I received this question from a woman today, clearly torn about recent events, and unsure if she should continue her interracial relationship.
I am in the “beginnings” of dating a white Swedish American guy. After the Ferguson decision, I was heartbroken and I expressed that to him. I asked him tonight to tell me his thoughts on the Ferguson matter which I hate to say Ferguson matter cuz it affects us all over. Anyhow, he stated that Mike Brown was a bully who robbed a store and went further to cite Pharrell Williams who made a comment on that was not seen positively by many blacks including myself. Anyhow, after he expressed his thoughts briefly, it hit my gut. I felt the wind taken out of me. Is this what he believes? I can’t possibly think of him as a future partner …in all facets of life …when he actually thinks this. I was silent and he noticed it immediately and he asked my thoughts and he kept nicely asking my thoughts. I eventually surrendered and mentioned that if I have children, I just have to make sure to teach them about the realities of life cuz we live in parallel universes. He didn’t quite understand and again asked me to elaborate. I simply could not. I just felt it was too much and I was still basically trying to process what he said and his way of thinking. Again he kept asking. Eventually the conversation quietly ended. I’m trying to process on how to ‘process’ this. Sounds odd. Do I speak with him? Do I “educate”?…again…do I ignore? Do i continue to date him? can i handle the possibility that he may never understand my experiences and thoughts and how it affects my view of the world and how i live life…etc.
This inspired a guide of sorts on how to navigate such emotional waters. Some of it is here…
I think that when events like Ferguson happen, both races need to ACKNOWLEDGE CERTAIN TRUTHS. I think much of the frustration comes from each party so INVESTED in their own emotions that neither wants to acknowledge these truths.
Now black women involved with non-black men, you need to ACKNOWLEDGE certain truths as well. CONTINUED ON THE FORUM HERE.
*Because of the sensitive nature of these events, we are keeping the comments here closed. There are haters who wish to use what happened in Ferguson as a reason black women shouldn’t be dating interracially. It is our attempt at troll population control.*