Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy Who Wants to Go Dutch on the First Date

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So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog's goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software engineer … [Read more...]

The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Privilege, Rejection and Fetishism

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Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here.  From the Guardian: The … [Read more...]

Need A Boyfriend For Valentine’s Day? Rent One!

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Are you tired of being the only manless woman in your circle of friends? Does your family constantly ask you if you're seeing anyone? If you've got … [Read more...]

Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Place

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If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them … [Read more...]

QOTW: “I Have Five Kids. Is It Too Late for Me to Swirl?”

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I get this question quite a bit, and I have to be very delicate how I answer. But it's time to address it. Hi Christelyn,  I'm a single black woman … [Read more...]

Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over your fear of the black man’s penis.

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I recently ran across a post from a "Pick Up Artist" site  by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was interesting … [Read more...]

It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo

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Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America's Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a … [Read more...]

QOTW: “Am I Wrong If I Choose to Never Date a Black Man Again?”

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I just got this note from a fan of the blog and fan page: I have a question for you Christelyn as well as the other group members who are doing the … [Read more...]

Monica: “I Thank God For My Husband”

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Monica L. In light of a recent post, I wanted to share a refreshing story of Monica L.  This beautiful, scholarly sister would not let negative … [Read more...]

Do You Know the Difference Between “A” Husband and “The” Husband?

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By "Nissa" When I was in college, I was part of a women’s circle that met once a week to discuss school, God, & men.  Whenever one of us had … [Read more...]

A Sister Reacts to Accusation of Race Betrayal

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I was given permission by L. B. Kelle to share a recent experience she had.  Now I know the loyal readers of BBW would have some choice words to say … [Read more...]