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As a Black Woman I Do Not Support Charles Ramsey!
This is my personal opinion and does not reflect the opinion of Beyond Black & White writers or the blog owner. You have probably all heard about Charles Ramsey, the Black man who saved three Hispanic women who had been kept captive by a Hispanic man for 10 years in Cleveland. You can catch [...]
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Do We Really Want “Our Stories” Told?
I was just thinking the other day about the way some Black people online complain that they want to see more of “our stories” being told in the media (yes this is a First World Problem sort of post). Well what do you mean “our stories”? Black people are not a monolith and we have many different stories. But I have an idea of what you mean, you want more stories like “Precious” instead of stories like Condoleeza’s or Claire Huxtable’s.
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Watch Out for First World Problems!
This post will really bother some of you so watch out! I feel that this needs to be said to show some balance and a different view. This post is related to a previous post on my blog and something I’ve been thinking for a while. The gist of that post was that I don’t [...]
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Showing Too Much Cleavage
I went on a great first date last week. It was great except that I wore an outfit that showed too much cleavage. It didn’t seem like too much when I left the house, but by the time I got to our meeting place, my top had migrated downwards and my bosom was bulging to the delight of my date.
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Hypergamy and Black Women Marrying Up
I think my blog, The New Elegant Black Woman, is all about hypergamy and becoming a high quality woman, because it feels great to be one and because it makes you attractive to high quality men. I think that a lot of Beyond Black & White and BWE articles are about hypergamy too. So what it hypergamy?
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We All Love You…But You Need a Media Intervention
Come on in and take a seat. All of your loved ones are here because we care about you and want the best for you. We love you! But you have a serious problem that is making you miserable and it’s making us miserable too. This is your media intervention. We noticed your problem started [...]
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Being Prejudiced and Hostile Hurts You The Most
Let’s see how this one goes over… Here is a definition of prejudice from an online dictionary: A (1) : preconceived judgment or opinion (2) : an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge. B : an instance of such judgment or opinion. C : an irrational attitude of hostility directed against an [...]
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DIY and Inexpensive Ways to Feminize Your Wardrobe
We all have unique fashion styles, preferences, and shopping habits. This post is for women who want easy and inexpensive ways to makeover their clothing items or outfits so that they are more feminine or interesting. Some will buy a plain t-shirt and wear it as is. Others won’t even buy that t-shirt or they [...]
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Black Women Who are Acceptable in Film and TV
Why are movie producers okay with pairing Naomie and Zoe again and again with White men (and an Asian in Ninja Assassin) in blockbuster mainstream films? It makes you wonder why these producers are willing to face the protests of racists by employing Black women in these roles. Do they think that the actresses are attractive enough that audiences won’t mind?
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Becoming Kerry Gabrielle Michelle
Some women have “it” and some just don’t. By “it” I mean the motivation, willpower, and means to become women who everyone admires, emulates, and reveres as “the best when compared to the rest”. These are the women who respectable, successful, and admiration-worthy people of all races hold up as examples of the type of woman or Black woman they wish all Black women could be. Let’s call her “Kerry Gabrielle Michelle”.
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Being Soft is Pretty Sweet :)
WARNING!!! This post is not meant for happily masculine women, happily androgynous women, or feminists, so for all of our sake please skip this post. This post is ONLY meant for women who are interested in becoming more old fashioned/classically/traditionally feminine . Please focus your comments on the topics presented in this post and keep it [...]
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My Sex Life is None of Your Business!!! Or is it?
What women do with their privates is no one else’s business and it doesn’t harm anyone as long as the sex is consensual and safe right? I disagree. I think some people are oblivious to the fact that there are sexual norms (it’s intro social psychology and sociology). Sometimes these people even propose that “anything sexual is normal as long as it’s consensual”. They don’t realize that they are establishing the new sexual norm of ‘anything goes and everything is okay’ and that there is something ‘abnormal’ about you if you think otherwise.
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What is Feminine?
Note: This post is meant for women who want to be more feminine in the old fashioned sense. It’s really not about being a male-identified woman or about arguing whether being feminine is right or wrong. Women are free to make the choice to be old fashioned feminine. This is somewhat of a tutorial of a specific type of femininity, not all forms of femininity. This is not meant to pressure you to be something else or dictate what you should wear or behave 
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Why Do Some Black Women Reject Self-Improvement?
I’ll warn you right now that this will sound harsh but I hope that you can hear the caring message I’m trying to send. I think Black women can do better and be better because we are much better than the world and many of us believe! We need to stop having low standards [...]
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