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Pencil Or Marker: Who Gets To Tell The Story of You….And Why…?
I have so much to say to the people that read this blog that it gets hard to know where to start. If I told you that I had been writing to you, the person reading my words right now, since the time I began to write, would you believe me?
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Blerds Gather Round: Come Hither The Nation’s First African American Newspaper
Y’all are working my pleasant attitude and so I do to you what I do to humans when I need to pretend that you aren’t here.
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Sometimes the Words Don’t Fit in My Mouth………Makes Me Wanna Holla
Sometimes the words don’t fit in my mouth, and so I throw them at people instead. But I’ve recently had to ask myself, ‘Why fucking bother….?”
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Like Bees to Honey: Be Charming…It’s Totally Easy and Well Worth it!!
Have you ever been in the company of a person that made you feel instantly at ease? The way you interact with them is almost like you are familiar with each other, even if you’ve never met, yet you leave the interaction with a feeling of genuine happiness and an upbeat attitude. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but its a pleasantness that certain people give off about themselves.
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Come Hither: Moving On After a Loss (A Very Final Conclusion)
I’m not crazy and it wasn’t a hopeful presumption on my part or a case of mistaken identity.
Puffy was running back up the block towards me; he grabbed me in a hug and twirled me in the air when we reached each other…
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Come Hither: Moving On After a Loss (Pt 1)
If you live long enough you’ll realize that finding a special love is no easy feat. When we come across that man or woman that makes our days brighter it never crosses our minds that the day would ever come when they are no longer there at our side.
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Come Hither: Dirty Old Man or Experienced Lover? Let’s Talk About it!!
I’m often the predator, but a young girl couldn’t walk around being plump and juicy without coming to learn about the dreaded neighborhood phenomena known as the DIRTY OLD MAN.
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Identifying Black Counterproductive Behavior: “Having Babies” Versus “Becoming Mothers”
If we look at the different phrases used to describe the act of bearing and raising children there is a telltale clue to the difference in the way in which Blacks view parenthood versus other groups.
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Mammy, The Mule and Equally Yoked: Black Women As Tools of the Trade
I used the term ‘equally yoked’ for no other reason then the fact that I can’t fucking stand the damn phrase. When I hear anyone say it, and I recall hearing both Black Christian males and females and a Muslim Black man utilize the metaphor it always strikes me as ironic.
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Mammy, The Mule and Equally Yoked: Black Women as Beasts of Burden
Celebrating the myth of the Strong Black Woman has mistakenly become an aspiration and an inspiration to those in certain demographics of the Black Community. When things are down and out and a black woman is tired, or fed the fuck up, someone, somewhere will remind her that this disgusting and frustrating existence is merely a test of her ability to survive when life is clearly giving her signals that she should make changes.
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TRJ Shrinks Yo’ Mind: Why Some Black Women Can’t Take a Compliment
Check out why Tracy Renee Jones thinks some black women get prickle when someone has something nice to say.
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What Black Men Say When Black Women Aren’t Around
What do men talk about when women aren’t around? Is the conversation different based on the races, ages and culture of the men? Tracy has the inside scoop…
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