I got this note today from Kevin Pyne, a Facebook friend of mine who’s a white guy and mostly dates black women. I think you’ll find this very interesting. More and more non-black men are becoming intrigued with the prospect of dating black women, a group that they once thought was completely off-limits to them. Hear it from the horse’s mouth (The emphasis in bold is mine. Just want to make sure you don’t miss it):
I have dated ethnic women all my life and I’ve always been attracted to them, it’s not that I’m ashamed of me being white I have no desire to be black, Hispanic or Asian this just always been my preference. It also agitates me to know and when people make the very naïve and stupid comments like “well you just try to be black.” Really!? I am probably one the whitest man you’ll ever know, I’m also a conservative I don’t like call myself a Republican but I’m very fiscally conservative just imagine how well that goes over in this last election.
One of the things I find so interesting and at times funny is the fact that people often look at me when I’m out with my dates or so forth and they try to ignore the fact that I’m out with someone of other race it’s almost like being at a party and no one wants to mention the 800 pound gorilla in the room, You know it shouldn’t be a big deal but I catch all the time staring or the slipped remark but they were not able to catch. Believe it or not there are lots and lots and lots and lots of white men that want to date outside their race be Hispanic etc…. mostly black believe it or not but they corner me and thats when thousand and one questions start. I.e. what does she eat, what is she going to wear, does she like to hold hands, does she kiss, is there any special things I have to do to be able to take her out. Now if you knew me you can only imagine how much fun I can have with this. Sometimes I go a little overboard, but I do know when to pull up. The questions can range from that, to questions of sex. It literally amazes me how naïve and ignorant the races can be.
Here’s a perfect illustration. Here in Arkansas I went to the Razorback game. About half time I was with my date she got up and went to the bathroom. At the same time in the seats in front of us were two guys and just at about that time two girls walk by that happens to be black. They saw who I was with so to this day I’m wondering if they purposely were speaking a little louder than normal to get my attention. But to make a long story short the One guy said “wow she sure is hot” about one of the two girls. His friend said yeah and her friends smoking also. I could not help myself but just leaned forward and say why don’t you guys go talk talk to them. A few moments later my date came back and sat down gave her little kiss on the lips. One of the guys turned around finally asking but what if she doesn’t like white guys. I simply told him if she were to tell you that she doesn’t like white guys to say “great I don’t like white guys either, see we already have things in common.” About this time My date rolled her eyes began to laugh but hey it works for her, yeah the one I was with at the ball game originally told me she didn’t like white guys look who she was out with watching a ballgame!! Bottom line I told them finally that look there is no difference between them and a white girls that whatever cheesy ass pick up lines that worked will more than likely work for them the object is get them laughing and get them to start talking to you. Who knows they’re probably all happily married with a bunch swirling babies beautiful as ever. That is just some of the many true stories that I have.
Thanks for sharing, Kevin. Thoughts?