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The Best Explanation for Why [Some] Black Men Troll Black Women’s Blogs.
They are running out of mammies and mule to carry their water. Boo fricking-hoo. More black women are realizing that it’s not our sole responsibility to worship, uplift, and carry water for black men out of some mythical historical duty. Let the “blacklash” begin.
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Question of the Week: “How Do I Get Over My Married Boyfriend?”
“I was in a 4 years relationship with a MARRIED man…I traded my self esteem for some shoes and good food? I can’t believe it and I will never forgive myself for being so stupid and I will forever regret it for the rest of my life. I cry everyday and I just wish I could turn back time.”
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Triple Consciousness and the Black Woman
It is a strange lot to be a black woman in American society. She was brought to this country to be an unpaid worker, a concubine and a broodmare. Her body and her sexuality has been reviled and experimented on but from the various brilliant shades of brown black people come in, is curiously loved.
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Is Your Boss a “Bitch?” Eight Types to Avoid Like Herpes.
It’s humpday. Are you contemplating calling in sick because your boss is a bitch? Then you DEFINITELY want to read this.
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Cheer up! Black women have much to celebrate because the times, they are ‘a changin’
Another day, another study on black women and interracial dating that sounds a little depressing. BUT these studies should not be taken as the received truth, the last word on black women and interracial dating.
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Commentary on the Crooked Room: Mammy, Oh Mammy, Wherefore Art Thou Mammy?
In the “crooked room,” we’ve met the Jezebel. Now, let’s meet her polar opposite: the Mammy.
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The Superwoman Complex: Deepak Chopra Breaks Down the Dangers of a Stressful Lifestyle
Innate social messaging systems tell Black women that they have to overcome, challenge, beat, and win every single thing they do. And, the Superwoman Complex is a leading indicator of stressful lifestyles for Black women. Do you cope with this or mask it?
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Commentary on the Crooked Room: Melissa Harris-Perry Reveals the Jezebel in All Her Glory
You’ve heard about the “crooked room,” now meet the characters posted on the walls. First up, the Jezebel.
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Commentary on the Crooked Room: Melissa Harris-Perry Shines a Light On How Perception Affects Black Women
Ever heard of the theory of the “crooked room?” If you haven’t, maybe you have heard of Plato’s Allegory of the Cave. Look around, are the images you see tilted? They are for most Black women…
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Three Days Till Thanksgiving. Are You Ready to Meet His Parents?
It can be the most stressful event swirling couples go through. After it happens, some won’t make it. Some will question everything. And some will come out stronger than ever. Which outcome will you and your rainbeau have?
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The Holidays Are Upon Us. Do You Know How to be a Gracious Hostess or Guest?
The holiday season is again upon us and during this season many of us will either be hosting a fabulous party or two or the guest of one. Whether you are the guest or the host/hostess, being gracious is the key to having a good time and enjoying the festivities. Regardless on what side of the table you stand consider the following suggestions for smooth flowing festivities.
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Black Women vs. Black Women: Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?
Vivica A. Fox versus Crystal Wright on BET’s Don’t Sleep once again depicts Black women in constant competition with one another. Political debate aside, both women made fools of themselves.
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Black Femininity: Who Decides What?
I maintain that black femininity is under attack. The question is asked, “Well, what is black femininity?” The answer as far as I’m concerned is femininity in a woman who is black. But of course that’s far too simplistic an answer for such a complex issue….or is it?
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Commentary on the Crooked Room: You Mad Sapphire? You Mad…the Angry Black Woman Trope
Ever had someone declare your anger? Without your input? Well, that’s because you’re an angry black woman, a Sapphire to be exact. Melissa Harris-Perry uncovers this stereotype as the third and perhaps most dubious image in the crooked room.
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