QOTW: “Should a Woman Ever Play Down Her Accomplishments to Attract a Man?”

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I got this question from a pretty successful friend of mine, and it took me a while to answer because I wanted to make sure I wasn't coming from a … [Read more...]

Digital Daters, Keep Away from “I’m A God-Fearing Woman” Taglines!!

Got this letter from a young lady... First off, let me start by saying I love all your videos. It is lovely to just take some time out of my spare … [Read more...]

QOTW: “I Can’t Stand My Black Girlfriend’s ‘Hood’ Name!”


  My black girlfriend, who I both like and love, has one of those crazy made-up "hood" names (her descriptive phrase, not mine) that defies … [Read more...]

QOTW: Dealing with Racist Friends and Family Members…

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Got this note from a young girl the same week as they guy who wrote in with the skinhead brother. Time to address how to properly deal with … [Read more...]

QOTW Audience Feedback Edition: “How Can I Convince This Black Woman I’m Serious About Her?


  I got this letter a couple days ago but just got around to reading it. Take a look, dearies--this one is all you. I'm super busy with … [Read more...]

Question of the Week: “Am I Wrong for Wanting My Daughter Not to Date Black Men?”

Hi Chris, I have a question for moms of mixed daughters I was hoping you could share with bb&w. Do you in anyway steer your daughters toward a … [Read more...]

Question of the Week: Swirling and Racially Charged Subjects.


In light of the Trayvon Martin story and its aftermath a reader rena215 has made the following request: rena215 I would love to see an article … [Read more...]

Question of the Week: “Should I Approach A Black Girl In Front of Her Black Friends?”


Got this question from a young man from my You Tube Channel: question there is a black girl i like at college the only problem is she is always … [Read more...]

Help! This QOTW Has Me Stumped!!


Because of the sensitive nature of this writer's situation, I feel like I need to not be quick to offer platitudes about how "every foot has a shoe," … [Read more...]

QOTW: “Help! I Have a SWIRLING Question!” But…Is It, Really??


Matthew, a fellow Hokie of mine, told me to contact you about an interracial relationship question that I had. I am age 22, and graduated from … [Read more...]