Why Is Everyone Mad At A “Non-Working” Black Woman?

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I find that there are few things that piss off black people more than a stay at home black mother. Not stay at home mother, but stay at home BLACK … [Read more...]

You Tried It: On Unsuitable Men Hiding Behind “Feminism”

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In my previous article on the whole "gold digger" meme, I said the following: It is really tiring to me when I see people throwing [the word gold … [Read more...]

Yolette and Dustin, Wedded Bliss

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I met Yvette Joseph Burger via Swirling and Marriage.  Yolette submitted some of her gorgeous wedding photos and now I am sharing with you.  I got a … [Read more...]

Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy Who Wants to Go Dutch on the First Date

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So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog's goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software engineer … [Read more...]

The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Privilege, Rejection and Fetishism

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Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here.  From the Guardian: The … [Read more...]

Need A Boyfriend For Valentine’s Day? Rent One!

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Are you tired of being the only manless woman in your circle of friends? Does your family constantly ask you if you're seeing anyone? If you've got … [Read more...]

Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Place

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If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them … [Read more...]

QOTW: “I Have Five Kids. Is It Too Late for Me to Swirl?”

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I get this question quite a bit, and I have to be very delicate how I answer. But it's time to address it. Hi Christelyn,  I'm a single black woman … [Read more...]

Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over your fear of the black man’s penis.

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I recently ran across a post from a "Pick Up Artist" site  by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was interesting … [Read more...]

It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo

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Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America's Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a … [Read more...]

QOTW: “Am I Wrong If I Choose to Never Date a Black Man Again?”

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I just got this note from a fan of the blog and fan page: I have a question for you Christelyn as well as the other group members who are doing the … [Read more...]