BB&W Video Exclusive: Hal Sparks Talks Interracial Marriage on Television

 eugeniamitchell ditto!

 CherieMaria My kids love watching Lab Rats...me too since it's always on in my home!

 AndreaLewis YUP seriously! enough of that crap.

@Blackberry I was wondering if that was the same Hal Sparks who is on Talk Liberally all the time (love that show!).

 Brenda55 Liked that comment, too. No need to empathize or understand where they're coming from. They're just wrong. PS: Geez, your avatar is very distracting (in a good way!) 

 Lili2009 OOOO yeah girl is he hot or what.

 Deepwater Horizon What difference would it make if he were gay or not? Just wondering...

 Christelyn   Deepwater Horizon 

I think it has to do with perceived availability. Many women will quietly mutter 'What a waste...' when finding out that the nice man they were starting to get hot about is Gay.

Additionally, many women still think that any man who comes across as intelligent, gentle, urbane, knowledgeable and able to converse in polysyllables "must be" Gay. Been there, don't care; their loss, not mine. No quarter given, no second chances granted. "Wow, I thought your were Gay" = dead to me. 

 Law Wanxi  Christelyn   Deepwater Horizon 

& remember all Parisian guys are gay too. j/k (feels i can make this joke because dh is from there) I have heard this meme...not about him specifically but in general that whole "Is the guy gay or just French?"

 Law Wanxi  Christelyn   Deepwater Horizon 

Anyone crass enough to say " "Wow, I thought your were Gay" = dead to me." 

Needs to be dead to you.  Only an ass would say something like that..

 Brenda55  Christelyn   Deepwater Horizon 

It's another tool in sorting out the winners from the losers. I know I hold a minority opinion here, that dating is akin to an IRS Audit, specifically where they find you owe them money and not vice versa, or The Job Interview From Hell. Like most job interviewers, and I've been on both sides of the desk, I'm basically looking for the flaw that precludes hiring. The 'Gay Perception' thing is just another filter, just another quick trip out the door for the interviewee. Dinner's over at that point; I pay the check, tip the server and leave. No sense wasting either of our time. I have other things to do and she can resume her search for Mr. Perfect.

 Brenda55 I actually had a man who worked as a bouncer at a bar strike up a conversation with me. We were talking and I said that I had recently broken up with my boyfriend. He had the nerve to say, "Really? I thought you were gay. You're always here with a different girl." Uh dumb @$$, I have friends who happen to be women. I was kind of offended. Then he asked for my phone number. Get real dude.

 R. Kamaria 

I got that garbage thrown at me also because I was past a certain age, childless and still single and not dating. There were several members of my family that I walked down he aisle with a man. They were not surprised about the race because by then every one knew how I rolled.

 Brenda55  R. Kamaria Law Wanxi 

lolz. I've been approached/crushed-on/propositioned by female coworkers, acquaintances, & friends(and 2 married couples o.-)...I was thrown at first (wondered what kind of vibe i was putting out) but it was just funny after a while. I never felt upset about it. I was a bit bummed when one friend kind of faded away after I let her know I wasn't into her like that but maybe the awkwardness would've been too much.

 R. Kamaria  Brenda55 OMG...  I went to a club here and went with 5 of my closest female friends in fact stemming from childhood.  A man was approaching my friends and then each one of us after the other and then called us Gay B%*@##'s...  No body wanted his tacky behind....  I told him to get his grill fixed...  UGH...  

 Morenika  R. Kamaria  Brenda55  "...A man was approaching my friends and then each one of us after the other and then called us Gay B%*@##'s...  "

that's awful...and super-lame.. yeh, 'you're not into me so you must be gay/lez.' *rolls eyes*

 R. Kamaria  Brenda55 What a moron. Women always go to bars together. Safety in numbers. You'd think a bouncer would know that.

@Christelyn @Deepwater Horizon He'd be less appealing.

 KingsDaughter  Christelyn  Deepwater  I find lots of gay guys appealing ~ Nate Berkus , Clive Barker, Stephen Fry, Ricky Martin etc.

Cute is cute or smart is smart etc. *shrug* I don't have to think I have a shot w/ 'em sexually in order to find someone hot or brilliant.

 Christelyn  None.  Just a vibe, nothing more.

 Christelyn   Maybe Deepwater Horizon wondered because Hal Sparks played convincingly (because he's a good actor) a gay man on Queer as Folk for years. If that's all someone has seen him in, then that could be their assumption.

 maggie69  Christelyn  Exactly, that's where I saw him.  And yes, he is a good actor, so much so, that, sorry about my own prejudice, I thought the man was gay.  

@Deepwater Horizon Well he was the main character on Queer as Folk for five seasons .... So some people assumed every actor on the show was gay in real life......I guess they forgot about that whole "acting" thing.

 Blackberry  Deepwater That's where I saw him and you are absolutely right, it was "acting".

And btw I actually liked Hal Sparks since his days doing commentary on those VH1 shows. I have his stand up special on instant queue on Netflix lol.

 Dandelion100 

What a surprise...........SMH.

 AnInterestedObserver  Dandelion100 I think because she's a secondary character. But still...

 Dandelion100 Angel Prks plays his wife according to IMDb

 zipporah Well I can tell you my husband doesn't understand the colorism issue at all!

 The Working Home Keeper  zipporah  same thing over here. I was trying to explain to dh what was going in the coloring threads here and get an opinion on mens preference. He said something to the effect of "people like whatever they like... & what about the face, the body, the way they act..." zzzzzzzz. lolz. It was a short exchange. Somehow I don't see him weighing in on any roundtable discussions anytime soon. LOL He gets racism and colorism as systemic injustice but when it comes to choosing friends or dates we're on the same page that there's just so much more to consider.

 Elfe  zipporah My husband is pretty much the same way!  Skin tone doesn't determine the level of a woman's attractiveness for him.  He's definitely about the features and body size when it comes to physical appearances.  Must  be small with a pretty face! 

 Elfe The Working Home Keeper DH chimes in sometimes when I ask him various questions (you'd never catch him posting comments on any message board, lol... not his thing). He doesn't get the colorism thing though... he actually finds it ironic that the black community seems to hold "stricter" standards about what looks are supposedly considered attractive among black women.  Meanwhile, he's met plenty of my BW friends of all shades and wants to hook one of his single WM friends up with some... he said he didn't understand how conventional thought in the BC would characterized the darker women in the group as less attractive simply because they were dark.

 The Working Home Keeper I've explained ti to my husband so it's not so much that he doesn't understand it; he's just wondering why people still engage in it.  He is right.  It isn't logical.

 zipporah

 I would love more "men only" threads.