Self-Care is more than Masks and Manicures

Written by Nicole


Pandemic notwithstanding, 2020 seemed to be the year of “self-care”. As the world adjusted to lockdowns, shutdowns, and even businesses closing down, there was an uptick of people saying make sure to take care of yourself. Photos taken in baths adorned with flower petals, or with the latest blackhead removing mask concoction, or a rainbow of nail polish ready to be used, hashtagged with #selfcare, adorned social media feeds and Pinterest boards, and continue even now.


And while all those things are beneficial, relaxing, and fun, it also seems rather surface-level. With that in mind, here are 4 additional things you should add to your self-care regimen.


  • Lay off social media, news outlets, and screen time in general

    In this age of social media, it seems your #selfcare doesn’t count until an Instagram-worthy photo of it is posted for all to see. However, social media, and the news, and excessive screen-time in general can definitely wreck your self-care goals. So instead of idly refreshing your newsfeed for the nth time, leave your phone or laptop alone for a few hours and work on something else.

  • Get your finances in order

    While many are holding out hope for President Biden to forgive student loan debt, that is a very unwise tactic. Instead of waiting for an ideal, but unlikely outcome, you should instead work on clearing the balance yourself. Additionally, focus on not accruing any more debt so that you are not trapped by accumulating interest.

  • Seek therapy

    I’m not saying “seek therapy” like trolls in comment sections say it – to diminish your actual concerns or lived experience. I’m saying it as a means to unpack unspoken trauma you might have had, or simply have an experienced ear that can help you sort a few things out.

  • Start journaling

    When in doubt, write it down! Journaling can be such a cathartic exercise, letting your thoughts run through you as you put pen to paper. Treat yourself to a nice journal and pen specifically for this purpose, and get to writing, be it the highs or the lows.


I love a good charcoal face mask and a creative manicure as much as anybody. However, true self-care requires work, and many times, can’t, or shouldn’t, be shared for all to see. How do you practice self-care? Share your tips in the comments below!

Disclaimer: This blog was written by me, Nicole. My ideas are not necessarily reflective of Christelyn Karazin or other writers on this platform.

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