORE

Not Dating Bisexual Men Does Not Make Black Women ...

Disclaimer: This post is a long one. If you are going to start frothing at the mouth because you read the title and a few paragraphs, please save your... READ MORE

Black Women: The Article on Love You Need

Here is the thing, forget media sensationalization and the hype. You are in the game when it comes to love. There is a lot of data out there about lov... READ MORE

Make marrying a traditional belief again! -pt.2

Written by Nicole J. And here I am again, with part two of this post. You can read part one here.   To recap, Kayla Nicole, an 18-year-old intern... READ MORE

Make marrying a traditional belief again! pt.1

Written by Nicole J. Well folks, I’m back, but only for a little while. I have been experiencing some major burnout around the typical topics I writ... READ MORE

What is a Single Person to Do on Valentine’s Day...

Trigger warning: Some people really dislike seeing people who are not black and female featured on the blog. I do hear you and understand your feeling... READ MORE