Love It! Couple I Interviewed for Loving Day 2014 Tied the Knot!!


I just love it when this happens, and it happens a lot. Last year, courtesy of online dating site,, I was able to attend the … [Read more...]

The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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As a former public relations executive, I can tell you without any doubt that the media sends us messages--messages that we expect, messages that … [Read more...]

Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns

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Oh, you kids are so, so spoiled. I feed you Man Candy each and every Monday, yet you scream for more various and different kinds. It's like your … [Read more...]

(Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and Interracial Dating.

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Writer: Hey my name is "Sue" I'm a black female live in St.Louis Mo I have had bad relationship with black men so I decided to date white men my last … [Read more...]

QOTW: White Guy, 51, Ready to Get His Swirl On…

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The question: Just wanted to say thank you for your advice on fyooz for non-black men on dating or even just letting a black woman know that I'm … [Read more...]

Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’


Some people wonder why this blog continues to talk about black men in reference to black women dating interracially. It would seem at the surface, … [Read more...]

“Im a Negro Bed Wench,” and Other Things I Learned Since Marrying My Husband


Written by The Peacock Bride I'm a sell out. I'm a Negro Bed Wench. I'm an Uncle Tom. Yup...How did I find this out? Like most things, I've found out … [Read more...]

“A Beautiful Burden” One Man’s Commentary on Managing Cultural Differences

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By "Zac Onbothsides"   Ok. We’ve established that there’s an attraction, we’ve even talked about the awkwardness of expressing it,  or … [Read more...]

That Awkward Moment When Numbskulls Assume Your Biracial Baby Isn’t Yours…

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Last night, my husband Sean was holding our 16-month-old daughter Maya as we were boarding a flight from BWI to MCO. As we stepped onto the plane, one … [Read more...]

Ladies, Do NOT Date Interracially if You’re Too Suspicious of White Men. Please. Just…Don’t. (Letter)

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A non-black man just sent me the email below regarding an exchange he had with a black woman on OKCupid that he found attractive. This woman is so … [Read more...]