How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
Most of the dating questions I get on this blog are pretty easy for me to address, and for the most part, I’m confident that my advice is solid. But I got a question last week that reminded me of my vow of humility. I’ve always stated that saying, “You don’t know” doesn’t make you less credible, it just shows you’re more honest and have a general aversion to shelling out bullshit so people will think you’re the Moses of whatever cause or plight that comes.
She says it’s a “Swirl” question, but it really isn’t…
“Hi, I’m a 19 years old and I’m very interesting in swirling I have had interest in white guys before but never really made an attempt at dating them because I figured they don’t date black girls, but right now I have a predicament I really like this guy I think he likes me but some of the black boys tell me that he is just trying to be nice that white guys don’t like black girls, and my brother knows I like this guy and he told me if I date a white guy he is going to disown me I just don’t know what to do. Thank you for listening.”
How brainwashed some of us are…
A 24-year-old rainbeau asks my advice on dating older black women…let the discussions begin!!
“I was in a 4 years relationship with a MARRIED man…I traded my self esteem for some shoes and good food? I can’t believe it and I will never forgive myself for being so stupid and I will forever regret it for the rest of my life. I cry everyday and I just wish I could turn back time.”
She’s between a rock and a hard place…
Got this note, and it really struck a nerve with me…
“I’m scared myself. My girlfriend is scared for me as well, as she’s dated outside of her race before and has been tempered to the stares that an interracial relationship tends to garner, along with the insults, etc.”
She is law school, and is seeing many of her white schoolmates dating, mating and beyond. But there’s only slim pickings for her.
This 32 year-old doctor is ready to expand her dating options, but there’s a few snags she needs us to work out…
This shy girl is steeling herself to approach the rainbeau she’s had her eye on. I tell her to hold the brakes. Here’s why.
Take a listen to what me and celebrity relationships expert, Dr. Gilda Carle, have to say about this.
A reader wrote in with a question that left me scratching my head, so I brought in the heavy artillery!
Can you advocate for your people if you date interracially?
Her family is putting on the pressure, and it’s not helping that she’s not getting attention with the men she desires.
I got this note from someone who reached out to me on Facebook. Here goes…
She’s getting harassed at school and at the mall. What recourse does she have?