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Move away from the bull’s-eye part 3: Taking a bullet for indoctrination’s sake
Picking up where I left off in part 2, I want to speak to why so many black women, no matter how intelligent, successful and yes, interracial relationship-minded, will take some unnecessary bullets and jump head-first into crosshairs. Fear is a major motivating factor, but inorder to understand the reason, you have to get at the root. That root is indoctrination.
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Keeping the Race Together or Keeping You Under Control?
Christelyn’s new book is on the threshold of release as I’m typing this. And with that news comes the necessary promotion and word spreading you expect while trying to get a product out there to consumers. There was a link to one such feature that had the predictable bit of grumbling and talking points. You know, the lie-filled scare tactics that never fail to come up when black women even think about expanding their dating options.
In any case, one particular sentiment stood out to me…
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Good call, ABC: Scandal gets renewed for a second season
The news I had been waiting for has finally arrived: ABC has officially decided to renew Scandal. Shonda Rhimes, producer and creator of Scandal announced the good news on her twitter account.
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What finally made me give HBO’s new show “Girls” a chance (and why you might want to give it a chance too)
It happened by accident. I was lying on the reclining chair, covered by a blanket, flicking through the channels on cable TV when I came across HBO’s new series ‘Girls’. Of course I had heard about the show–rave reviews here and there, praise for the shows creator Lena Dunham, and complaints that there were no non-white girls amongst the shows ‘girls.’
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Move away from the Bull’s-eye Part 2.5: Realizing you are NOT the target
(First and second parts are here) Before I move on to part three (indoctrination), I wanted to mention that sometimes I observe behaviors from people who don’t seem to realize that they aren’t being addressed in a certain situation: They seem to think they are being targeted when they are not. They participate in [...]
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You Majored in What?! Jamila Ponders Her Goal to Be a Perpetual Student.
Whenever I tell someone that I’m in school and soon to finish my degree, the very next question is “Oh, so what are you majoring in?” I’ve become accustomed to the question and the response that follows. “I’m a university studies major,” I say. “What? University Studies? What is that and what are you intending to do with that major?”
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Groundbreaking Columbia Study: Fear and Stereotypes keep Black Women out of Interracial Marriage
Black women in America are more likely to be unmarried than women of other races. They are also least likely to marry men outside of their race although a Pew Research Center report suggests that interracial marriage has more than doubled since 1980.
Released in February 2012, the report suggests that there are specific gender variations within some racial groups. Asian women are twice as likely to marry out as Asian men and Black males are more than twice as likely to marry out as their female counterparts.
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Would Barack Obama Have Become President If He Had Been Married to a White Woman?
This election cycle has been a bit juicy, for all the wrong reasons. Among other things, we learned that former Republican presidential hopeful Rick Santorum’s wife–Karen Santorum–shacked up with her abortion-providing boyfriend before she met Rick, fell in love with Jesus and then became a vocal pro-lifer. And now, in a new book titled ‘Barack Obama: The Story’ written by David Maraniss we get to hear about how Barack Obama was writing intellectual love letters to his white female college classmates in his pre-Michelle Obama days.
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What the Cuss?! Politician’s Wife ‘Scurred’ Gay Marriage will Obliterate the White Race!?
What’s this chick want gay people to do, force themselves to mate with each other so when the race war starts?!
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Is “Nerd” The New “Cool”?
I see nerds everywhere nowadays…and that’s a good thing! Being a “nerd” has officially become the new “cool”.
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Do You Have to Leap Small Buildings and Wear a Cape to Snag a Rainbeau?
It’s probably safe to say that Avant did pretty well for herself. This is a hunch, but I’m guessing nobody told her she needed to lower her standards and start trolling jailhouses when it was time for her to start looking for a hubster. The one she got is a high-acheiver and makes more than $2 million a year. What you see here, my friends, is a power couple. One in which I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have seen in the 80′s, or even the 90′s. This is a new, NEW Power Couple.
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Mitt Romney Thinks Poor People Should Act Like Rich People
Hey all you entrepreneurs out there who lack the collateral or a high enough credit rating to acquire a loan from a bank to start your business, Mitt Romney has some advice fom you: Get a loan from your parents. Oh, your parents are poor too you say? Oh well, I guess Mitt hadn’t considered that your being poor had anything to do with your parents being poor. Ooopsy-daisy!
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Best Frenemies: What’s the Deal With Toxic Friendships?
Once upon a time you had friends and you had enemies. Then somewhere along the line in the effort to get along with EVERYBODY, we got “frenemies”: a cute pop culture term for people that, to be blunt, you really have no business socializing with in the first place.
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Move away from the Bull’s-eye Part 2: Allowing fear to manipulate you into the crosshairs
A major issue is that when a group of African Americans try to other the undesirables that exist within our ethnic group, they get hit with the “Uncle Tom”/”Traitor to their race” label. The idea being that WE need to stick together NO MATTER WHAT (level of dysfunction must be allowed or tolerated) in order survive as a single race.
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BB&W Exclusive Video: Janice Littlejohn and Actress/Author Diane Farr Talk “Swirling”
Diane Farr sat down with Beyond Black & White at the “Los Angeles Times” book festival last week. Take a listen on what this actress has to say about swirling couples and their representations in Hollywood.
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