Thought I’d add a little variety to the QOTW and get my pal Matthew Hussey in on the action. Ladies, please be mindful of your drool–water and electronic devices don’t like each other, umkay?
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Matthew Hussey Answers the Question of the Week: “Why Do I Keep Attracting Married Men?”
Thought I’d add a little variety to the QOTW and get my pal Matthew Hussey in on the action. Ladies, please be mindful of your drool–water and electronic devices don’t like each other, umkay?
LadyLittlefoot
Is it wrong that I came to this post just to see and hear @matthewhussey
KimberleyBerry
The two of you are so adorable together. You should be his co-host in the new program. Loving your Daddy's cap :)
Ahot
Oh Matthew! *sigh* Goodlooking, intelligent, wise, how is he still single? Great advice by the way, i was wondering the same thing. Good to know what we can do better. I so wish he´d come to Germany! *sigh*
AmourelleCorley
I hate it when a guy shows interest and then nothing. What the heck. BTW when is he going to run away with me lol
thecrazyartist
I got hit on by an older married man, when I asked him if he was married he answered "yes, but I am in the process of filing for separation" which could really mean anything.
Black Women With Other Brothers
thecrazyartist YUP that's what they do. I'd say half of the men who hit on me are committed/married/"separated" =off limits. They do it on the low and they do it out and out. Gives me the impression that either their women are unaware that their man is a horny freak or many women have open relationships.
Jamila
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thecrazyartist "...which could really mean anything."
It mean's he's married and intends on staying married until further notice.
thecrazyartist
@Jamila exactly I took it as "Im married and plan on remaining married until I state otherwise, but I would really like to have you as a side piece"
Black Women With Other Brothers
Come on. Some chicks are straight Mate Poachers, period. They are turned on by committed/married men. If committed men approach you it's very simple- shut them down without drama. But those chicks love it.
Christelyn
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Black Women With Other Brothers I don't get the impression for the young ladies note that she's like that.
Black Women With Other Brothers
Christelyn I'm not referring to the lady in question I mean in general. I hear many women claim that only MM hit on them then I notice them flirting up a storm with MM. MM try with me, I cut them off quickly, no drama. I will say this to the wives...some of your hubbies are off the hook, LOL!
KingsDaughter
Black Women With Other Brothers True. I've seen that!
Black Women With Other Brothers
KingsDaughter See...this could be a two parter. I do note many wives of flirting husbands (in my neck of the woods) could be described as 'dowdy wives'...they dress like lumberjacks, lol. Many of them get very comfortable having that man and are too busy with work/home/kids or forgot what attracted him in the first place. So those men see some leg and ....
KingsDaughter
Black Women With Other Brothers I'd agree with you to a degree but... men with beautiful wives have cheated with not-so-attractive women. It's not all about looks.
Black Women With Other Brothers
KingsDaughter Thats right its often just plain ol' availability.
Brenda55
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Boy that guy in the picture slipping off that wedding ring (he's not really married BTW) sure has gorgeous hands.
Pearl Rose
Oh my goodness, I hope I don't attract married men. I would curse them out and mace them, that is just so disrespectful. .
Maxine
"When you're chill you're at your best." I'm not married, but this explains why I attract more men while I'm on vacation.
Seenyc
Yep, I so agree! When I was in Ireland in '07, I got a date the second day I was there!
Toni_M
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Um, yep. I am co-signing what he said. I wonder if the fact that the guys are married is what's making it stand out in her mind. Surely not every guy who is interested in her is married. Or maybe she can go to places where she's more likely to bump into single men. :)
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Ms. Kay
Soooo I have no idea what you two discussed. I just kept staringggggggggggg at Matthew. #drooling...
VintageNarcissa
I went through a phase in college where all of the guys I crushed on happen to already have girlfriends. A friend of mine, who was also my father figure told me that this was happening because I desired a stable man. I'm no home wrecker, so once I learned that they were in relationships, I tried my best to get over the crushes. It didn't happen right away, but I knew they were off limits.
When I met my boyfriend, he was actually pursuing another girl (that girl ended up rejecting him and they never dated, so... still not a home wrecker!). But when I was talking to him, trying to strike up conversation and make the situation we were in less awkward, I was more at ease, more bubbly and jovial. Because even though I did think he was attractive, I figured, he's not for me he's for this other girl, so I let my guard down. When things ended up not working out between him and the other girl, he admitted that he was attracted to me and was impressed with me from that very first night.
I've definitely found that now that I'm in a relationship, I get approached by more men when I was single. I don't have a wedding ring or engagement ring, but I get asked for my phone number and out on dates all the time now, when before I couldn't pay a guy to approach me. They would probably stare from afar or cat call, but rarely approach.
Mel_woman
@VintageNarcissa What types are of places are you in when you usually get approached all the time now? Are these by guys you would date if you were single? Are you giving them eye contact/smiling at them/talking to them first or are they just coming to ask you out without flirting?
Seenyc
You to remind me of Jenny from the tv how The Jeffersons and her white brother, Alan, but with the type of relationhip Donnie and Marie have. Good chemistry between you both. And Matthew just seems to get better looking each time he's here. He got any single brit friend? Hmmmm? Christelyn, you look devine! You are glowing. I meant to tell you that in the other post, but the Hussey = twat thing had me laughing too hard. LOL!
Maxine
Seenyc I noticed the glow too. What is she putting on her skin?! Maybe it's the presence of a hot Brit ;)
Seenyc
Maxine I want to know what's on her skin and I want a hot Brit! ::))
DeepWater
Seenyc Maxine Yes, chile, this Brit boy is hot, I could teach him a few thangs......bwaaahhhaaaa. Love Christelyns' skin, looks great. My skin's been good since I've been drinkin' a lot of water and juices. Less sodas and other sugary drinks and.......gasp........more exercise........bwaahhhaaa.
Christelyn
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Maxine Seenyc Hi guys, that's for all the compliments on my skin! Want to know what I use? Take a look at the right of the screen. Innovative Skin Care is the bizness--no lie. Also experimenting with another brand (not to replace but enhance, and I'll let you know how I like it in a week or so). And yes, I'm using the Dinair Airbrush System, but that just gives coverage. I have that "glow" even without the makeup thanks to Innovative Skin Care, a low carb, low sugar diet, an ungodly amount of water, vitamins and greens, and...exercise. ;-)
smit44
It may be due to the Dinair airbrush makeup - it tends to give a really smooth, soft, radiant look to skin.
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Ay, I cannot understand. The audio transcribes into captions that are not coherent and in line with everything that is said. Consider uploading a transcript file of everything you said onto youtube so that the video can be captioned.
Having said this...and without knowing what the video said, I DO think that married men who are seeking out affairs talk to women after women until they hit the jackpost. So its not that women attract married men, its that married men just like single men notice the attractive women and try to sell themselves until they reach a woman who buys what he's selling.
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