QOTW: “Should a Woman Ever Play Down Her Acc...

I got this question from a pretty successful friend of mine, and it took me a while to answer because I wanted to make sure I wasn't coming from a pla... READ MORE

Digital Daters, Keep Away from “I’m A ...

Some women use their Christianity as a shield of protection from lecherous men, but...... READ MORE

QOTW: “I Can’t Stand My Black Girlfrie...

Guy loves girl, but hates her "hood" name. Take a look at what I say.... READ MORE

QOTW: Dealing with Racist Friends and Family Membe...

Got this note from a young girl the same week as they guy who wrote in with the skinhead brother. Time to address how to properly deal with bigots.... READ MORE

QOTW Audience Feedback Edition: “How Can I C...

I got this letter a couple days ago but just got around to reading it. Take a look, dearies--this one is all you. I'm super busy with admin stuff toda... READ MORE

Question of the Week: “Am I Wrong for Wantin...

One anonymous writer tells me she doesn't want her baby daughter to ever date black men.... READ MORE

Question of the Week: Swirling and Racially Charge...

How do you and your honey handle discussions of racially-charged subject in which you find yourselves on opposite ends? ... READ MORE

Question of the Week: “Should I Approach A B...

A young college rainbeau asks me if he should approach a girl he's interested in while she's in her all-black social circle.... READ MORE

Help! This QOTW Has Me Stumped!!

Most of the dating questions I get on this blog are pretty easy for me to address, and for the most part, I'm confident that my advice is solid. But I... READ MORE

QOTW: “Help! I Have a SWIRLING Question!R...

She says it's a "Swirl" question, but it really isn't...... READ MORE

Question of the Week: “My Brother Says He Wi...

"Hi, I'm a 19 years old and I'm very interesting in swirling I have had interest in white guys before but never really made an attempt at dating them ... READ MORE

Question of the Week: “How Do I Avoid the Fr...

How brainwashed some of us are...... READ MORE

On Vetting: “How the Heck Do You Do That?!&#...

I got this letter a while back and I didn't answer right away because it's such an important question, and I just don't take this stuff lightly. ... READ MORE

Question of the Week: Rainbeau Needs Advice on Dat...

A 24-year-old rainbeau asks my advice on dating older black women...let the discussions begin!!... READ MORE