QOTW, undesirable, advice, perception, self esteem, messages, marriage, attraction, online dating, stereotypes,

QOTW: “How Do I Stop Believing I’m Und...

Hello! So, a brief description of myself. I am a young black woman, 21, in college and due to graduate soon. I have always known that I was more attra...
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black women, fashion, skin care, ageing, beauty, assets, value, opinion, self esteem, mixed marriage, dating, Iman, Voila Davis, Tina Turner, black don't crack, don't look your age,

Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Agel...

As I sit in a bar in the resort in Cancun with The Hubster, I glance around the scene. Non-black women young and old are gathering around. We just fin...
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Off to Cancun…

Hey ya’ll! Right about now I’m sitting at LAX airport about to board a six hour-ish flight to Cancun with The Hubster. One of the perks of...
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On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Inte...

The question: Hey guys I hope you guys can give me advice on this issue I’m having. I’ve been talking to this white guy I met online. He s...
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Jacque Reid, Tom Joyner, radio, personality, coaching, IRR dating,

Honest Question: What Do Folks Expect Quality Blac...

By now you’ve heard that I’m coaching adorable radio and television personality, Jacque Reid. We announced the endeavor, coordinated with ...
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dating, vetting, relationship advice, full disclosure, mystery, history, swirling, video, Youtube, reader question, dating white guys, questions, the past, sexual history, STDs, birth control,

On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past ...

He says he doesn’t want any secrets between you. He says your past doesn’t matter…but he still just wants to know. Everything. The a...
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entertainment, Netflix, movies, Chris Silber, film, interracial marriage,

Buy It! Stream It! “My Last Day Without You&...

Folks round these parts are familiar with the film, My Last Day Without You, written by my friend, Chris Silber (boyfriend of the fabulous Misee Harri...
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I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks...

I’m reeling because I just ended a relationship with a person whom I have respected for years, and whom I thought was an ally on behalf of No We...
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dating, potential, black women, single women, IRR dating, Swirling, dateless, quality women, non black men

It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Datel...

I am beyond disgusted at how quality, high-value black women are left withering on the vine. I just got this letter today: I’ve just stumbled up...
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Deion Sanders Acknowledges the Reality of “D...

We get a lot of criticism about our use of the term, “DBR,” a psychology/psychiatric term that was popularized by blogger, Evia Moore. It&...
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On Vetting: Dump Toxic People Who Prefer You to Su...

I ran across a news story about a woman who lost 150 pounds of extra weight who had to also end an engagement with a man who would rather see her morb...
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Is Pumpkin Pie for White People?

I managed to wrangle a few pumpkins out of my raised beds this year…but just barely. Pumpkin, melons, cucumbers and squash are susceptible to a ...
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Get X-Mas Money! Enter Our First BB&W “...

We’re on a mission to rebuild all the “Happy Couple” photos and stories we collected on our original Beyond Black & White fan pa...
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Neil’s Story: The Overseas Wedding that (Alm...

Hello Christelyn , this is my journey to swirling. My name is Neil and for as long as I can remember I’ve always liked black women , growing up in n...
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