How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
Although I’m a single woman who isn’t focused on getting dates at the moment–but that could change at any second, because really, who knows when The One ™ will come calling–I still love to read the dating stories of other women, especially black women.
First, of all, I will just begin by saying, brown women everywhere, please stand up. Janelle Monáe is in the building.
This post will really bother some of you so watch out! I feel that this needs to be said to show some balance and a different view. This post is related to a previous post on my blog and something I’ve been thinking for a while. The gist of that post was that I don’t [...]
I’ve been itching to share this news with all of you for months, but I’ve had to bite my tongue until we got close enough, because I was afraid evil dwarves from the Netherworld might sprinkle bad luck juice on the whole thing. Call me paranoid, but evil dwarves are REAL.
I think in order to better understand why black men as a topic come up in BW-centric and BWE spaces, you must understand why they do not come up.
Being aware of the tricks and attempts at manipulation sent your way is certainly a must, but this doesn’t require you get angry or fearful. Simply side-step these persons and keep walking. How emotionally invested you become in the efforts of black trolls is often an indicator of how far removed you actually are from these constructs. If they have the ability to tap into a high level of your emotion, you are NOT free. It’s as simple as that.
Toni continues the series…
They are running out of mammies and mule to carry their water. Boo fricking-hoo. More black women are realizing that it’s not our sole responsibility to worship, uplift, and carry water for black men out of some mythical historical duty. Let the “blacklash” begin.
I think my blog, The New Elegant Black Woman, is all about hypergamy and becoming a high quality woman, because it feels great to be one and because it makes you attractive to high quality men. I think that a lot of Beyond Black & White and BWE articles are about hypergamy too. So what it hypergamy?
Well the GAT-DL are at it again with their embracing of black boys as the precious and then throwing the responsibility to mammy and mule to young black girls and women. In a recent Huffington Post liberal pile of horse poop, an author named Ise Lyfe makes the argument that yes, school aged black boys are often ratchet, obsessed with expensive sneakers and speaking inappropriately about sex and seem to have absolutely no interest in their education, but…and get this, it’s NOT their fault. Worse, publicly disciplining them in front of black girls (even when they’re bad asses deserve it) diminishes them as men and future mates. It makes THE PRECIOUS look bad, and as such, puts the mythical black family at peril.
“I was in a 4 years relationship with a MARRIED man…I traded my self esteem for some shoes and good food? I can’t believe it and I will never forgive myself for being so stupid and I will forever regret it for the rest of my life. I cry everyday and I just wish I could turn back time.”
Now just about everytime news of some sort of program to and least TRY to tackle the single parenthood epidemic, or when yet the 50-11th report comes out to state the obvious that kids suffer from single parent households, here come the writers over yonder whining and crying because they feel attacked.
Come on in and take a seat. All of your loved ones are here because we care about you and want the best for you. We love you! But you have a serious problem that is making you miserable and it’s making us miserable too. This is your media intervention. We noticed your problem started [...]
Single mothers are raising losers, according to a new study.
I normally wouldn’t do this, but I think this post is a perfect piggy back to Brenda55′s post about what this blog ever discusses black men. Interesting that a sorry, loser, bottom-feeding internet troll and stalker of mine has recently started nicknaming me “nappy head.” I find this hilarious, because not only is this man utterly disgusting to look at, he is also black. With nappy hair. And these fools wonder why so many black women are throwing up deuces.