Dating & Marrying Ethnic Men

Jade and Tom: A New Perspective, Part 2

After I posted a picture of another couple on our social media, Jade and Tom reached out. I am so glad to have had the opportunity to speak with them. I hope you enjoy their article. I wish them much happiness with their relationship.

What is the best part about being together?

J: I like how genuine our connection is, we really make each other feel loved. 

T: I really just like being around her. 

What is your favourite shared memory?

T: Our favourite shared memory is our first Valentine’s Day together. 

J: Same here. I have never really liked Valentine’s Day, but he changed my mind about it.

What challenges have you faced?  

J: People undermining our relationship because of our age, the disapproving looks with obvious prejudiced undertones, having our motives for being together questioned.

How do you deal with difficult times?

T: We are each other’s comfort. 

J: Yeah, we come to each other a lot for support. 

How have you adjusted to life together?

T: I have not really done anything crazy. I play less League of Legends (a video game) and hangout with my friends less, but she is worth it.

J: I have become more patient. I like my home space to look a certain way and it takes time to have another person be able to get used to your routine and your space. 

What kind of boundaries protect your relationship?

J: We try to have open communication, and we give each other space when needed. 

How has your family reacted?

T: My family is totally fine. My parents adore Jade. 

J: For the most part, my family was supportive. However, I did have to have a few conversations with my family about their prejudices against Tom. 

How have your friends reacted?

T: They have been awesome. My circle really likes her. 

J: All of my friends love us together.

How are things now with friends and family? Are they supportive or are there any outstanding issues?

J: My family and friends are very supportive of us. 

T: Everyone in my circle is rooting for us, too. 

Is this a new dynamic for you?

J: No. I have always been open to love in all forms, this just happens to be the healthiest relationship that I have been in since I started dating. 

T: I guess so, she is really laid-back and easy to compromise with.

What are some of the expectations you had before your relationship?

J: I wanted someone who knew what he wanted out of life and out of a relationship with me.

T: I was looking for a rational girl that could be herself and would let me be myself. I also wanted someone I could actually talk to.

Looking back on some of those expectations, how have they changed now?

J: They didn’t. They just got fulfilled. 

T: Agreed. 

What are some of the things you do to keep your relationship growing?

T: We give ourselves our own time and spend time with our friends. 

J: Agreed

Is there anything else you would like to share?

J: Being in any relationship takes a mentally and emotionally sound person, but navigating differences in culture as a dynamic makes it even more necessary. Any prejudices or preconceived notions about your partner and their background need to be rethought or done away with completely. Know yourself and be willing to understand them. 

T: Outside opinions really don’t matter. As long as you and your partner are happy you’re doing something right. Be ready for an entirely new perspective from your partner.

Thank you so much for reading this interview! That is the end of this couple’s feature. If any of you are interested in participating in this series, please leave a comment below or connect with me or Christelyn Karazin. You can e-mail me for an interview at [email protected].

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