If you thought you were going to get something fresh today, you thought right, but I didn’t write this one for you, exactly. It’s from my weekly column in Madame Noire.
I still love you though.
By now most black women have heard that we outnumber our male counterparts by a whopping two million. Since polygamy and man-sharing isnâ€™t desirable to most, opening up your dating options to include an international pool suddenly turns your love life into an ocean of possibilities.
Take Brooklyn native, Ieishah Clelland, who packed up her big apples and went to Barcelona, Spain and Belgrade, Serbia and quickly came to discover her deep brown skin and curvy figure were a hot commodity. Apparently, chaps in certain parts of Europe, the Balkans and the Netherlands are climbing over the blue-eyed blonds and checking for the melanin-rich sisters.
â€œSo much about this depends on your attitude,â€ says Clelland, who runs a blog, Brooklyn. Barcelona. Belgrade that chronicles her experiences abroad. According to her, issues of slavery, Jim Crow, and the â€œmammy/whoreâ€ stereotype generally donâ€™t come into play, so that makes the baggage a bit lighter, so to speak. â€œThey view us as just Americans,â€ (as opposed to hyphenated ones).
Clelland also says the ride has been less bumpy for her close friendâ€“an African American manâ€“who has been globetrotting with an expired passport. â€œCan you imagine? A black man canâ€™t even drive a car in the U.S. without a license!â€ She goes on to say that her pal feels â€œfreer and more creativeâ€ outside these United States.
Hmmmmâ€¦he feels freer outside the â€˜land of the free?â€˜ Scratching my head on the irony of that one.
I and my writing partner, Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn are still deep in research on this stuff, but a quick impression from our interviews so far points the arrow on: the Netherlands (think Holland).
My fellow LMU college alum packed up for Holland last winter, and although sheâ€™s a California girl through and through, but sheâ€™s toughing out those bitter winters and sheâ€™s not coming back to the States any time soon. She tells me that blond and blue eyes are so bologna sandwich. Her Nordic boyfriend treats her like fillet mignon.
Germany: Apparently itâ€™s one of the most welcoming places to date and mate internationally.
The Balkans: Now thatâ€™s a new one for me, but Clelland is getting pretty hot and heavy with a Serb and it looks like sheâ€™ll be packing and waving adios to Spain in the near future.