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BB&W Online Dating Challenge: Deconstruct My Profile Text!
I am active on four online dating sites: POF.com, Match.com, AfroRomance.com, and SeniorsMeet.com. In this post, we are going to critique the main text part(s) of my online dating profiles with the aim of improving them and/or helping others create their own.
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Abiola Abrams and Mollena Williams Address Now-Infamous Letter That Called Interracial Relationships Into Question
A boatload of you asked me to address the letter published in Essence.com from a black woman who alleged that her white husband called her racial slurs during sex. Many of you thought the letter was a complete fake, manufactured with every known cliche thrown at black women in order to preclude them from dating out.
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Love Class! Dating Out of the Box: Interracial, Interfaith & Online with Abiola Abrams!
BB&W special guest, Abrams discusses Interracial Relationships, Interfaith Love and Online Dating with Author Damona Hoffman, a columnist for JDate and the Huffington Post has a new book called “Spin Your Web.”
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EarthJeff: Not in Kansas anymore – On the road with 18 teenagers… Part 1
Are we all ever out of our element…. Geez. I thought I would share with you the wonderful experience with being out on the road with 18 teenagers and one other adult. Now, picture this group. 18 kids from Detroit (most of whom have never had a chance to get out of the city and go anywhere), 15 girls and 3 young men. Most of them 18 or older, only a couple are 17. One tall (she is over 6 feet), athletic (she played major college basketball), drop-dead gorgeous black woman. And me…. Creaky old gimpy-kneed white guy. Oh, for ease I will refer to my fellow chaperone as Ms. Jones.
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Weekend [Cocktail] Read: Interracial Erotica in the Evening…
R.K. Bryant reached out to BB&W because she is an unsure, up and coming author of erotica who observed our penchant for essays on the weekend. Here’s Part One of a story she’s working on. Feel free to give her input.
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Sometimes the Words Don’t Fit in My Mouth………Makes Me Wanna Holla
Sometimes the words don’t fit in my mouth, and so I throw them at people instead. But I’ve recently had to ask myself, ‘Why fucking bother….?”
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Morning Coffee Read: From the Mouths of Babes Comes Understanding and Wisdom
Author’s note: I wrote this essay when my daughter Wallis was in the second grade. She is now a junior in high school, but her views have not changed on this issue…she still warns me not to get angry and scapegoat others or myself for mistakes and blunders that happen. She has learned and absorbed these important epiphanies, and I share them with readers of this web page.
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A Different “Defense of Marriage”
It’s been suggested that we release “marriage” from government, give it entirely & symbolically over to religious institutions, and use civil unions under law for all couples gay and straight. I would love to live in that world. Perfectly logical. Hell to implement.”Marriage” is an understood concept universally, even by it’s strongest critics. With thousands of years of history predating all the major religions and implemented planet-wide (with varying standards), what it means doesn’t have to be explained, and expectations in law and society are quite stable. Full faith and credit amongst the states, and almost perfect cross-border recognition between countries.
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Look What’s Coming–Matthew Hussey’s “Get The Guy” Book!
I’m recommending BB&W use their clout to support someone who’s been one of our biggest cheerleaders, which shouldn’t be hard, because he gives some of the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. And now you can get much of that advice compressed in Matthew’s upcoming book, GET THE GUY, to be released April 9; book review upcoming.
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Come Hither: Moving On After a Loss (A Very Final Conclusion)
I’m not crazy and it wasn’t a hopeful presumption on my part or a case of mistaken identity.
Puffy was running back up the block towards me; he grabbed me in a hug and twirled me in the air when we reached each other…
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Triple Consciousness and the Black Woman
It is a strange lot to be a black woman in American society. She was brought to this country to be an unpaid worker, a concubine and a broodmare. Her body and her sexuality has been reviled and experimented on but from the various brilliant shades of brown black people come in, is curiously loved.
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Why has feminism become a dirty word?
The post is intended as tongue in cheek; no real offense meant, I just want to genuinely understand why the term startles some women and some men.
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Come Hither: Dirty Old Man or Experienced Lover? Let’s Talk About it!!
I’m often the predator, but a young girl couldn’t walk around being plump and juicy without coming to learn about the dreaded neighborhood phenomena known as the DIRTY OLD MAN.
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What Black Men Say When Black Women Aren’t Around
What do men talk about when women aren’t around? Is the conversation different based on the races, ages and culture of the men? Tracy has the inside scoop…
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