Written By Saran Lawson
Do you suspect that you’re someone’s secret? You’re tucked away in a proverbial closet that you didn’t agree to be in. This explains your attendance to today’s TED talk. There are several reasons you could be peeking through a cracked closet door. I found myself in that situation once. Trust me, I didn’t even know I was in a closet. I thought he was just creative. Sis, I was so left I made a circle. That’s how wrong I was. So here is a playlist of reasons you are concealed away.
He’s already taken. This is the most obvious reason you’re in the dark. Storytime! I was talking to this guy from my past a few years ago. He is attractive and super charming. Smooth Men are the ones you have to watch the most. These are the guys your mom would refer to as a smooth talker or having a silver tongue. He can charm you, so to speak, into seeing what you want to see. This guy was like that. He gave me enough reasons for his behavior ahead of time. I didn’t even think to question anything. It wasn’t until one day my intuition said, Check his Instagram. I ignored that niggling feeling in the back of my mind for about 3 days. When I gave in, I checked his tagged pictures. Long story short I found a baby registry to the happy couple. Haven’t talked to him since. Learn from this! ( In my Tara Banks voice)
If you watch this video, it’s pretty much self-explanatory. This could be a matter of someone not being out of the closet themselves. If this person is uncomfortable discussing their sexuality to loved ones; you’re also more than likely a secret. If this is the case, then it is up to you to figure out if the relationship is worth sticking out. I know a few couples where it ended up working out. I’m not sure if this is more the exception or the rule, but if you see the potential then hopefully this is temporary.
You two are the same religion. The backlash from a devout family when you bring home someone with different beliefs is real. I know friends and even family who have had this experience. A Catholic friend didn’t know if he wanted to continue his relationship because his girlfriend was Methodist. I know people whos family all but disowned them. If they are hiding you because your religions differ, then you need to discuss an end goal. How long will they persist? Is this relationship going anywhere? In some instances, it is common to keep their relationship under wraps until your more serious. If this is the case you should just keep the communication open. At some point, you need to know where you two see the relationship going in the long run.
Sound off in the comments if you had to keep a relationship secret. What was the reason? Did it work out? Let us know below.